blueberrypie Posted December 7, 2010 Share Posted December 7, 2010 My heart keeps telling me that he is going to come back. My brain is shouting to my heart to let it go... I feel so helpless to know that there is "absolutely nothing" I can do to change the situation, when I would do "anything" to change the situation... I just watched 500 days of summer. I am so afraid that my ex will think this way later... Summer: I woke up one morning and I just knew. Tom: Knew what? Summer: What I was never sure of with you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CSLX9 Posted December 7, 2010 Share Posted December 7, 2010 If it's any consolation, at least the situation will change at some point. For better or worse, it always does. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blueberrypie Posted December 7, 2010 Author Share Posted December 7, 2010 Thank you CSLX9. I like your signature. I was actually thinking about it today. If I really love this person, shouldn't I wish him to be happy even if it means that he needs to be without me? I hope that I will get to that point. Hopefully, with me.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CSLX9 Posted December 7, 2010 Share Posted December 7, 2010 No problem, glad you like it. Thought it would be super if there was put a definition on love. And indeed, you're right. It's why there's that saying that if you love someone you let them go and if they come back, they're yours to keep. I'd hope you end up with him, but on one condition, that you are both happy. Eitherway, rest assured, things move on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crazyaboutdogs Posted December 7, 2010 Share Posted December 7, 2010 The good thing about letting the brain rule the heart is that one day you just won't care anymore if he comes back or not. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The_Seeker Posted December 7, 2010 Share Posted December 7, 2010 My heart keeps telling me that he is going to come back. My brain is shouting to my heart to let it go... I feel so helpless to know that there is "absolutely nothing" I can do to change the situation, when I would do "anything" to change the situation... I just watched 500 days of summer. I am so afraid that my ex will think this way later... Summer: I woke up one morning and I just knew. Tom: Knew what? Summer: What I was never sure of with you. im going to need to watch that movie thanks for the recommendation Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Diggitydave Posted December 7, 2010 Share Posted December 7, 2010 My heart is foolish and only wants what it wants despite the long term damage. It's that classic internal battle inside u. Whichever one u feed more wins. Or simply starve one. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lia86 Posted December 7, 2010 Share Posted December 7, 2010 Yep... in my experience there's no way of stopping this ongoing battle. Mine is still going strong at 3.5 months, although it is looking like someday the brain is going to eventually win. The heart is one heck of a fighter, though, and the brain has had some seriously weak moments where if it wasn't nourished with self-love and self-respect everyday, it would've given in. If you stay NC and they don't come back, the head eventually wins. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mines Posted December 7, 2010 Share Posted December 7, 2010 I feel you dear.... I want him back, I don't care, I would ask no questions. Basically, I'm an idiot. 500 Days of Summer. huh. yeah. I saw that. I also saw Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind. If my ex wants to feel like 500 days, fine. Frankly, at this point i would choose Eternal Sunshine. God help me, if I could forget him. I'm strong, I'm a warrior, but, I'm so stupid. I'm not smart enough to say no to him. However, he will never return, so it's a moot point. Blueberry....I wish you the best dear....(hug) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TannedHide Posted December 7, 2010 Share Posted December 7, 2010 All the best everyone. It's funny. I'm such a logical person, yet I can't stop my heart from feeling this way too. I told her all about it this weekend, mainly because I feel horrible because I know I'm lying to the both of us if I continue our budding friendship when my heart will not let go. It feels like being stuck between a rock and a hard place. All my heart want is to talk to her. I feel horrible now because I think she genuinely wants me to be a part of her life, but not the way I want. So selfish of me I know, but she doesn't need me anymore, especially when I'm like this. It won't be the friendship she thinks it will be because my heart will win if we continue down this path. If my head wins though (through this period of NC I'm determined to fulfill) I worry I'll lose my best friend forever. Love stinks sometimes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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