metrogirl Posted December 24, 2015 Author Share Posted December 24, 2015 So my grandson was born yesterday! Those of you that are friends with me on facebook have likely seen him as I was posting and getting tagged in more posts than I could keep up with. lol Baby Ian Abraham was 7lbs 8oz and 20 inches long. He looks just like his mother, exactly like his mother. He could be her twin and he has a butt chin. You know, the John Travolta chin. I'm so in love. Hoping to meet him tomorrow maybe, if not then on Tuesday when I get back from out of town. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
metrogirl Posted December 25, 2015 Author Share Posted December 25, 2015 Merry Christmas. I'm sitting in my office at work, it's like a ghost town here, maybe 10 to 12 of us. I made some food last night because I heard someone was bringing something so I figured why not make it a little feast. I'm going to visit the new grandbaby today after work. My daughter and kids will be at her mother in laws house until about 4pm so this gives me time to swing by the hospital and see the baby for a bit and then head home so the kids can open their gifts and we can eat dinner together. Tomorrow Jesse and I leave for Vegas. Can't wait to get away for the weekend, we will come back sometime Monday afternoon or evening and I took a vacation day on Tuesday so I can donate blood and just relax and extra day. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seraphim Posted December 25, 2015 Share Posted December 25, 2015 Awwwwww congrats on the new grandson!!!!! On the idea of repressed memories, the ones that are repressed, no, they have never returned . Like you memories of childhood for me are like a patchwork quilt some that are missing some and some that are there ,it's just bizarre. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
metrogirl Posted December 25, 2015 Author Share Posted December 25, 2015 Awwwwww congrats on the new grandson!!!!! On the idea of repressed memories, the ones that are repressed, no, they have never returned . Like you memories of childhood for me are like a patchwork quilt some that are missing some and some that are there ,it's just bizarre. I figured you would be the one with the experience in repressed memories. I guess it doesn't matter anymore. I have given up trying to remember anything. It's frustrating when my mother asks "do you remember when"...... and I'm just looking at her with a blank look on my face. It's almost like I have amnesia. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seraphim Posted December 25, 2015 Share Posted December 25, 2015 I figured you would be the one with the experience in repressed memories. I guess it doesn't matter anymore. I have given up trying to remember anything. It's frustrating when my mother asks "do you remember when"...... and I'm just looking at her with a blank look on my face. It's almost like I have amnesia. Same for me too. It is a type of amnesia. I think it is called disassociative amnesia. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
metrogirl Posted January 1, 2016 Author Share Posted January 1, 2016 So I got sick on Christmas night. I visited the new baby in the hospital at that afternoon and I felt fine. Later in the evening my throat started hurting really bad. Jesse and I went to Vegas the following morning. I was still sick so I did what I could to remain comfortable during my trip but really to no avail, I was sick. We returned on Monday night and I had already had Tuesday scheduled off. I ran a few errands, still sick but manageable. Wednesday I called out sick, I was beginning to feel worse. Yesterday I made it to work but my throat was just really bothering me, I kept needing to clear it and I was beginning to cough. Last night the cough persisted until I took something that settled it down for a little bit allowing me a couple hours of sleep. Today I am at work, since it is the holiday and there is virtually no one here, I can just relax in my office without people bothering me but I do think a trip to the urgent care is in order, if I can at least find out which one I am supposed to go to. My cough is really bad, lots of green stuff (sorry for the graphic description) and my chest hurts. I have been sick for exactly 1 week and still haven't seen my little grandbaby except for the 20 minutes I spent with him on Christmas before I realized I was sick. I'm thinking probably bronchitis. Doesn't feel like pleurisy and I don't hear any wheezing so I doubt it's pneumonia. What a way to start the year. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
renaissancewoman101 Posted January 1, 2016 Share Posted January 1, 2016 Hope you feel better soon. Being sick during the holidays really suck Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thejigsup Posted January 1, 2016 Share Posted January 1, 2016 My son has this. It was bronchitis with strep. Be careful. He is on penicillin now and doing better. The doctor said a lot of people have this now and it mostly turns into strep. I haven't gotten it yet, knock on wood. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
