OptomisticGirl Posted October 25, 2011 Author Share Posted October 25, 2011 Yes it is Jig. I was a huge mess, lol my eyes hurt and I cried so much on the way back I have myself a headache. It is the final stretch though, less than a year... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DN Posted October 25, 2011 Share Posted October 25, 2011 There wouild have been something very wrong had you not been upset. Imagine if you had thought "Well, thank goodness that's over and done with and I don't have to see him again for all that time!!" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OptomisticGirl Posted October 25, 2011 Author Share Posted October 25, 2011 There wouild have been something very wrong had you not been upset. Imagine if you had thought "Well, thank goodness that's over and done with and I don't have to see him again for all that time!!" lol, very true DN. It was emotional but we knew it had to come, just sometimes no matter how much you prepare or know something is coming, it still hurts. I'm okay (for right now). I'm home and I stopped and pick up a nice Subway sandwhich - with extra, extra chiptole - to drown my sorrows in, lol. I cried half way from Atlanta and gave myself a headache and then the other half I just rolled the windows down, blared Michael Jackson, and sang along at the top of my lungs. It was so weird driving without him next to me... I could almost still feel his hand on my thigh (he's very against holding hands while I was driving but he would rest his hand on my thigh). And I never realized just how safe I feel with him until after he had left. While he was here I never even thought of my own safety because he did it for me and then it was suddenly him gone and BAM! - I had to look out for myself again. Weird. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DN Posted October 25, 2011 Share Posted October 25, 2011 Not that this will lessen your feelings but six weeks after my parents were married my father went off to fight in WWII and they didn't see each other again for three and half years. Time does pass and quicker sometimes than you might think. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OptomisticGirl Posted October 25, 2011 Author Share Posted October 25, 2011 Not that this will lessen your feelings but six weeks after my parents were married my father went off to fight in WWII and they didn't see each other again for three and half years. Time does pass and quicker sometimes than you might think. Yeah, things like that always put it into perspective. I know Victoria's husband is off fighting in a war - at least L isn't in danger, he's just not here. i know the next few days will be weird with me having to adjust to not having him around or having him next to me at night... Jasper isn't exactly a substitue but he's a fluffy sleepng companion at least. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SayWhen Posted October 25, 2011 Share Posted October 25, 2011 I don't know how you do it...I'd be emotionally wrecked. At least you are in the final stretch. Pets can really offer a lot of comfort...my husband works nights frequently and I feel so much less alone when I snuggle up to my dog. Is there no way to meet up after six months? I guess all your money is going towards the move? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OptomisticGirl Posted October 25, 2011 Author Share Posted October 25, 2011 I don't know how you do it...I'd be emotionally wrecked. At least you are in the final stretch. Pets can really offer a lot of comfort...my husband works nights frequently and I feel so much less alone when I snuggle up to my dog. Is there no way to meet up after six months? I guess all your money is going towards the move? We could do a visit in six months but that would push me moving there into 2013. So we COULD but it would prolong the LDR as a whole - and as much as it hurts and sucks, we would just rather do a full years stretch of not seeing each other knowing at the end of that year, I'm there and not going any were. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Huntress0527 Posted October 25, 2011 Share Posted October 25, 2011 I give it to you, OG, you have some real strength. I get teary eyed just thinking about my husband moving to his homestate without me for a few months. We haven't gotten to that point yet but if he cannot find work here within a few months that is what's going to happen. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OptomisticGirl Posted October 25, 2011 Author Share Posted October 25, 2011 L's plane Just took off. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SayWhen Posted October 25, 2011 Share Posted October 25, 2011 Well then I guess you are between a rock and a hard place but then again you just went a year in a LDR so at least you know it can be done I am not built for that...I think you are a very strong woman and I really admire your marriage! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OptomisticGirl Posted October 25, 2011 Author Share Posted October 25, 2011 Well then I guess you are between a rock and a hard place but then again you just went a year in a LDR so at least you know it can be done I am not built for that...I think you are a very strong woman and I really admire your marriage! Thank you Saywhen. I think we haven't already done a year a part we wouldn't be able to do this year stretch - less than a year, really - so we def know we can get through it. And there is a huge prize at the end of it! