wmade77 Posted July 22, 2010 Share Posted July 22, 2010 okay so I ve got feelings for this girl and she's got feelings for me as well.. But she wouldn't be in a relationship because she's worried that if we end our relationship it would also end our friendship and she's not ready for a relationship right now? is there any way I can convince her otherwise? Thanks Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Irishguy1125 Posted July 22, 2010 Share Posted July 22, 2010 I would definitely suggest taking it slow. my current GF and I liked eachother for a couple of months before we became official and I am glad I waited because the feelings were even better and I knew her more than i would of just jumping into things. Just saying, taking it slow isn't that bad. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wmade77 Posted July 22, 2010 Author Share Posted July 22, 2010 alright, thank yu! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Irishguy1125 Posted July 22, 2010 Share Posted July 22, 2010 No problem buddy, I hope it goes smoothly for you! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Squiggy Posted July 22, 2010 Share Posted July 22, 2010 The following is what I would say: That thing you said about "if the relationship ends, so will the friendship" is something that will happen on its own. If its destine to happen, so it will. No one can stop that, not you, me or anyone. But i strongly believe that you and i are made for each other. If that's not what forms a relationship, then what is? Unless you honestly don't feel the same as I do, then I understand. But I think you do, i can see it in your smile, your lips, your thighs...." sorry got a little carried out there. But just know the following: if the relationship fails, so does your friendship. relationship does change friendship in the long run - you guys will fight about silly things, get into each other's nerves, there's no perfect relationship, just a relationship. good luck! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Archer Posted July 22, 2010 Share Posted July 22, 2010 Also I hope you realise she has a genuine concern here. If you do get together and split up then this has a high chance of wrecking the friendship. There may not be any bad feelings but having been in a romantic relationship with someone can make it hard to incorporate into your life in the same way. The dynamics just don’t usually work out that well. Ok for having a coffee with once every 12 months but not for much else. But of course that might be something you don’t have to worry about. Perhaps you’ll end up with this woman in a lasting relationship. I agree that it’s a good idea to take things slowly. I can understand your frustration though. Just try to support her (feelings, desires etc) as much as possible. Also in my experience most people have a hopelessly low resistance to someone they fancy romantically. If she doesn’t come around with time then maybe she doesn’t feel the same way? Good luck Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kenpo Posted July 22, 2010 Share Posted July 22, 2010 okay so I ve got feelings for this girl and she's got feelings for me as well.. But she wouldn't be in a relationship because she's worried that if we end our relationship it would also end our friendship and she's not ready for a relationship right now? is there any way I can convince her otherwise? Thanks Yeah dude, you should wait until she's ready. Me and my girlfriend were friends for about a year, liked each other for months before we were both ready for a serious relationship. And it has all paid off. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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