metrogirl Posted April 2, 2017 Author Share Posted April 2, 2017 A quick hello, I am still alive and so is Jesse! lol We just celebrated our 3 year kidney transplant anniversary this past Feb 4th. He is doing pretty good. We were dealing with chronic kidney rejection for about a year and a half but recent IV infusions seem to have halted the rejection, at least for now. His kidney is stable, kidney function has improved and the doctors feel he is well on his way to recovery. I think I am in a better place in my life now. Still working a lot, I don't see that changing anytime soon. This job affords me the opportunity to spoil my grandchildren. Speaking of which, there are 2 new ones. Ian was born to my son and his girlfriend in December of 2015 and they are expecting again in just 4 weeks, this time a girl! I'm finally getting another granddaughter, only took 10 years. lol I often think about this place and sometimes I want to check in but then I figure, would they even remember me? lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mines Posted April 2, 2017 Share Posted April 2, 2017 Hi metro! I'm glad you gave an update and checked back in Always nice to see a familiar face, even when you don't necessarily know someone - I'm always happy to see people pop back in! I hope you come back on regularly Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seraphim Posted April 2, 2017 Share Posted April 2, 2017 Hey mama!!! Glad to see all is well and more grandbabies! It is Vic btw. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tiredofvampires Posted April 8, 2017 Share Posted April 8, 2017 Hi, you! I have been on and off here myself, but glad to see you come back! Good longtime faces are what inspire me to come back. Congrats on the anniversary and the new family additions! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Capricorn3 Posted April 8, 2017 Share Posted April 8, 2017 So nice to see/hear from you again! Of course we remember you! Good to hear all is going well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
metrogirl Posted July 16, 2017 Author Share Posted July 16, 2017 Just checking in to say hi. We have had some bumps in the road recently. Jesse was retaining some serious fluid, we were already at a doctors appointment for an echocardiogram on his heart when I made him go the ER. He was quickly admitted, fluid overloaded and apparently in congestive heart failure brought on by years of untreated sleep apnea. So we have been dealing with that. I changed his diet drastically, super low sodium meals now and he is also fluid restricted which is hard because working outside and living in Southern California it gets super hot. You know with the kidney transplant, he has to drink a lot of water. Now with the CHF he has to limit his water. Everything is crazy. He finally did a sleep study for the official diagnosis of sleep apnea. He stops breathing 79 times an hour and his oxygen level drops to 64 when he is sleeping. Speaking of which, he recently went through a stretch of a couple of weeks where he didn't sleep. The apnea was so bad, he would doze off and within a couple of minutes he was choking and would wake in a panic. Well the lack of sleep caused him to hear and see things. He called me one morning in a complete panic. He said three immigrants were in the house, they wanted to clean his house and they were going through his things. He then said that just before they showed up, he heard women laughing in his house so he went through his tiny studio apartment looking for them. It took some reassuring that no one was in his house. I ended up staying a week with him. Promptly took him to the doctor, not much the doctor could do. He didn't want to give Jesse anything controlled because of just how many times his heart stops at night. There was a chance that he wouldn't wake up. So he brought home a cpap to use for 2 days (the clinic was obtaining more data) and he should have his own machine this week sometime and if that weren't enough, a recent kidney biopsy shows there is still some rejection so he will go for 2 IVIG treatments and 6 monthly Actemra infusions. Between my work schedule and his never ending doctors appointments, I am a very exhausted girl. He did buy me a car though. LOL He decided on Father's Day that it was time to buy a car for me so we went to the dealership and I picked out a 2017 Nissan Altima. Probably good timing, we seem to be driving from one appointment to the other. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
annie24 Posted July 16, 2017 Share Posted July 16, 2017 Oh wow. Does he have a CPAP now and is he using it? It took me a while to get used to but my sleep is soooo much better now. poor guy, I hope he gets better soon. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
metrogirl Posted July 23, 2017 Author Share Posted July 23, 2017 He is awaiting his own machine. I was hoping it would be here by now. This reminds me, I need to call the sleep clinic tomorrow and make sure they did in fact order his machine. He is eager to get on it regularly. He said he noticed he slept better the two days he had the loaner. He is retaining fluid again. Giving him 40mgs of lasix a day to help pull some of the fluid off but it isn't working and I foresee a trip to the ER soon. I feel like we are never going to get off of this roller coaster. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
