redrose85 Posted March 7, 2014 Share Posted March 7, 2014 This your best friend? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OptomisticGirl Posted March 7, 2014 Author Share Posted March 7, 2014 C had a fever, which we knew when we made the plans. That's why we were going to her house so she wouldn't have to take C out. It felt like a shrug off tbh. But we have tentative plans to stop by on our way back home Tuesday so we'll see. Sherry - she's suppose to be, yes, but that title really isn't hers if that makes sense. There was a huge confrontation a few weeks back. She got mad we made the beach trip on the weekend of C's birthday. We did it because it coincided with my school spring break (next week) and I could go on vacation without worrying about school assignments. Then she brought up all the other times I didn't come see her but we went and saw the pseudo family. I guess she was hurt we didn't invite her?? But I would never invite another friend to someone's house, you know? Plus she hates things like Doctor Who and The Hobbit. Pseudo family are my nerd friends, she isn't. And I don't think she liked that I brought up she hadn't made a move to come visit me. Which she hasn't. I told her it worked both ways. Usually I just lay down and do nothing but she really irritated me this time by getting mad about when we planned this beach trip. I have been to every birthday party for C for the last 4 years. I've sat in the freezing cold for 5 hours to reserve a booth for my niece's party. I think I'm entitled to miss one. The fact is, I wouldn't expect her to come down to every bryhday party when we have kids and we live close to Myrtle. If she could great but I would understand. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hers Posted March 7, 2014 Share Posted March 7, 2014 That's tge part that pisses me off about her. That you've wasted your time by sitting in a park for 5 hours for her daughters bday and she's probably pissed that you won't do it this year. You reconsidered moving to England bc of her daughter also. And yet it's still not enough. Sorry, I just can't stand friends like that who walk all over people! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OptomisticGirl Posted March 7, 2014 Author Share Posted March 7, 2014 It's honestly to the point where I can't stand them either and I'm not allowing it any more. She's going to school as well, she should know how hectic life is when you're a full time student. And yes, she has a daughter to raise which is a full time job but she doesn't work and go to school like I do. She just doesn't understand how much planning goes into when we visit the pseudo family. It's not a 'hey, you free tomorrow??' I have to plan it with work and school months in advanced. I'm at that age were I'm just destressing my life. I love her and she's been a great friend in the past to me but over the years it's just been more take and take then give. And I'm tired of it. I have best friends who know how to give and take and that's all I need. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hers Posted March 7, 2014 Share Posted March 7, 2014 Have you tried telling her this? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OptomisticGirl Posted March 7, 2014 Author Share Posted March 7, 2014 No but I don't think it would do any good. She's very centered in herself and she doesn't really have the emotional level to evaluate problems like that. So it's easier just to ignore it honestly. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hers Posted March 7, 2014 Share Posted March 7, 2014 I have a friend who I rarely talk to anymore for a similar reason and I just assume not talk to her rather than deal with the confrontation of it all. It's too exhausting otherwise. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
redrose85 Posted March 7, 2014 Share Posted March 7, 2014 Oh, been there, done that. It gets easier as you distance yourself emotionally. You've put her first almost every time, and I really can't recall a time when she put you first. She's got to learn somehow. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OptomisticGirl Posted March 7, 2014 Author Share Posted March 7, 2014 Exactly. You know nothing will change and it's just too draining to even try to. Well, we made it to Columbia! I'm so glad we decided to drive halfway tonight and go the rest of the way tomorrow. Even the three hour drive today was long (probably because I worked all day, as did L). We're at the hotel though and had dinner and are watching the tale end of Titantic and just relaxing. It feels so good to just RELAX. No work tomorrow, no school work to be done.... just r.e.l.a.x. We do miss the babies though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hers Posted March 8, 2014 Share Posted March 8, 2014 That's great! How far of a drive is it otherwise? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OptomisticGirl Posted March 8, 2014 Author Share Posted March 8, 2014 From Commerce, non-stop it would be 6 hours. It really just reinforces how much we want to move closer to the beach! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hers Posted March 8, 2014 Share Posted March 8, 2014 that was the thing abut atlanta for me...i felt so landlocked! i can't wait to get back in th kayaks again! I'm missing the water so much! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
