r0ckox Posted February 17, 2011 Share Posted February 17, 2011 This is the 2nd time in a week. She called me last monday, I called her back - no pick up or call back. The following day I texted her, no response. Saw her on AIM -- had a few minute conversation but that was it. She calls me yesterday at 4pm. I call back a couple hours later... no pick up, no call back. Texted her twice asking if she was okay, today, no answer. I know she knows I called back, and texted her, as she's been online -- but why bother calling me if you dont plan on talking to me? NC was going well, until this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
22n32 Posted February 17, 2011 Share Posted February 17, 2011 prob curios if u pick up or would call back, she is testing u.. ignore her calls if she plays this games.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
r0ckox Posted February 17, 2011 Author Share Posted February 17, 2011 its just so stupid.. it makes no sense, why the hell test me? whats that going to accomplish? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
22n32 Posted February 17, 2011 Share Posted February 17, 2011 if ur still stuck on her, she wants to see if she still has u.. its an ego boost for her.. next time dont pu or call back. then she will know u dont care anymore ur moved on.. if its important or an emergency she will leave a vm Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
r0ckox Posted February 17, 2011 Author Share Posted February 17, 2011 so by me calling her back, i'm still stuck on her? we werent even dating... i mean not recently? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
22n32 Posted February 17, 2011 Share Posted February 17, 2011 not stuck, but if u still care.. its mind games. just ignore it.. i know its stupid and frustrating Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dramallama Posted February 17, 2011 Share Posted February 17, 2011 If it's important enough, she will leave you a message or send you a text. By jumping to call her back to see what is so urgently wrong, (which if it was so important... why didn't she leave a message?) you are saying that you will use any oportunity to contact her. She doesn't even have to leave a message before you'll use it as an excuse to contact her. Ignore ALL contact she makes. If you put up boundaries and ask her to contact you ONLY if she would like to get back in a relationship, then ignore all contact from then on INCLUDING deleting her from facebook if you haven't already, that is a sign of confidence which is attractive to either gender. You are acting weak right now. She knows she's got you wrapped around her little finger, and that is desperate and weak behaviour which is unattractive to women. If you want to ruin any chance of getting back together, go right ahead doing what you're doing. But if you want to reconcile or move on, then read the threads in my signature. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
r0ckox Posted February 17, 2011 Author Share Posted February 17, 2011 I didn't jump and call her back, I waited like 8 hours, and then waited until midway the next day to text her. I dont even want to get back together. I've told her countless times the friendship is over. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hulk7280 Posted February 17, 2011 Share Posted February 17, 2011 I didn't jump and call her back, I waited like 8 hours, and then waited until midway the next day to text her. I dont even want to get back together. I've told her countless times the friendship is over. then why bother returning her calls? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
r0ckox Posted February 18, 2011 Author Share Posted February 18, 2011 Unfortunately, I have to be real p*ssed at someone to ignore them. Just because I'm hurt, doesn't mean I'm mad. It's a weakness. And yes, I've said the friendship was over several times, but she always came back wanting to fix it. Did a decent job too, but once she got comfortable, it was right back to the same old thing again. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mustachio Posted February 18, 2011 Share Posted February 18, 2011 So the question becomes, how long is it going to take until you are tired of the cycle of getting used before you do something about it? You dont have to be real pissed to change things, and if you really think you do, it sounds like she has given you all the ammunition you need to be pissed off at her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
r0ckox Posted February 18, 2011 Author Share Posted February 18, 2011 Indeed. Something must be done. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rosarioT Posted February 18, 2011 Share Posted February 18, 2011 My ex does the same thing, but I never call back, so he keeps on calling... and only if I feel there is something we need to talk about, then i answer his call, otherwise, I know he will call again and again and again... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sadchick83 Posted February 19, 2011 Share Posted February 19, 2011 Sometimes I think it is just better to pick up the phone when it rings. How long you wait, or not wait, or call back in 30 seconds or a day can be analyzed. Turn your phone on loud and just pick up the next time she calls. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BriarRose Posted February 19, 2011 Share Posted February 19, 2011 I only know when they have completely moved on, you no longer hear from them. So I think there is still something she is feeling - maybe not what you want, or not what you feel, but it's something. Ex's who no longer have feelings for you don't continue to call. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DaveTrump Posted February 19, 2011 Share Posted February 19, 2011 Ugh...she is playing games to check you're not moving on...women like this go nuts when they find out you're seeing someone new. Like, how could he do that to meee??!! Make sure you find a better looking one too. That'll really choke her. In the meantime; Delete all contact info relating to her and ignore ALL calls, texts, AIM. etc. Get on with your healing and your new life. You know it makes sense. Best wishes, DT Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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