metrogirl Posted January 26, 2018 Author Share Posted January 26, 2018 Hi everyone I was thinking about this place and thought I should stop in and say hello. Still alive and well, I guess anyway. LOL We are coming up on our four year kidney transplant anniversary. Man, time really flew by didn't it? Jesse is doing well with the kidney. He had been dealing with mild rejection for almost 2 years but they think they finally have it handled. He is still dealing with some other medical issues but nothing too crazy and for the most part is doing well. Nothing new going on with me. I decided to take the Ancestry.com DNA test last year. I was looking for a combination of things, family on my father's side, specifically my father. I was also curious about my ancestry in general, who am I and what am I made of? So I grew up being told by my mom that her side of the family was predominately Irish, Scotch, Welsh, and English. I figured I was more Irish than anything, especially with my fiery temper. LOL The test pretty much showed what she had told me growing up. All of my ancestors on my mom's side came from Europe but I was really surprised to see that I was only 16% Irish, I was however 23 % Italian/Greece which really had me wondering. This is where my story begins, the search for my father. I knew from a young age that Allan abandoned my mom when she was 5 months pregnant with me. She was fortunate to meet a man named Joe and he raised me from birth, Joe was the only father I ever knew. He was a good man, not without his demons but he loved me and I adored him. When Joe died 12 years ago, I started searching off and on for Allan. I was curious about him, I always wondered why he left. I was never really tech savvy so my searches never yielded any results. Once I did the DNA test, I paid for a membership on Ancestry, hoping I would find something, anything that would give me answers. I was able to find a marriage record for him in 1965. I noted down the bride's name for reference later, just in case. I eventually came across a divorce record for the marriage in 1965 and then I found another marriage record for April, 1970. This was the time that he told my mom he had to leave. I was born in Sept of 1970. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out he was seeing my mom and the other woman at the same time, he just ended up marrying the other woman. All my mother could ever tell me about him was that she thought he was hispanic but he had been adopted by a polish family, hence my polish last name. From what I know now, I gather the Italian/Greece heritage likely came from his side which was cool to learn but I was still no closer to finding this man. As I continued searching, I found a picture of Allan's brother online. It was an old high school picture, I also determined he had passed away some years prior. On a whim, I found someone with the same name of facebook and sent a message. He turned out to be Allan's nephew (Allan's brothers child). Very nice guy, we chatted a few times. He didn't know Allan, had only heard of him. He knew there was angst in the family because his dad always felt their mom preferred Allan the adopted son over Craig the biological son. The brothers didn't keep in touch, their mom was a force to be reckoned with and their dad died at a relatively young age. So I was back at square one. Eventually through hours of endless searching, I came across something on Google, it was a california birth index or something like that and when you enter a name, it will return with Allan Doe..... born on xxxxx, mother's maiden name... xxxxx, if this person is alive they will be X amount of years old. There was a secondary page with a list of names that you could click. So I go through a couple of names and I get to the B's and I clicked on a name. It said Bxxxxx (last name) born on xxxx, mother's maiden name is XXXX... Holy moly, that is the name of Allan's first wife! There I go back to facebook to see if I can find anyone with that name. I find one person, ONE PERSON. I message him. I apologize for the intrusion and ask if he knows Allan XXXX. He responded later in the day and said that his birth certificate shows Allan as his father but he doesn't know him because Allan left when he was a baby. I had just found my brother, a brother I never knew existed. Trying to talk to him was like pulling teeth. He thought at first I was Craig's daughter, I said no.... I am Allan's daughter. He pretty much shut down after that. He said he had tried looking for Allan years ago, his search netted zero informatnion (see the similarities here?) so he gave up. I tried reaching out again and asking if we could get to know each other. I realized this was probably a huge shock for him, it certainly wasn't what I was expecting to find but he only read the message and never responded. Growing up, I was prepared to forgive him for abandoning me. Maybe he had his reasons, maybe he didn't have a choice but I was prepared to listen and make my own decisions. Instantly I know I wouldn't be able to forgive a man that abandoned two of his children. He denied us both a relationship with him and with each other. There is zero information anywhere on the net regarding Allan or his wife. No divorce record, no social security death index. I suspect he might have assumed a new identity. My mother did say he was always in trouble with the law so maybe he is being hidden by the feds. I don't know. I have terminated my search for me. I messaged Craig and thanked him for being so great in chatting with me. I think we would have been great cousins growing up had we been afforded that opportunity but the fact remains, I am not a XXXX(last name) by blood so I felt there wasn't a need to try and make a family bond with Craig. The sad part of this ordeal, I will never know who I am or where half of my family is from. The only good thing that came out of this is I know I am nothing like my father. I loved my children and raised them to the best of my ability which is something he didn't do for us. