Frankie18 Posted September 5, 2004 Share Posted September 5, 2004 ok this is my first post but here it goes... im a sophomore at my high school and i just recently met this senior guy in one of my classes... and the other day he came over and we talked for a while and he told me that he liked me... and we ended up kissing... but hes had a lot of questions about sex and how far i have gone (im a virgin), and last night he called just to ask if ive ever had an orgasm... but my question is, do you think he really likes me or does he just wanna get in my pants? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
georgie77889 Posted September 5, 2004 Share Posted September 5, 2004 If you've just met him and he's already asking you personal sexual questions, then I don't think he wants a serious relationship... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
prevch Posted September 5, 2004 Share Posted September 5, 2004 stay away!!! This guy cares about what's in between your legs and not what's in between your ears. Do't get hurt. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
the_tiger_striped_cat Posted September 5, 2004 Share Posted September 5, 2004 I am almost sympathetic because his hormones are raging. But I never did that at that age. I agree. Stay away. Find a nicer guy, you don't want someone like him to be your first anyways. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scout Posted September 5, 2004 Share Posted September 5, 2004 He definitely is only interested in sex. Please don't let this be the guy who gets to take your virginity. He's not worth it, and trust me, you will feel awful down the road if you choose this jerk to be your first. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frankie18 Posted September 5, 2004 Author Share Posted September 5, 2004 but he also was talking a lot about relationships and why he likes me and all... and i told him i didn't intend on going past first base with a guy anytime soon and he said that was cool... i just dont know... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scout Posted September 5, 2004 Share Posted September 5, 2004 Honestly, I don't understand why you "don't know" what this guy's motivations are. It's been a long time since I was a teen-ager, and maybe times have changed, but I seem to recall that any guy that actually liked me as a person, had manners, and respect for the opposite sex, definitely did not call me to ask about orgasms, talk about my virginity, and other personal subjects. Now, if you have any self-respect, you will tell this guy that his approach has totally creeped you out, and he needs to move on to someone a little more desperate! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
San123 Posted September 6, 2004 Share Posted September 6, 2004 definantly stay away! I know its probably cool that he's a senior and likes you but it's not worth it. And he says thats cool now but he will try to get you to do stuff, some guys want to see how far they can get you to go. It's really messed up that you two are not even dating and he's asking you all of that personal stuff! (especially calling you up just to ask if you have ever had an orgasm!) He obviously has intentions behind that question! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Andy Scott Posted September 6, 2004 Share Posted September 6, 2004 Aren't guys just the worst?! (I'm one) At this age, when we're teenagers and completing an education to prepare for college and our careers, somehow our hormones take a bigger priority. I apologize in advance for any guy now, or in the future who may mask his motives to be sensual when underneath it all, they are really sexual. I think that you know deep down, that this senior's motives are more for 'getting in your pants' than anything else right now. The best thing you can do, in my opinion, is just slowly drift away from him. If he gets worse and continues to ask you questions like that, you need to push him away. That's disrespectful whether if it happened 10 years ago in high school, or present day. The difference is that girls now accept it rather than slam it back in the guys' faces (which is what you need to do). Move on, and you'll find someone who will fall in love with your imagination, and not your orgasm....ation? Always listen to your heart. Andy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scout Posted September 6, 2004 Share Posted September 6, 2004 If he gets worse and continues to ask you questions like that, you need to push him away. That's disrespectful whether if it happened 10 years ago in high school, or present day. The difference is that girls now accept it rather than slam it back in the guys' faces (which is what you need to do). Yes!! Andy, my hat is off to you for telling it straight from a guy's point of view. I often wonder why girls today let guys say such incredibly disrespectful things to them. It is absolutely unacceptable for some guy to call a girl simply to ask her if she's ever had an orgasm. I mean, that sounds like an obscene phone call! Girls, get some self-respect and don't tolerate treatment like that! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Andy Scott Posted September 7, 2004 Share Posted September 7, 2004 Hehe. I figured that hearing it from a guy would give you a great head start on the mind of a teenage boy. If you've got any other questions about what we think, make sure to let me know. I know that I've learned from my mistakes and faulters in relationships, but I can never take back the hurt I have dealt. I punish myself to this day for it, but luckily I have a beautiful and caring girl whom I shared some of those mistakes with, brush past them and show me the true meaning of Love. She is my all and everything. Just on a side note, Love can be found at a young age... Andy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frankie18 Posted September 7, 2004 Author Share Posted September 7, 2004 ok thanks guys you were right... i can definitely tell now that he was trying to use me... now how can i make him to get the hint and back off? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scout Posted September 8, 2004 Share Posted September 8, 2004 Ah, this is the fun part: tell him quite simply that you find him offensive, and the total opposite of what you like in guys. And to leave you alone. And mean it!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Andy Scott Posted September 8, 2004 Share Posted September 8, 2004 I agree with Scout, but I have the feeling that she might have a little comfort issue with saying something like that. No offense of course, but I think there might be an easier way to end it. I talked to a few 'girl' friends of mine, and they suggested something else. Instead of saying something, try not responding to his flirting, ignore, or avoid him. That should give him a good hint without using any words. If you told him to stop, that might hurt his feelings? I'm sure you think he's a nice guy and all, so that might be one option if you want him to walk away unhurt for the most part. Good Luck! Andy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scout Posted September 8, 2004 Share Posted September 8, 2004 I don't see how that would hurt his feelings. Instead, it might be a much needed wake up call for him to see that the way he has behaved is totally inappropriate. Basically, this guy has acted like a pervert. I don't think he's a "nice guy" at all. His feelings should be the least of her concern. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Andy Scott Posted September 9, 2004 Share Posted September 9, 2004 Good Point Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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