cocopuffs239 Posted January 5, 2011 Share Posted January 5, 2011 what do you think this means, i know i know her more than anyone else but my ex that left me for someone said to me" i hope you have a nice life" im right now in NC stage with some LC, i know from expirence that when i say something like that i usually still either like the person or am mad and im trying to use reverse psychology to get them to talk, so my question is, from this line "i hope you have a nice life" what do you think it means if shes an ex? now i know it might mean that she is over me, i for one know her more than anyone and i think it doesnt mean that, i want a psychological point of view about this, not if she is or isnt over me, more about what she ment by that and is it reverse psychology? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sidehop Posted January 5, 2011 Share Posted January 5, 2011 Saying a goodbye for good. I'd keep NC and move on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CatsMeeoow Posted January 5, 2011 Share Posted January 5, 2011 I have to agree with sidehop - it means she's moving on and wishes you no ill will. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SinfullySweet Posted January 5, 2011 Share Posted January 5, 2011 When I say, "have a nice life" it means I am completely done with the friendship or relationship. When it comes from an ex it means, "have a great life, but I don't want to be part of it." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cocopuffs239 Posted January 5, 2011 Author Share Posted January 5, 2011 thats what i thought to, but you guys really dont know her as well as i do, i am moving on and im not as hurt by what happened anymore and i dont get back with her then w/e but why would she say that when she was mad out of her mind with me, and is now finally saying that?she might be over me but it even hasnt being a month since we broke up, and if she is over me then be it. i just wanted a psychological point of view, i already know whats behind it, but i want an explination. i know she might not be over me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SinfullySweet Posted January 5, 2011 Share Posted January 5, 2011 Since you know her better than we do, I don't think any of us can give you an answer. However, I have never used it or heard it used in anyway except as to express moving on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Destiny2112 Posted January 5, 2011 Share Posted January 5, 2011 Unfortunately, I have to agree with the others. My ex left me for someone else, too, and although I still love him with all my heart, I know, he chose someone else over me. And although I wished with all my heart that things would have turned out differently for us, I know, he is gone and I don't want to wait around for him to maybe return to me one day... chances are very very small anyways, I guess... A few weeks ago, I felt the urge to send him a final goodbye letter (I have posted my letter in another thread), which I luckily didn't send after all, anyways, as my last sentence I wanted to "wish him a happy life" and my intention by saying that, was, to say goodbye for good, to wish him all the best and to let him know that I don't want him in my life anymore - no more contact or friendship, neither now nor in the future- since he hurt me too much... I'm sorry... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lavenderdove Posted January 5, 2011 Share Posted January 5, 2011 The usual meaning of 'have a nice life' is 'have a nice life without me in it...' in other words, she doesn't want you in her life anymore. It's usually what they say when they have no intention of having any contact ever again... i'm sorry... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iBroken Posted January 5, 2011 Share Posted January 5, 2011 It means shes moving on and giving you the deuces. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ForumGuy Posted January 5, 2011 Share Posted January 5, 2011 "ex that left me for someone" speaks for itself. You looking for a reverse psychology explanations could be "you in denial". Look at her actions. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TidalWave Posted January 5, 2011 Share Posted January 5, 2011 I don't side with others that easily and I just think it's more often meant in sarcastic way, as in she's not over you and is pissed so she uses a cliche saying that should appear in a specific way and is designed to provoke a specific reaction from your side. I just don't believe people say this when they are over... for when people are over someone, they have no need to contact him and tell him something like that at all. And when they say something like this (from their own initiative not as a reaction to your initiative) they are falsely trying to persuade themselves that they are over, while deep inside they are not. It's like they would be walking on the right side of pavement and started to shout and scream that they are in fact walking on the left side... they'll scream so long till they believe it. Well you are over her as you said, so you can break nc now and return the punch. And also test if you're 'really' over her. ;-) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Karma20 Posted January 5, 2011 Share Posted January 5, 2011 I agree Tidalwave. However, since she said it to you then give what she asked for. Go have a nice life without her in it. Cut contact and let her go be with her new bf. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cocopuffs239 Posted January 5, 2011 Author Share Posted January 5, 2011 well i am over her as of now, but i do get momments where i fear that i will never get her back, that being said i do like her still, but that being said lol i know i handle not talking to her for as long as i need to, i do very little lc and pretty much NC, im trying to work on my self i walk 6 miles a day do over 100 push ups a day i want her to be like damn look at him now when she next see me, but i do find it strange that she said this, which makes me feel she might still like me and gives me hope, i just hope its not false hope. