GenoGeno Posted July 16, 2010 Share Posted July 16, 2010 five months exactly on the 16th being broken up. I haven't talked to her in about three weeks. I decided since it was going to be an even five months, I would talk to her yesterday. See how she's doing and I asked if she really did hate me...She responded with..."SEE this is why i don't talk to you anymore! you ask the same * * * * over and over! i don't hate anyone!!! shows over!" And i couldn't understand why she would lash out so much I actually do feel hated and i explained why I always feel so hated and she did nothing to help me out just made me feel so much worse. I don't understand how I love someone that is so malicious. Sad day today....but I deleted her from facebook, myspace, twitter, everything. I never wanna see her again, I have so much resentment for her using me for four months as her 2AM lifeline with absolutely no feeling or care that she was keeping me up and making me super tired in school. She didn't care one bit....everything was all about her after the break up and I still cared so much...UGH - It boils my blood... Makes me so angry I fell into her stupid damn games. I dunno what to feel right now bleh...Why do i miss someone that used me and then just left me in the dust...but holy does it feel horrible. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Psylocke960 Posted July 16, 2010 Share Posted July 16, 2010 Just move on Geno and never contact her again even if it's 6 months from now just to say HI. It's quite obvious she does not care one bit. You're better off without her. It's typical to still feel such strong emotions for someone you loved even though they don't feel the same way about you, but one day you'll realize that you deserve better! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lauraaa Posted July 16, 2010 Share Posted July 16, 2010 My ex and I finally finished with the games a couple months back, and I deleted him as a friend. Then, I felt guilty and just deactivated my FB acct altogether. I think it's key to let nature help us heal. BC must be gorgeous... I always think of rain as cleansing. Deactivating FB has really helped me maintain NC, and try to wrap my mind around moving on. I am not there yet, but posting here is a big step. God bless. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Live-N-Learn Posted July 16, 2010 Share Posted July 16, 2010 I don't understand how I love someone that is so malicious. Why do i miss someone that used me and then just left me in the dust... These are great questions to ask yourself. Time to work on Geno and figure out what it is about you that allows this type of behavior. You mind knows it is not acceptable but something deep inside allowed it. Sorry for your pain my friend, I know you have had a rough ride with this chick. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gvision Posted July 16, 2010 Share Posted July 16, 2010 separate your ego Read Eckhart Tolle Books Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
incaangelique Posted July 17, 2010 Share Posted July 17, 2010 I don't like this girl. You deserve better. She's sounds just mean. Start NC again. I know it hurts. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rigguy Posted July 17, 2010 Share Posted July 17, 2010 If you have common friends on fb, I suggest you block her too. Things tend to pop up on your friends' walls at worst possible times. She's being a jerk, you don't need that in your life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GenoGeno Posted July 17, 2010 Author Share Posted July 17, 2010 thanks a lot guys. Your kind words are a definite reassurance i did the right thing by deleting her even if i felt bad....funny thing is i got a message the next morning from her saying "deleting me hey, real mature.." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hell_On_Heels Posted July 17, 2010 Share Posted July 17, 2010 Actually, it was really mature. You are taking care of you, and too bad if she doesn't like it. Seriously. Block her. It helps so much to know you won't see her, or have her see you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Live-N-Learn Posted July 17, 2010 Share Posted July 17, 2010 Block her Geno...she is not going to stop messing with your head...this girl is a mess. Time to stop allowing her any avenues to cause you further pain. Time to heal and move on to healthiness and happiness. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
snoopydog Posted July 17, 2010 Share Posted July 17, 2010 thanks a lot guys. Your kind words are a definite reassurance i did the right thing by deleting her even if i felt bad....funny thing is i got a message the next morning from her saying "deleting me hey, real mature.." The fact she sent that shows she does still care on some level. I think her lashing out so much is her coping mechanism. Honestly I think the best thing to do is to not contact her for a good 4-6 months and also change your phone number straight away. I know you are hurting a lot about this girl but it's the only way to get your power back. Btw if you ever decide to contact her again a long time from now, keep it emotionally simple with a 'hey how you doinn' kind message, not the 'do you still hate me' stuff. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Puckdog27 Posted July 17, 2010 Share Posted July 17, 2010 The fact she sent that shows she does still care on some level. I think her lashing out so much is her coping mechanism. Honestly I think the best thing to do is to not contact her for a good 4-6 months and also change your phone number straight away. I know you are hurting a lot about this girl but it's the only way to get your power back. Btw if you ever decide to contact her again a long time from now, keep it emotionally simple with a 'hey how you doinn' kind message, not the 'do you still hate me' stuff. I dont think it necessarily indicates she has feelings (though it could). I think it morel likely indicates she was PO'd for being snubbed. He took a level of attention away from her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jimmajam Posted July 17, 2010 Share Posted July 17, 2010 five months exactly on the 16th being broken up. I haven't talked to her in about three weeks. I decided since it was going to be an even five months, I would talk to her yesterday. See how she's doing and I asked if she really did hate me...She responded with..."SEE this is why i don't talk to you anymore! you ask the same * * * * over and over! i don't hate anyone!!! shows over!" She seriously sent you that message after deleting her form facebook about being mature after that snobby remark? Wow. Hang in there Geno. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brandnewday47 Posted July 17, 2010 Share Posted July 17, 2010 Nice 'mature' reply by her.. kind of shows how she deals with stress though. Looks like she may not like it when facing the consequences of her actions. Too bad, you've had to do deal with this yourself for too long. Good job standing up for yourself Geno! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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