XpandTheMind Posted April 13, 2011 Share Posted April 13, 2011 My girl of only three months has been acting way suspicious for quite some time now. She has a bunch of male friends and still hangs out with and even sleeps over at her ex's house. Now, usually I'd flip and dump the woman, but she says it's not like that, and when I confront her about it, she cries and says I'm attacking her and accusing her of things. She also comes to me with problems she has with her male friends flipping out on her because they want to get with her but she doesn't. I know it sounds open and shut, but I need any advice possible. Thanks in advance. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
guynextdoor Posted April 13, 2011 Share Posted April 13, 2011 Why is sleeping over at her ex's house? What evidence do you have that she is cheating? Nothing you can do about her having male friends but if her male friends wants to get with her she needs to back off from the friendship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catfeeder Posted April 13, 2011 Share Posted April 13, 2011 In case you haven't noticed, she likes to think of herself as being good at this. Look, what's the point in anything hitting the fan? Apparently, she gets off on that. I'd just hit the road, instead. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HeartGoesOn Posted April 13, 2011 Share Posted April 13, 2011 Now, usually I'd flip and dump the woman, but she says it's not like that, and when I confront her about it, she cries and says I'm attacking her and accusing her of things. You're falling for this, and it seems to be working for her. Not to sound harsh, but why should she change her ways, while you're willing to settle for crumbs? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Happens4aReason Posted April 13, 2011 Share Posted April 13, 2011 Whatever others might say, sleeping at an ex's house (I assume that they are the only two people in the house) is not justifiable when she has a new boyfriend (YOU).. Either evaluate the circumstances which makes her sleep at her ex's house and try to understand her numerous male friendships or talk to her about your issues and tell her how uncomfortable you feel with all these.. She needs to understand whats going on in your mind as well, in order for this to work.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Staple Posted April 13, 2011 Share Posted April 13, 2011 lol just treat her the way everyone else does if you want, but do not turn this into a relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Koglin Posted April 13, 2011 Share Posted April 13, 2011 I'm confused. Why is she maintaining close relationships with male friends who try to get with her and in turn yell at her for not allowing her to be taken advantage of while in a relationship? These kind of people should not be her friends even if she was single let alone in a relationship. Tell her to either stop seeing this crowd or you. Her pick. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Iceman26 Posted April 13, 2011 Share Posted April 13, 2011 Sounds like it has only been a short amount of time and who really needs the headache of being with someone that's ok with sleeping over at an ex's house. I vote dump her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
metrogirl Posted April 13, 2011 Share Posted April 13, 2011 Agree with the others. They are ex's for a reason and should stay that way. For the record, I have never had the desire to sleep at an ex's house, that just seems really bizarre and dishonest to me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
XpandTheMind Posted April 15, 2011 Author Share Posted April 15, 2011 Heres the thing. Im beginning to think that she really is that oblivious to what she does. I mean, she doesn't have too many friends and she is kind of her own person. The things she does definitely seem like somethings going on, but Im one of those people that don't want to accuse you of something your not doing. She comes off as very genuine with me, so either this girl is just completely ditzy on what she does, or she's a pretty good lier. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sidehop Posted April 15, 2011 Share Posted April 15, 2011 I don't know anyone in their right mind that would let his/her significant others sleep over at their ex's. You really need to see how disrespectful that is. There's no good ending to this story. You're giving way too much freedom and allowing her to act the way she wants. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
leo75 Posted April 15, 2011 Share Posted April 15, 2011 Agree with the others. They are ex's for a reason and should stay that way. For the record, I have never had the desire to sleep at an ex's house, that just seems really bizarre and dishonest to me. the thought of doing that makes me just ill.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Huntress0527 Posted April 15, 2011 Share Posted April 15, 2011 If my fiance did this he might not want to come home the next night, lol, but seriously this isn't acceptable behavior whatsoever. There should be no situation where she feels forced to stay at an ex's house, there is always someone to call to go get her. I definitely think you are giving her too much free reign. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Calvin68 Posted April 15, 2011 Share Posted April 15, 2011 If you think she is not screwing around with her ex, you are being foolish. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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