OptomisticGirl Posted April 18, 2012 Author Share Posted April 18, 2012 Me: "Are you REALLY going to need the day before I arrive off?" L: "Yes" Me: "Why?" L: "Because I might want to clean the bachelor pad up before my wife arrives and starts marking her terrority..." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OptomisticGirl Posted April 18, 2012 Author Share Posted April 18, 2012 So ever since everyone at work found out I'm going to visit L in September all I have heard is 'watch, you'll come back pregnant!' Really? I don't know why this bugs the crap out of me but it does. why is that the first thing all these people go to? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
annie24 Posted April 18, 2012 Share Posted April 18, 2012 i vote against coming back pregnant, lol. moving will be so much more difficult! and then not being able to fly in your 3rd trimester.... gah. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OptomisticGirl Posted April 18, 2012 Author Share Posted April 18, 2012 lol, I completely agree. More importantly, I want my husband there during my pregnancy and, I dunno, the birth? Maybe that's why it bugs me so much. It's like they forget it takes 9 months to have a baby and that my husband is 4,000 miles away. I guess I'm suppose to just pop it out all on my own! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
redrose85 Posted April 18, 2012 Share Posted April 18, 2012 People are dumb. 'Nuff said. It’s so weird to think that you’ve never been to your husband’s house. I just realized that! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OptomisticGirl Posted April 18, 2012 Author Share Posted April 18, 2012 And technically it's not even his place, or were he's at now won't be were I go. HOPEFULLY when I go over L will be in our house (if the government decides my husband makes enough to support us) and we can stay in the house we'll be living in when I move over. That would be pretty awesome. Worst case (as in I can't move over) we'll get a hotel since he lives with 4 other people. We were talking the other day about stuff we wanted to do when I come over, were he wanted to take me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OptomisticGirl Posted April 18, 2012 Author Share Posted April 18, 2012 Amazing the power of music, how one simple song can send you back in time to a particular memory... that moment... and the feelings that come with it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dangletsbang Posted April 18, 2012 Share Posted April 18, 2012 For some reason, people connect marriage with children. I see it constantly with people who marry..as soon as they're married people immediately ask 'are you gonna have kids?' or 'when's the baby due?' It's like..while it IS like that for some people..some people haven't even thought about kids..some people are waiting 5 years..some people are waiting 10 years.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hers Posted April 18, 2012 Share Posted April 18, 2012 Or some people have been trying to have them but can't, and they may be very emotional about it. To me it's presumptuous and rude to ask that. I hate when people ask me that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Huntress0527 Posted April 18, 2012 Share Posted April 18, 2012 It just goes with the marriage territory unfortunately. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OptomisticGirl Posted April 18, 2012 Author Share Posted April 18, 2012 Yeah we def want kids and if we could have them right out the gate we would but it's like they don't register the fact I would be pregnant while flying over - which my husband refuses to ever let happen - and he wouldn't be here. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Batya33 Posted April 18, 2012 Share Posted April 18, 2012 For some reason, people connect marriage with children. I see it constantly with people who marry..as soon as they're married people immediately ask 'are you gonna have kids?' or 'when's the baby due?' It's like..while it IS like that for some people..some people haven't even thought about kids..some people are waiting 5 years..some people are waiting 10 years.. I hate that question. Even worse, when I told an acquaintance of mine (we'd known each other forever but never been good friends) found out I was pregnant she asked me right away "was it natural?" (I guess because I was 41) and "are you getting married?" I never ask people about child-related decisions or plans mostly because of the fertility issues. Nobody's business. I'm asked fairly often whether I'm planning on having a second child. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
redrose85 Posted April 18, 2012 Share Posted April 18, 2012 I connect marriage with kids, for sure. Sure there are child-free by choice marriages, but that’s not us. Like i told my sister, the main reason we’re getting married is to start a family. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fudgie Posted April 18, 2012 Share Posted April 18, 2012 Most people connect marriage with kids. I certainly don't however. I've heard the whole "why bother getting married if you're not going to have kids. It's not a FAMILY if there are no kids" and frankly, I find it offensive. People need to understand that some people (like OG) are waiting to have kids until the best time instead of just HAVING them whenever, and there are even some people like me who aren't having them. The best thing to do is not to ask nosy questions about fertility/babies unless you are closer with the person. It really amazes me sometimes, how distant acquaintances or even strangers think it's okay to ask someone "ARE YOU PREGNANT" or "WHEN ARE THE BABIES GONNA COME" and pat bellies, and all that. It's like boundaries completely fly out the window. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Batya33 Posted April 18, 2012 Share Posted April 18, 2012 When I was 8 months pregnant I was exhausted after work and shopping at the market to get something for dinner. This stranger- a teenage girl -stops me and says "can I ask a personal question -how far along are you?" and I said "yes, that's too personal". I hope she learned from that - my reasoning was I didn't want to stop and chat and I also didn't want to hear about whether I looked small or large for my pregnancy stage. I believe it's awesome to get married whether or not you want children or can have children and I believe a husband and wife are each other's family. I stopped flying sometime during the second trimester even though we were long distance. Didn't want to take any chances. It was hard being long distance while I was pregnant but I was near my family and friends and really good doctors. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
redrose85 Posted April 18, 2012 Share Posted April 18, 2012 I hate it when people are like, just have kids now, you can get by. Kids don’t need a lot. It’s so irresponsible. Kids need medical care, they need clothing, they need food, they need happy parents who aren’t stressed about paying for the basics and who are able to put them in the activities and sports they’d like to do. Plus, babies grow fast and before you know it, that child has a lot of needs that require a decent income. Yeah we want kids, but we also want the best possible life for them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OptomisticGirl Posted April 18, 2012 Author Share Posted April 18, 2012 For us it's just so much to do with immigration (money wise), it would be irresponsible to bring a child into that. I don't even ask women if they are or aren't pregnant (even of they look it) because I've been asked that question and obviously am not.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fudgie Posted April 18, 2012 Share Posted April 18, 2012 OG, I have been asked that too, especially when I weighed more in the past. "No I'm not pregnant I just have a lot of belly fat...and it's round..." One girl insisted (I was 18 at the time) and she said "Are you SUUUUUURREE your boyfriend didn't knock you up?" and then she POKED my stomach. Christ lady, I think I know more about what's going on with my body than you do. Step off! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
annie24 Posted April 18, 2012 Share Posted April 18, 2012 People can be so nosy and inappropriate!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
redrose85 Posted April 18, 2012 Share Posted April 18, 2012 I think I would have smacked her... and I am not that type of person! Thank god no one has ever thought I looked pregnant. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OptomisticGirl Posted April 19, 2012 Author Share Posted April 19, 2012 4 more days of work and I am on a week's vacation! God I can't wait! I got home today from work and asked mom to use the living room and popped in my pilates DVD and did a work out. I remember why I loved it so much when I lived on my own! Jasper of course would not leave me alone. He kept head butting me while I was doing the exercises or just flopping down next to me - big ol' baby. Grabbing a bite to eat now and then working on the diaper cake for work. Finished the first tier last night but needed a few more supplies to finish it up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OptomisticGirl Posted April 19, 2012 Author Share Posted April 19, 2012 Not too shabby for my first (on a budget) diaper cake! image removed Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fudgie Posted April 19, 2012 Share Posted April 19, 2012 How many diapers did it take? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OptomisticGirl Posted April 19, 2012 Author Share Posted April 19, 2012 About 80. 10 characters Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fudgie Posted April 19, 2012 Share Posted April 19, 2012 Lol, that's crazy. I would have guessed about 40 from the picture. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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