katyg79 Posted June 29, 2010 Share Posted June 29, 2010 I have just split up with my ex now for 2 months after being with each other for 2 years i am sufferring from low self esteem and find being how i was before i met him very difficult. My ex shouted at me alot and didnt make me feel great and cheated in the end, making me feel worthless and rejected. How can i get back the confidence i had? any tips or ideas. i have been out with my friends since and they say that i am a different person now.. i want the old me back. the girl who was fun and could talk to anyone!! I am 31 so time is ticking by!!! thanks for listening xx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
guynextdoor Posted June 29, 2010 Share Posted June 29, 2010 Maybe its time for a make over? Buy a sexy summer dress, go to a spa, get your nails done, that should get your confidence back. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brigadoon Posted July 1, 2010 Share Posted July 1, 2010 Makeover sounds like a great idea! If you have a look at transactional analysis it tells us that our thoughts affect our feelings which affect our behaviour. Interestingly we can turn it around too; by changing our behaviour we can change our feelings and therefore change our thoughts, "resetting" them and allowing a much more positive thoughts/feelings/behaviour "flow" So identify where you are lacking in confidence and address that. When I was with my last partner I never had the time or money to look after myself or buy clothes so that was where I started. What I do now when I'm feeling down is have a shower, shave my legs etc, moisturise, do a facial, dry and style my hair and give myself a pedicure and manicure. This takes about four hours and I do it in front of my laptop watching a couple of DVDs or listening to music. First couple of times I did it I felt ridiculous, like I was fifteen again but now I think it's sad that I thought it was okay to spend no time and effort on myself and my appearance. So I basically give myself four hours worth of pure indulgence, it costs me nothing and I feel so much better because I know I look good at the end of it. Try it, it worked wonders for me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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