rchstvns0 Posted November 8, 2011 Share Posted November 8, 2011 ill try to keep this as short as possible! we are both 26.we were together for the past 3 years (5 if you count casual sexual encounters) and have known each other for the last 9 years. we were usually good but would fight and break up for mabye 1-3 weeks maybe twice a year. on the night before halloween we were getting intimate and i commented on the smell of her..... she went in the shower and came out and dumped me! for the last week i kept calling her (i know nc nc nc) and she'd answer for the first few days and say "were broken up" then 2 days ago she wouldnt answer my calls all day and i went and banged on her bedroom window at 1 am. no answer allthough she was home. then the next day i kept calling and got a text saying "if you ever come to my house uninvited again especially at night ill call your mom.your scaring me,we need to move on. i felt like a * * * * and texted saying i would give her space and it was best for both of us. i got no response back. so ive gone nc for 2 days now and she keeps popping up in my mind. in the last year she bought a condo and is progressing in her career and ive been building my landscape business. she would get mad and say things like "how could you support us if i was hurt/preg and that she'd have to wait for the things she wanted in life if she was with me etc.. im now contomplating a career change and am gonna go through with it because i know i have to grow up. i knew i wanted to spend the rest of my life and have a family with her and the thought of it not happening is tearing me up. i also have started working out and am trying to do these things she wanted for me while we were together. question is am i wasting my time or am i holding on to hope when i shouldnt or i dunno. we all know the pain and we all know anything helps right now. thanks Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ms Darcy Posted November 8, 2011 Share Posted November 8, 2011 You can and will move on. This relationship was doomed when you two got in the habit of breaking up and making up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Teaday Posted November 8, 2011 Share Posted November 8, 2011 I agree. Once you start thinking that it's normal to break-up and make-up routinely, your relationship just lost all of its integrity. Regaining that integrity is nearly impossible. How do you trust the stability of a relationship that is built on such shifty foundation? It's only been a week. Allow yourself to truly believe it's over and then you will move on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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