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OptomisticGirl Posted October 25, 2011 Author Share Posted October 25, 2011 Well I was doing good. Then it just kind of hit me that he isn't here so I had a good long shower and cry. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lavenderdove Posted October 25, 2011 Share Posted October 25, 2011 Right now you should just try to distract yourself... of course you're weepy now... you just got married and you want to be with him! But remember you were doing fine before and you'll do fine again once you get past this initial parting... try to distract yourself with movies or TV or books or friends or doing anything that take your mind off it. Have a good cry for a day or two, and really pamper yourself! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OptomisticGirl Posted October 25, 2011 Author Share Posted October 25, 2011 Right now you should just try to distract yourself... of course you're weepy now... you just got married and you want to be with him! But remember you were doing fine before and you'll do fine again once you get past this initial parting... try to distract yourself with movies or TV or books or friends or doing anything that take your mind off it. Have a good cry for a day or two, and really pamper yourself! Thank you Dove. I am. I straightened my room and put away all wedding things. My sister, her husband, my nephew, and L's groomsmen came over earlier and we were all sat in the living room talking and laughing. It def distracted me and I'm trying to watch some tv shows now. I know it's going to come in waves and phases - some hours I'll be okay, some I'll be a weepy mess - I just hate the process of it. I want it to be 2 days from now and be fine. But I know it's a healing process almost. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OptomisticGirl Posted October 26, 2011 Author Share Posted October 26, 2011 Still doing good, haven't cried since my shower. Been watching old episodes of America's Next Top Model and am figuring out what scrapbook pages i want to work on first. That and Jasper just crawled up next to me and laid down. He always knows when mommy isn't happy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hers Posted October 26, 2011 Share Posted October 26, 2011 I'm sure Jasper is glad to have you home. When do you get your professional pics back? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fudgie Posted October 26, 2011 Share Posted October 26, 2011 Awww OG *hug* We'll be here for you during the next year though...and after! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OptomisticGirl Posted October 26, 2011 Author Share Posted October 26, 2011 I'm sure Jasper is glad to have you home. When do you get your professional pics back? God yes, he is. He hasn't let me leave his sight since I walked back through the door. Not sure, really. with 2 photographers they took a million pictures so I think if I don't hear back by the middle of next month, I'll inquire. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OptomisticGirl Posted October 26, 2011 Author Share Posted October 26, 2011 Awww OG *hug* We'll be here for you during the next year though...and after! I know you guys will Fudgie. It's like I know this blah phase will pass and I'll be fine once life gets back into it's old swing but the first two days without him are always hard, adjusting to him not being right there to talk to or sleeping next to me. I feel so alone in this bed that I have put one my pillows behind me to simulate L being there. So sad but true, lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OptomisticGirl Posted October 26, 2011 Author Share Posted October 26, 2011 Here's a beach shot I took from our last day at the beach.. image removed Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fudgie Posted October 26, 2011 Share Posted October 26, 2011 Holy crap that is so beautiful. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OptomisticGirl Posted October 26, 2011 Author Share Posted October 26, 2011 Holy crap that is so beautiful. It was a gorgeous ending to our honeymoon. The waves were uniform in that it wasn't a whole bunch of them hitting the shore, it was just like one wave at a time. Very calming. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
redrose85 Posted October 26, 2011 Share Posted October 26, 2011 When do you start back at work? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OptomisticGirl Posted October 26, 2011 Author Share Posted October 26, 2011 When do you start back at work? Tomorrow. Blah. 1-9. If I had been thinking I would have had a day off from being on vacation, lol. But it's for the best - jump right back into things and keep me busy while I transition to L not being here. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hers Posted October 26, 2011 Share Posted October 26, 2011 You know whT a good idea is? Get a pic from the view from your honeymoon hotel room, frame it, and hang it in front of your bed. Will keep the thoughts in your head when you wake up Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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