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Karma20 Posted January 5, 2011 Share Posted January 5, 2011 well i am over her as of now, but i do get momments where i fear that i will never get her back, that being said i do like her still, but that being said lol i know i handle not talking to her for as long as i need to, i do very little lc and pretty much NC, im trying to work on my self i walk 6 miles a day do over 100 push ups a day i want her to be like damn look at him now when she next see me, but i do find it strange that she said this, which makes me feel she might still like me and gives me hope, i just hope its not false hope. You say you're over her but that her saying this might gives you hope. You say you're over her but you fear you might not get her back. Sorry but you are not over her at all. If you were, then you wouldn't care about these things nor would you care why she said that. Just my opinion. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cocopuffs239 Posted January 5, 2011 Author Share Posted January 5, 2011 id'll like to but i know i still want her back, even though i am over her, i still have those moments where i want her back, but i do believe im over her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cocopuffs239 Posted January 5, 2011 Author Share Posted January 5, 2011 i agree with you im over her but im not, i dont care if she dates anyone, BUT i do have days where im weak, but i manage to pull it off and not give in thats why i say im over her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ForumGuy Posted January 5, 2011 Share Posted January 5, 2011 to provoke a specific reaction from your side.....for when people are over someone, they have no need to contact him and tell him something like that at all.....Yes, this is one possibility. They may also say it out of respect, or as a polite way to get the person to leave them alone. "Have a nice life" doesn't mean "I secretly want you" unless they start reaching out for you soon after they say it. Then it would become the manipulative tactic in which you are implying. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iBroken Posted January 5, 2011 Share Posted January 5, 2011 id'll like to but i know i still want her back, even though i am over her, i still have those moments where i want her back, but i do believe im over her. You are truly over someone when you dont analyze their words or want them back. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cocopuffs239 Posted January 5, 2011 Author Share Posted January 5, 2011 Yes, this is one possibility. They may also say it out of respect, or as a polite way to get the person to leave them alone. "Have a nice life" doesn't mean "I secretly want you" unless they start reaching out for you soon after they say it. Then it would become the manipulative tactic in which you are implying. well the thing is iv being trying to do NC but she is the one who contacts me thats why i do LC but very lil of it, even though she mostly contacts me for her stuff or debit card stuff or money related things, she is still contacting me. so im going to wait for a week to respond to her last messages she sent me, if she initiates contact by then then i know she might still have feelings if she doesnt, then it maybe she is either moving on or is doing NC with me, then i will message her back eventually 1-2 weeks to keep LC going. but i dont know why she would say that if she really has moved on, since i know her, i know its not really intended as a final goodbye. i think. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ForumGuy Posted January 5, 2011 Share Posted January 5, 2011 Well, if she is telling you to "have a nice life" and is still contacting you, then yes, she may be playing games with you. If it is strictly about business though, don't get your hopes up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bish0p2004 Posted January 5, 2011 Share Posted January 5, 2011 I believe that it is not a final goodbye either as I've had two ex's say this to me, but we still had contact after a while. The thing is though, not only was I the first one to contact them after a few weeks later, but I also really didn't care as much for them. With my last ex, this didn't work after a while because I started to care for her more than she cared for me. If you truly put your ex on the backburner, then the chances of them chasing you again increases. But, since you are here trying to analyze your situation, it will not work for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cocopuffs239 Posted January 5, 2011 Author Share Posted January 5, 2011 Well, if she is telling you to "have a nice life" and is still contacting you, then yes, she may be playing games with you. If it is strictly about business though, don't get your hopes up. yea i know but i feel like she is doing that to be able to talk to me,even though its business i feel like she wants there to be business last time i talked to her she said i owed her money and to take her debit card off of this account and then after that i said k and done and then right after she said thank you, i hope you have a nice life, i feel like shes playing with me, but then again it might really just be business idk i wont get my hopes up but ill see what happens later Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cocopuffs239 Posted January 5, 2011 Author Share Posted January 5, 2011 i think im doing a great job in getting her back, while i might not, it doesnt and wont hurt me as much as i thought it wouldve a week ago, if she comes back great if she doesnt then w/e. but he saying this has to be more good than bad ill keep it simple with her and just keep going and see if its a win or a lose either way idc. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Glowguy Posted January 5, 2011 Share Posted January 5, 2011 I think more often than not it is a passive aggressive response to being ignored. If she has a passive aggressive personality than I seriously doubt she means it literally. Regardless, It's a crap response and I would continue NC. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cocopuffs239 Posted January 5, 2011 Author Share Posted January 5, 2011 i am going to continue NC with some very LC if she contacts me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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