scotty2422 Posted January 29, 2011 Author Share Posted January 29, 2011 Again, hard to argue with your logic I suppose that's been the toughest part of it all; asking, talking, etc., which just ultimately leads to rampant insecurity and imagining the absolute worst. Because even though deep down the potential "truth" scares me, I'm intelligent enough to realize she's madly in love with me and can't wait to be my wife and something as stupid as a giant penis won't get between us. (Although I haven't seen her drawings yet. Maybe it literally could get between us?) harhar Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
friendsoulmate Posted January 29, 2011 Share Posted January 29, 2011 Maybe because I'm terrified of her admitting this guy's size HAS excited her, which would be pretty normal I suppose, even though I know she'd never do anything to hurt me. I find this issue to be very interesting to me. It is such a taboo subject for a woman to talk about how suddenly seeing her man's or any man's penis makes her sexually aroused. I have asked a simlar question at this forum before. I think it was, if a woman saw a book about sex positions, or looked at a Playgirl magazine with well-endowed men, would her heart beat faster, become aroused, and walk away with a tingling, engorged clitoris and a wet vagina? Some women replied by saying they would become aroused at the sudden sight of "their man's erect penis", some women replied they could be suddenly aroused by "any man's erect penis", some women replied a sudden sight of a man's erect penis did not make them sexually aroused. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scotty2422 Posted January 31, 2011 Author Share Posted January 31, 2011 I think something I've come to realize while dealing with this is I had come to an assumption that once we started dating and became more and more serious my (irrational) penis insecurities had finally become a "thing of the past." Maybe that's a big reason this has blindsided me so much. God, it's not her fault. She didn't ask for this idiot to model for the class. Whatever her feelings are about his generous "asset" should be irrelevant; whether a mere "thrill" or even a full-blown "crush" on something purely physical. But that's where my stupid insecurities have come in and messed with my head. I'm having a hard time finding a way to bring this into a conversation and I'm becoming more and more convinced she's avoiding the topic as well. I only think that because I know she's aware something is bothering me and I can't believe she doesn't have even a hint of what it is. My quiet avoidance pretty much coincided with the news of this giant penis. I'm worried now that the only conclusion is going to be anger instead of a conversation. And that's not fair to her. And a terrible flip-side to this is her drawing a conclusion that my seeming "down" lately is based on something I'm hiding, or avoiding. Dang. I need to end this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stay_home Posted January 31, 2011 Share Posted January 31, 2011 I'm a police officer and every now and then I get women that try to hit on me. One day, while I was in Starbucks a woman serving me had unbuttoned a button (exposing some of her cleavage) and after I paid for everything she walked into the back of the office and yelled, "Ooooh, arrest me, officer! Arrest me!" Loud enough so that I could hear and some of the other employees. I wouldn't exactly go home and tell my wife about the shape of her breasts, the fact that her nipples were erect through her shirt and so therefore, it made me uncomfortable (they were so big) so I figured I'd come home and tell you about it!??? It's just not one of those conversations for the dinner table... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scotty2422 Posted January 31, 2011 Author Share Posted January 31, 2011 Fair POV, coin. The thing is...she DID mention it a day later with no prompting from me. She started with, "I probably shouldn't tell you this...," and then very blunty said this guy has a "giant" penis. Again, I KNOW she did nothing wrong, but the unexpected aspect of this rattled me. She didn't show me her drawing and then jokingly point out his junk, she told me a day later and left me to imagine. Then the morning after her second class I tried to casually and jokingly bring it up by asking if she drew her "porn star" again last night, and she said yeah but then didn't really say anything more, just shook her head and made some sort of "I don't like it" face. Then the last 10 minutes before she left for work were in silence. I understand this has gotten way out of hand now and I/we have handled it completely wrong. It's slowly becoming a wedge between us (99.9% my fault) and the ONLY solution is to actually talk about it, no matter how embarrassed I feel about that prospect. The truth shall make you free, right? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Applewhite Posted January 31, 2011 Share Posted January 31, 2011 I hate these penis discussions in general - but I just wanted to put this out there: I decided to end a relationship with a great guy (very attractive, smart, romantic, successful etc) just because he had a very large penis. It was just too big. Big is not always better. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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