redrose85 Posted March 8, 2014 Share Posted March 8, 2014 I feel that way now. Can’t wait for summer! I want to get into the rivers and the ocean and feel the sun on my legs. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OptomisticGirl Posted March 8, 2014 Author Share Posted March 8, 2014 We are def. making moving closer to here a priority! The rest of the trip down here went smoothly. We actually hit a bit of traffic about 15-20 minutes to the beach and the area def. seems busier then when we come in October. While going through Conway we stopped at an apartment complex we were looking at possibly moving into. L is very big on viewing a place before we move into it so we had a little time to kill before checking into the hotel. It was a gorgeous complex, great features, but it's a half student/half non-student housing so they charge by the room. So we'd have to have two leases (which wouldn't go well with immigration) and pay two times the rent. Sadly that is a no go. We're going to look at a few other places while we are here but we may just not be able to view a place before moving here next year. The hotel is pretty busy as well. It's apparently Canadian week or something, explains all the Ontario license plates we saw! As always the hotel is lovely. The weather is nice too. It's a bit chilly when you are in the shade so it isn't shorts and tank top weather (guess what I was wearing today, haha) but it's nice jeans, light top, and light jacket weather. As always when we checked in we went down and saw the ocean. I know it sounds weird to say it felt like we were coming home, but that is exactly how it feels. There is just something about that vast body of water. But God is it cold!! Tomorrow is swim and relax day! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
renaissancewoman101 Posted March 8, 2014 Share Posted March 8, 2014 Glad you guys made it there ok. Are you guys going to go back to dinner at the Italian steak place that you went to last year?? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OptomisticGirl Posted March 9, 2014 Author Share Posted March 9, 2014 Well we were but we changed our minds for a few reasons. When we went there on our honeymoon is was this small, family Mom-and-Pop atmosphere and that really made the experience all the more better. The nest time we came they had moved to a bigger location (because they became so famous!) but it completely destroyed that 'intimate' atmosphere. We had plans to go on this trip but then we saw this Egyptian snow globe (I'll post a pic) and it was a little pricey so we just decided to not go this time to get the snow globe and we really didn't enjoy it as much the second time around. The food was still amazing but the atmosphere really made it what it was. Maybe once we are down here for good and they've had time to settle in to that place we'll give it another go. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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renaissancewoman101 Posted March 9, 2014 Share Posted March 9, 2014 That's a cute snowglobe. Love the kitty inside it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OptomisticGirl Posted March 9, 2014 Author Share Posted March 9, 2014 Renny, I've been meaning to FB message you. Do you know of any good guinea pig websites that you can buy stuff from? As you know L's mum has like 6 of them and we have been trying to rack our brains of a nice mother's day present for her (England's mother's day is the end of this month). We figured if anyone knew you would know some were that we could just buy some small things that could be easily shipped - like guinea pig theme magnets or something like that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
renaissancewoman101 Posted March 9, 2014 Share Posted March 9, 2014 As a matter of fact, there are some good guinea pig gift sites that are actually IN the UK. Here is one of them: link removed I've ordered some books and figurines from them so I know they are a reliable site. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OptomisticGirl Posted March 9, 2014 Author Share Posted March 9, 2014 Ah that is PERFECT!! Thanks Renny! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zentoCC Posted March 9, 2014 Share Posted March 9, 2014 OG is I saw this and thought of you. I never got how people could do long distance relationships, I'm not against them just don't understand, but this makes a lot more sense to me. Hope you're enjoying your holiday! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OptomisticGirl Posted March 9, 2014 Author Share Posted March 9, 2014 They are def. very hard and I never thought I could do one either but I found a guy who was completely worth every day we were apart. We are, thank you! We went swimming today in the indoor pool and are watching The Guardian now. We're going to grab lunch after it finishes and bring it back and eat on the balcony of our room and enjoy the sunshine and sea! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hers Posted March 9, 2014 Share Posted March 9, 2014 I'm glad you're having a good time!! You really need to come to the beach in my town and see how much you like it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OptomisticGirl Posted March 9, 2014 Author Share Posted March 9, 2014 Oh visiting you is def. on our to do list! L wants to see what one of our real beaches look like since Myrtle is man made. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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