OptomisticGirl Posted November 27, 2011 Author Share Posted November 27, 2011 Not so much that I need to be right but left alone to do something I was given to do would have been great. I love decorating - especially for christmas - but don't give me free reign then come behind me and pick at me because of the way I'm putting the lights on the tree. But I won't say anything because a) it will start a bigger argument and b) it's disrespecting your elders. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
redrose85 Posted November 27, 2011 Share Posted November 27, 2011 Yes I agree with that. I guess I really can’t relate. My family is ridiculously pushover’y and introverted. I don’t blame you for being annoyed. I guess just ignore it lol, or try to distract her with something...shiny. Would that work? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OptomisticGirl Posted November 27, 2011 Author Share Posted November 27, 2011 She honestly doesn't get like this unless my stepdad is around. Yes she sets me off by herself but that's more how I take what she does, not her doing. And it really wasn't even her that was annoying me. Sure, I didn't like being told how to do something when I had just asked do you want it a certain way. But HE kept on about Jasper. 'The cat is annoying me' - well yeah, you scare him by making loud noises on purpose. I'd annoy you too. Or 'feed the cat'. 'The cat has already been feed for the day.' 'why aren't you feeding him more?' 'He's on a diet.' 'so your starving him?' 'No, I'm going by what the vet said.' 'if the vet told you to jump off a bridge, would you.' Because SOMEHOW he knows more than the person who went to school to care and look after animals. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DN Posted November 27, 2011 Share Posted November 27, 2011 I think you need to be more assertive with these folks. Tell him that you don't want to listen to his opinion about your cat. Tell your mother that if she wants the tree decorated a certain way she should have said so when asked, if she changes her mind she can do it herself. You can say it assertively without being aggressive. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OptomisticGirl Posted November 27, 2011 Author Share Posted November 27, 2011 I think you need to be more assertive with these folks. Tell him that you don't want to listen to his opinion about your cat. Tell your mother that if she wants the tree decorated a certain way she should have said so when asked, if she changes her mind she can do it herself. You can say it assertively without being aggressive. i have tried DN, I really have. my mom telling me about the tree was annoying but if I were to sit and really think about what set that anger mode off, it would be him. He has to be right, always. Jasper meows and he think he's hungry - 9 times out of 10 it means he's knocked his water bowl over for the 900 millionth time and he's thirsty because he has no water. Or simply he wants love. He's an attention hog. When my car was leaking water like crazy he told me I needed to be putting anti freeze in it (when it wasn't freezing, way above freezing temps). When I tried calmly explaing to him I'd rather wait to put anti freeze in it since anti freeze at best costs $10 a jug (and I was having to put a whole jug of water in every day) and try to get enough saved to fix it before it came to that. He wouldn't listen to my reasoning that if I spent $70 on anti freeze a week (a jug per day) it would have been after the new year before I would have had the car fixed whereas I could pay a large sum to get it fixed now and not have to worry about it. Because I didn't go 'oh your right. Let me waste $70 a week vs. an immediate $200' I wasn't listening to him. And he kept repeating himself like I was an idiot and his way was right, my way was wrong. /end rant. I try not to be confrontational because of the history between he and I as well as the whole disrespecting elders (when dealing with my mom, I could care less if I disrespected him) BUT my mother's child or not, I'm living here rent, grocery, and utlity free. Can't bite the hand that gives out charity. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DN Posted November 27, 2011 Share Posted November 27, 2011 Well, I guess you will have to grit your teeth and think of the future when you are with L. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OptomisticGirl Posted November 27, 2011 Author Share Posted November 27, 2011 That's pretty much the only thing that kept me from strangling him with the Christmas lights. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OptomisticGirl Posted November 27, 2011 Author Share Posted November 27, 2011 Someone at work just asked me if they speak Italian or English in England. *facepalm* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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OptomisticGirl Posted November 27, 2011 Author Share Posted November 27, 2011 ^^ bahahshahahahahahah! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DN Posted November 27, 2011 Share Posted November 27, 2011 Someone at work just asked me if they speak Italian or English in England. *facepalm*To which I hoped you answered "Yes". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OptomisticGirl Posted November 27, 2011 Author Share Posted November 27, 2011 I said they speak English, hence ENGland. If it were an older person I could by pass it but this girl was 21. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seraphim Posted November 27, 2011 Share Posted November 27, 2011 Does not say a lot for the education system does it? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OptomisticGirl Posted November 27, 2011 Author Share Posted November 27, 2011 Really not even the education system but the person. :s Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thejigsup Posted November 28, 2011 Share Posted November 28, 2011 Well, actually, England is a small continent or a large island (take your pick) with lots of people from lots of different countries speaking lots of different languages living there. I used to date a guy who was born in Hungary, lived in Italy, moved to Australia, and then immigrated to the U.S. He told me that in Europe, most people speak multiple languages and that in every European country there is a sizeable percentage of the public who speak English. He said they stress languages there more so than we do here. Most school children speak at least three. He could speak (fluently) Hungarian, German, Italian, English, Spanish, and some of the Slav dialects. He was amazed that most people here spoke only one, or two at best. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OptomisticGirl Posted November 28, 2011 Author Share Posted November 28, 2011 Sure, they are a melting pot like us but the language is still English. You can't even get into England without taking a test to prove you can speak/write in Englih fluently. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OptomisticGirl Posted November 28, 2011 Author Share Posted November 28, 2011 Its rainy and gray here today - my favourite kind of weather. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
redrose85 Posted November 28, 2011 Share Posted November 28, 2011 You’d love it here there. Or England. Whichever. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Flyingpiglet Posted November 28, 2011 Share Posted November 28, 2011 Its rainy and gray here today - my favourite kind of weather. Lol. It'll be perfect over here for you then OG... Even in summer most of the time! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OptomisticGirl Posted November 28, 2011 Author Share Posted November 28, 2011 Lol that's what I keep telling L. I need a good pair of rain boots though! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Flyingpiglet Posted November 28, 2011 Share Posted November 28, 2011 And a raincoat and/or a damn good umbrella! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OptomisticGirl Posted November 28, 2011 Author Share Posted November 28, 2011 I'm gonna need a good warm coat too! Lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Flyingpiglet Posted November 28, 2011 Share Posted November 28, 2011 I'm sure its all here in your journal somewhere but I've probably missed it.... When do you come over? Is it October time? Not that it means anything with the weather here... It could be glorious sunshine or snowing... You just can't guess it! lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OptomisticGirl Posted November 28, 2011 Author Share Posted November 28, 2011 Hopefully I'll move there by Oct 6 of next year lol, yeah. L went back the end of Oct and wore shorts home. He said he stepped out of the terminal and could see his breath while here it wasn't even a hint of cold yet. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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