OptomisticGirl Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 You mean of the two of you? Has Alex said what goals must be met before he is ready to propose? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sherryberrypie Posted May 4, 2011 Author Share Posted May 4, 2011 He's just quiet about it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sherryberrypie Posted May 4, 2011 Author Share Posted May 4, 2011 I feel like buying myself a right hand ring. I miss my old one a lot and this one link removed is a cheap version of my dream ring I think once I've got my car paid off I may just reward myself with this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
metrogirl Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 I think it is something in the air Sherry because you and I seem to feel this way in waves don't we? I know I was feeling kind down several weeks ago and then I thought ok, it's not a big deal I'm his girlfriend and he loves me and isn't going anywhere. Then he got sick and was in the hospital and everyone telling him what a great wife I was until I corrected them and said I was just his girfriend, then the feelings of wanting to get married hit me again. GAH.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sherryberrypie Posted May 4, 2011 Author Share Posted May 4, 2011 It's getting really hard hearing him be called my husband because it's not true. It's in the air because every other person is getting engaged and this is the one taboo subject between us. I hate it! I hate that he feels that he HAS to buy me a ring to be engaged. Stupid traditions. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sherryberrypie Posted May 4, 2011 Author Share Posted May 4, 2011 I just don't understand. Am I not good enough? Why do I have to watch others get together years after we have already been dating... and get married and start families... I hate feeling this way and I wish he understood how much he is hurting me. I'm having a bad night. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OptomisticGirl Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 ***hugs**** I can understand to a point. Yeah we are getting married but due to our relationship and the whole not starting work off right away - or at least, moving over without having a job lined up - we are having to put off starting a family for about a year and a half after I get a job, not that I move over, but I get a job. And yes, I made that stipulation and while it's a mature stipulation, I still can't help but sometimes feel down that everyone around me is getting pregnant and I'm not, that although we want it we have to wait for it. A girl at work tonight told me she was pregnant and I just felt this instant black cloud of misery. I was nice, congratulated her, asked all the questions... but on the inside I was crying. And then there are times were it doesn't bother me. Someone announces a pregnancy and I could care less. We all have bad nights, especially when it's somethign we want. Try to look at what you guys do have, I usually do this to remind myself that even though we can't have a baby, we do have a lot of good stuff. You guys own your own home, live together, otherwise have a great relationship, two crazy but amazing cats, and your job situation is looking up. That's all I know, of course I"m sure you could come up with more yourself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sherryberrypie Posted May 4, 2011 Author Share Posted May 4, 2011 I have a friend who is single, and probably just as baby-crazy as you. I know it's hard when she sees others having kids. She's determined for me to have a kid SOON LOL. Not happening. Yes there are lots of good things, but waiting really can make a girl feel like crap. It all comes back to "I must not be good enough." That attitude so isn't me, but that's how I get in these moods. I know it's hard waiting, especially when being a mom is your "dream job" so you doubly feel like you're waiting for your life to start. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OptomisticGirl Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 Exactly. And you know the wedding planning keeps my mind off it and at the end I know it's the mature decision to wait a year but like you said, it still feels like putting your life on hold. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sherryberrypie Posted May 4, 2011 Author Share Posted May 4, 2011 Yup! I don't know why, but I suddenly got the urge to change my FB status...so I did. An odd cry for attention, maybe... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OptomisticGirl Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 What did you change it to? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sherryberrypie Posted May 4, 2011 Author Share Posted May 4, 2011 Thought about using one of those fancy settings like in a civil union, etc... but I just changed it to single. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OptomisticGirl Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 You went from 'in a relationship' to 'single'? Is Alex on facebook? I'm sure this will get some heads turning.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sherryberrypie Posted May 4, 2011 Author Share Posted May 4, 2011 Yeah he's on facebook. I want to change it back but the account is all frozen and stupid now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OptomisticGirl Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 Facebook has been a pain most of the night... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sherryberrypie Posted May 4, 2011 Author Share Posted May 4, 2011 Didn't like the look of single after all. Changed it to "domestic partnership." Friends were already freaking out. My god LOL Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sherryberrypie Posted May 4, 2011 Author Share Posted May 4, 2011 I bid on this: it's very similar to a ring my mom gave me and my ex stole/ pawned (a$$hat) link removed Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
metrogirl Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 I just don't understand. Am I not good enough? Why do I have to watch others get together years after we have already been dating... and get married and start families... I hate feeling this way and I wish he understood how much he is hurting me. I'm having a bad night. Sigh......I can so relate to what you are saying about the not being good enough part. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sherryberrypie Posted May 4, 2011 Author Share Posted May 4, 2011 Oh met, these men are so silly. You are beyond "good enough" as am I, I suppose, but you can't help but get in that frame of mind sometimes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
metrogirl Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 Oh met, these men are so silly. You are beyond "good enough" as am I, I suppose, but you can't help but get in that frame of mind sometimes. Silly indeed. We as the girlfriends rock and they I know without a doubt that Alex and Jesse would never ever ever ever ever be able to find women as good as us. Not in this lifetime or the next three. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sherryberrypie Posted May 4, 2011 Author Share Posted May 4, 2011 No way at all. Well I was sitting, waiting, wishing You believed in superstitions Then maybe you'd see the signs The Lord knows that this world is cruel I ain't the Lord, no I'm just a fool Learning lovin' somebody don't make them love you Must I always be waiting, waiting on you Must I always be playing, playing your fool I sang your songs, I danced your dance I gave your friends all a chance But putting up with them Wasn't worth never having you Maybe you've been through this before But it's my first time so please ignore The next few lines cause they're directed at you I can't always be waiting, waiting on you I can't always be playing, playing your fool I keep playing your part But it's not my scene Want this plot to twist I've had enough mystery Keep building it up Then shooting me down But I'm already down Just wait a minute Just sitting, waiting Just wait a minute Just sitting, waiting Well, if I was in your position I'd put down all my ammunition I'd wonder why'd it taken me so long But Lord knows that I'm not you And if I was, I wouldn't be so cruel Cause waitin' on love aint so easy to do Must I always be waiting, waiting on you Must I always be playing, playing your fool No, I can't I always be waiting, waiting on you I can't always be playing, playing your fool Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sherryberrypie Posted May 4, 2011 Author Share Posted May 4, 2011 Mmm good long sleep Mom, sister and I are taking the little one out today for lunch and to see wild animals/butterflies/possibly birds. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sherryberrypie Posted May 4, 2011 Author Share Posted May 4, 2011 Forgot how awesome Ebay can be. I'm winning yay! LOL Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sherryberrypie Posted May 5, 2011 Author Share Posted May 5, 2011 God-damnit! Just when we were getting a bit ahead, student loans has to go and mess things up. I got home from a lovely day with my mom, sister and niece, to an angry Alex who blames me that our bank account ran out of money today. Turns out, student loans thinks I'm not a student anymore and withdrew almost $500 from our account. Then my gym pass was withdrawn. When I got home I was INTERROGATED about why I had bought this and that (a new book, a bootcamp pass, my niece's birthday gift) and he had gone through everything with a fine-tooth comb. Bye bye cushion of savings.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
metrogirl Posted May 5, 2011 Share Posted May 5, 2011 Oh that sucks, I'm sorry. Can you correct the situation with the student loans to get your money back? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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