Should I ask her out or she is just playin me?????

[Massari]

I am not sure if you guys(ladies and Gents) have been following my situation .. I have got many reate responses .. well tonight was another insident .. here is a background about me and this girl..

I am not sure if you were following my posts... well if not here is a brief summary.. I met thi girl about 4 times and everytime there is s different impression .. the first part which was hosted by jer wa sthe best by far.. that was the first party that I met her and she was pulling my hand constantly to the dance floor. the second party which was at another friends house .....well I didn't see that much attention from her maybe this time I was making more eye contact, and I really liked to get her attention.. the third time it was in dowtown Toronto with pretty much the same group of people. when ever I was looking at her she looked away!!! I made a joke about her and she really enjoyed that... and refer to it again later on in the evening ( i am trying to discribe it at the best of my ability) anyhow .. today was the forth time that I met her at a smaller party and I think that I am falling for her.. so I asked for her email address and she gave it to me...

after that we talked once on MSN .. short talks.

 

came back to the current situation.. tonight we through a little party about 10 people in our house... she also came. (dead gorgeous) we played some dance music. we were all having a lot of fun.. suddenly she noticed my guitar that was laying nea the sterero. She was very interested in that. I played her a few songs that I knew and she started singing the lyrics along singing along ..which I absolutely loved.( man this was like a dream come true for me.. I had always pictured this but never actually happened) th esongs that that ere wre singing and playing were very romantic.. it was really interesting cause after five minutes I noticed that the rest of thr group were talking to each other. and we two were sitting together playing the guitar and singing... I am so confused maybe a little paranoid( I think this all means something) sometimes I just wish that I had never met her to feel like that about her. I don't know if she has a B/F.. non the less I didn't see her with any guy. I want to tell her that I like her but i think maybe it's better that I take things slowly.. after tonight I was thinking maybe it's not going that bad after all. we both have strong interest in music and dancing. PLEASE HELP ME>> what do you think she thinks of me.. (any feeling there) and what should I do.. !!!

 

thank you fo rreading this long post .. I ususally don't write long posts but this one I had .. otherwise I am gonna cry out and awaken my parents!!!

[The1]

once again.....ask her out on a date. dont fear rejection....otherwise you might end up regretting it later. read this:

 

As I sat there in English class, I stared at the girl next to me. She was my so called “best friend”. I stared at her long, silky hair, and wished she was mine. But she didn’t notice me like that, and I knew it. After class, she walked up to me and asked me for the notes she had missed the day before and handed them to her. She said “thanks” and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I wanted to tell her, I want her to know that I don’t want to be just friends, I love her but I’m just too shy, and I don’t know why.

 

 

 

11th grade

 

 

 

The phone rang. On the other end, it was her. She was in tears, mumbling on and on about how her love had broke her heart. She asked me to come over because she didn’t want to be alone, so I did. As I sat next to her on the sofa, I stared at her soft eyes, wishing she was mine. After 2 hours, one Drew Barrymore movie, and threee bags of chips, she decided to go to sleep. She looked at me, said “thanks” and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don’t want to be just friends, I love her but I’m just too shy, and I don’t know why.

 

 

 

Senior year

 

 

 

The day before prom she walked to my locker. “My date is sick” she said: he’s not going to go well, I didn’t have a date, and in 7th grade, we made a promise that if neither of us had dates, we would go together as “best friends”. So we did. Prom night, after everything was over, I was standing at her front door step. I stared at her as she smiled at me and stared at me with her “sparkling eyes”. I want her to be mine, but she doesn’t think of me like that, and I know it. Then she said, “I had the best time, thanks!” and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don’t want to be just friends, I love her but I’m just to shy, and I don’t know why.

 

 

 

Graduation Day

 

 

 

A day passed, then a week, then a month. Before I could blink, it was graduation day. I watched as her perfect body floated like an angel up on stage to get her diploma. I wanted her to be mine, but she didn’t noticed me like that, and I knew it. Before everyone went home, she came to me in her smock and hat, and cried as I hugged her. Then she lifted her head from my shoulder and said, “you’re my best friend, thanks” and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don’t want to be just friends, I love her but I’m just to shy, and I don’t know why.

 

 

 

A few years later

 

 

 

Now I sit in the pews of the church. That girl is getting married now. I watched her say ”I do” and drove off her new life, married to another man. I wanted her to be mine, but she didn’t see me like that, and I knew it. But before she drove away, she came to me and said, “you came!” She said “thanks” and kissed me on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don’t want to be just friends, I love her but I’m just to shy, and I don’t know why.

 

 

 

Funeral

 

 

 

Years passed, I looked down at the coffin of a girl who used to be my “best friend”. At the service, they read a diary entry she had wrote in her high school years. This is what it read: I stare at him wishing he was mine, but he doesn’t notice me like that, and I know it. I want to tell him, I want him to know that I don’t want to be just friends, I love him but I’m just too shy, and I..I wish I did too….I thought to myself, and I cried………

[Massari]

thank you so much for this.. it's very moving I am gonna do it.. but just one question.. ? how do you think it sounds like if I ask her out through E-mail?? ( I find email to me a very useful tool for shy people including me!!)

[Santa]

Email is a very cowardly way of asking someone out.

She will probably think you are a coward, and that you wouldn't be able to talk easily with her in the relationship. Also she might not know if your telling the truth, or having a joke or whatever, so may not reply etc.

However, if she really really really likes you it wont matter how you ask her out.

My advice would be to do it in person.

[Massari]

Thank you Santa.. yeah I think so too .. plus I am still not sure if she is in a relationship or not.. I think I should find that out and then just ask her out in person,..

[ShroudedSorrow24]

thats a sad story makes me feel depressed b/c im like that.....

 

 

but to answer your question, totally ask her out in person. Dont do email, or phone, or instant messenger, its just not as "real". And she'll like to see that you have the guts. Take a couple deep breaths before you do it so your voice isn't all shaky