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HeartGoesOn Posted January 26, 2018 Share Posted January 26, 2018 I'm sorry to hear this MamaMet, but it looks like you gave it your all. It's great to hear from you again. Take care... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Silverbirch Posted January 26, 2018 Share Posted January 26, 2018 Shuts Mama Met. How good to hear from you! Sorry that your search fir your father didn't turn out as well as it could have. There is still a chance you will find out more later if that is what you want to do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dias Posted January 26, 2018 Share Posted January 26, 2018 Wow! What somebody can find with a DNA test! 23% Italian/Greek is enough to welcome you to the Mediterranean family :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
metrogirl Posted January 26, 2018 Author Share Posted January 26, 2018 LOL... Thank you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Silverbirch Posted January 26, 2018 Share Posted January 26, 2018 So sorry for my autocorrect spellcheck. Of course I meant Hi Mama! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
metrogirl Posted January 26, 2018 Author Share Posted January 26, 2018 No worries..... I wanted to go and edit and post and couldn't recall if we could still edit or if the edit feature was only good for x amount of time like it used to be back in the day. lol I have spent way too much time away and I forgot how all of this works. :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jibralta Posted January 26, 2018 Share Posted January 26, 2018 I had just found my brother, a brother I never knew existed. Trying to talk to him was like pulling teeth. He thought at first I was Craig's daughter, I said no.... I am Allan's daughter. He pretty much shut down after that. He said he had tried looking for Allan years ago, his search netted zero informatnion (see the similarities here?) so he gave up. I tried reaching out again and asking if we could get to know each other. I realized this was probably a huge shock for him, it certainly wasn't what I was expecting to find but he only read the message and never responded. Something like this recently happened to me. I was given up for adoption at birth, so I never knew who my biological parents were. I took the Ancestry DNA test and found my biological father and three siblings. I contacted all of them. One responded, but after a few exchanges communication dropped off. He was the youngest of the siblings, and I think his older brother and sister must have throttled him & made him stop talking to me. LOL. The older brother never responded and blocked me. The sister and the father never responded. It was only a couple of weeks ago. It would be nice to meet them, but I'm not going to force them. ....and my boyfriend just got home in the middle of me writing this with an early birthday present--a 23andMe DNA kit! Let's see what kind of havoc I can wreak with this baby.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
metrogirl Posted January 27, 2018 Author Share Posted January 27, 2018 Something like this recently happened to me. I was given up for adoption at birth, so I never knew who my biological parents were. I took the Ancestry DNA test and found my biological father and three siblings. I contacted all of them. One responded, but after a few exchanges communication dropped off. He was the youngest of the siblings, and I think his older brother and sister must have throttled him & made him stop talking to me. LOL. The older brother never responded and blocked me. The sister and the father never responded. It was only a couple of weeks ago. It would be nice to meet them, but I'm not going to force them. ....and my boyfriend just got home in the middle of me writing this with an early birthday present--a 23andMe DNA kit! Let's see what kind of havoc I can wreak with this baby.... Wow, that really sucks. I'm sorry it didn't work out for you either. I grew up an only child, always envied my friends that had siblings. It was scary to find out I had a brother but also really neat. I'm saddened that he isn't as curious about me as I am him. I see his facebook, the pictures of his son and grandchildren. They are my blood, a nephew. How cool would that have been? I always wanted to be a sister and an aunt. I would have been an awesome aunt. :( Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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