jaygirl Posted April 20, 2010 Share Posted April 20, 2010 Hi guys, am sure some of u hear know my story, dated my ex for two years, he said he didn't know if I was the one for the future and I decided to call it quits. We tried remaining in LC and a month after we had sex, and he asked me to get back, initially, then later said he didn't think it would be a good idea becos he wouldn't want to string me along. Basically he told me several reasons that made me conclude he was prob commitment phobic. Anyway I decided to go NC and was in NC for 35 days. During the nc, I was shocked I started to feel like I was okay without him, then he started to contact me, and on day 32 he told me he wanted to see me. After that I decided to take his call. We talked, and I guess talking with him drove me crazy for him again. He said he had missed me, wanted me back, but still was still the same about the marriage issue. I initially told him I couldn't do it, cos it would hurt. But since this happened I haven't eaten or slept. Am just confused. Shld I have gone back? Might he change his mind if I go back? Shld Ihave continued nc? Would he have become more marriage inclined if I had continued nc? Shld I go limited contact, hoping he changes his mind and realises what is in front of him? I still want him back, but at least wit some hope for the future Am going insane with these thoughts. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sonicxman Posted April 20, 2010 Share Posted April 20, 2010 Not sure if this what you want to hear, but maybe its for the best you go NC, I would move on. If you force him to make this move you might be more sorry for it later than sooner. Just my thoughts. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Live-N-Learn Posted April 20, 2010 Share Posted April 20, 2010 What do you want? If it is a future with him and marriage then move on. He has made it clear that is not what he wants. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bravebird Posted April 20, 2010 Share Posted April 20, 2010 What do you want? If it is a future with him and marriage then move on. He has made it clear that is not what he wants. Blunt and to the point. This is so simple, but spot on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ms Darcy Posted April 20, 2010 Share Posted April 20, 2010 What do you want? If it is a future with him and marriage then move on. He has made it clear that is not what he wants. I agree sweetheart. He's seen was his life is like without you and he still cannot say that you are the one for him. I had a friend who wasted 5 years with a guy who said the same. Many Men are honest and our job is to really listen. I would move on if I were you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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