AndrewJ Posted January 1, 2011 Share Posted January 1, 2011 I've been out with this girl twice now, I knew her from about 5 years ago where we were quite good friends. By chance we got talking again on IM and kinda hit it off again. We met up on Thursday and had a good day, I enjoyed myself and she did too. I dropped her off at her house the following day and we had a cup of tea and a chat and ended up kissing. Now the dilemma, since kissing I really don't think there is a spark there. However I really care about her and don't want to hurt her, she has been through a lot recently and me stringing her along waiting to see if I start feeling something would be wrong. This is the first person I've kissed properly since splitting up with my gf of 5 years about 6 months ago. The kiss is what has really got me thinking, it just didn't feel right. I don't know if this is her or me not being fully over my ex gf. Or maybe combination of both. My question is basically do I go out on a few more dates and see if I feel any differently or just say id prefer to be friends. Should I do this in person, she lives about an hour away from me, so don't want to waste her time/money. Also what's the best way to approach it to stay friends? Should I just be honest with her and tell her all this? Thanks in advance! Link to comment
The_Seeker Posted January 1, 2011 Share Posted January 1, 2011 Lol she gave in easy and you're done. Next time tell her to give you a challenge if that's what you want. I say you're not over your ex but you got to move on. Lol that's what I'm doing. Link to comment
ponyboy Posted January 1, 2011 Share Posted January 1, 2011 I wouldnt consider a kiss giving in easy. I think you just dont feel a spark. No matter what you do her feelings will probably be hurt temporarily, i say the sooner you communicate how you feel the better. Link to comment
AndrewJ Posted January 1, 2011 Author Share Posted January 1, 2011 I've done it, didn't go down well. I feel like crap and now really worried about her. Life sucks! Link to comment
AndrewJ Posted January 1, 2011 Author Share Posted January 1, 2011 Little update, she came back thanked me for being honest and we are friends. I still feel like crap though, but looks like did the right thing. Thanks for advice. Link to comment
IsThisIt Posted January 2, 2011 Share Posted January 2, 2011 If you feel no spark, you are just wasting her time if you ask her out again. If you don't want to hurt her, don't waste her time. Link to comment
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