ElMeroMero Posted January 16, 2010 Share Posted January 16, 2010 heres a question for ya is it normal for a girl with a boyfriend that she's been with for 2+ years to ask a new "guy friend" out to lunch, movies etc.... Just the two of us? The only time she mentions he bf is when I ask her a question that triggers her having to bring him up. it's confusing.. but i don't mind. What the hell does that mean? friendliness, or is it some kind of signal? Link to comment
Ivory_Tower Posted January 16, 2010 Share Posted January 16, 2010 How do you know this girl? Have you been friends for a long time? Link to comment
jengh Posted January 16, 2010 Share Posted January 16, 2010 I have a serious boyfriend and quite a few male friends who I go out to lunch with, to movies with, etc. For me, it's totally normal. My boyfriend also hangs out with his female friends alone. We trust each other and are secure with the relationship. I do find it odd that she doesn't mention her boyfriend though. Link to comment
ElMeroMero Posted January 16, 2010 Author Share Posted January 16, 2010 @iLoveMyBabyCairo That may true. I don't know, is it different for grown folks and teenagers? is it normal for teenagers? We're both in high school. I'm 17, & she just turned 17. & That is odd. The only timed she's spoken about her boy friend was when I asked her a couple of questions that kinda forced her to bring him up. Other than that, she doesn't mention a word about him. @Ivory_Tower I know her from school, we have a couple of classes together and we started talking to each other a couple months ago. Then just recently did we start talking outside of school. Less than a week ago actually. Link to comment
jengh Posted January 16, 2010 Share Posted January 16, 2010 @iLoveMyBabyCairo That may true. I don't know, is it different for grown folks and teenagers? is it normal for teenagers? We're both in high school. I'm 17, & she just turned 17. & That is odd. The only timed she's spoken about her boy friend was when I asked her a couple of questions that kinda forced her to bring him up. Other than that, she doesn't mention a word about him. @Ivory_Tower I know her from school, we have a couple of classes together and we started talking to each other a couple months ago. Then just recently did we start talking outside of school. Less than a week ago actually. Oh lord, am I a grown folk now? haha. I don't think it's necessarily different. I had sooo many guy friends in high school and a boyfriend. It's possible she's not overly serious about her relationship though. Link to comment
ElMeroMero Posted January 16, 2010 Author Share Posted January 16, 2010 @iLoveMyBabyCairo Sorry, in your case, I meant to ask if it is different for OLD LADIES and teenagers! XD Jk! She likes to flirt though! It's just a guessing game for me it seems. Is it her being friendly or is she into me? Who knows... Link to comment
jul-els Posted January 16, 2010 Share Posted January 16, 2010 Sounds like odd behavior at least. I've never known a girl who had a serious boyfriend to pick out a new guy and start asking him to do things. Kinda strange. The best way to find out is to ask her if it bothers her boyfriend that the two of you are hanging out. Link to comment
jengh Posted January 16, 2010 Share Posted January 16, 2010 @iLoveMyBabyCairo Sorry, in your case, I meant to ask if it is different for OLD LADIES and teenagers! XD Jk! She likes to flirt though! It's just a guessing game for me it seems. Is it her being friendly or is she into me? Who knows... Oh, you'd better watch it! Link to comment
Malakh Posted January 16, 2010 Share Posted January 16, 2010 She may go to the movies and dinners with you but she will not get physically intimate with you. She will do that only with her boyfriend. You are basically a boyfriend without benefits that satisfies her emotional and social needs while she uses her real boyfriend for her sexual needs. Pardon my directness but that is the truth. Link to comment
ElMeroMero Posted January 16, 2010 Author Share Posted January 16, 2010 Dang, that sucks if it's true! Link to comment
Malakh Posted January 16, 2010 Share Posted January 16, 2010 Dang, that sucks if it's true! It is the truth my friend. You are the guy that will go to the movies and dinners with her (just the two of you). Her boyfriend is the guy that will get the actual benefits of the relationship (sex). IMO she is using you. Run away from her. Link to comment
ElMeroMero Posted January 16, 2010 Author Share Posted January 16, 2010 How are you so sure brother?!? There's a million things that could happen. Right? Link to comment
greywolf Posted January 16, 2010 Share Posted January 16, 2010 If you were an old friend of hers, I'd find that completely normal. It's more confusing if you're someone she hasn't known that long. Have you ever seen her bf? Is he around much? Link to comment
Malakh Posted January 16, 2010 Share Posted January 16, 2010 How are you so sure brother?!? There's a million things that could happen. Right? Of course I cannot say with 100% guarantee but the two things in your OP makes me feel that I am correct: a new "guy friend" out to lunch, movies etc.... Just the two of us? The only time she mentions he bf is when I ask her a question that triggers her having to bring him up. Link to comment
ElMeroMero Posted January 16, 2010 Author Share Posted January 16, 2010 If you were an old friend of hers, I'd find that completely normal. It's more confusing if you're someone she hasn't known that long. Have you ever seen her bf? Is he around much? Nope! Couldn't even tell you what he looks like. I'm pretty sure he goes to a different school. I'm assuming he's a skinny whiteboy. No offense to anyone. & Well, I'm tall, dark and handsome. Link to comment
ElMeroMero Posted January 16, 2010 Author Share Posted January 16, 2010 Of course I cannot say with 100% guarantee but the two things in your OP makes me feel that I am correct So I guess I'll have to stick around to find out if that's true. If it is, then I'll run away! Link to comment
greywolf Posted January 16, 2010 Share Posted January 16, 2010 How are you so sure brother?!? There's a million things that could happen. Right? Do you really want to get involved in all the drama that'll cause? Link to comment
ElMeroMero Posted January 16, 2010 Author Share Posted January 16, 2010 What's the worse that can happen though? She dumps the guy and comes out with me is the best thing that could happen. Link to comment
Malakh Posted January 16, 2010 Share Posted January 16, 2010 So I guess I'll have to stick around to find out if that's true. If it is, then I'll run away! You don't have to stick around to find out. Ask her out for dinner and then kiss her. Her reaction will give you the answer Link to comment
ElMeroMero Posted January 16, 2010 Author Share Posted January 16, 2010 You don't have to stick around to find out. Ask her out for dinner and then kiss her. Her reaction will give you the answer Sounds like a good idea. Link to comment
ElMeroMero Posted January 16, 2010 Author Share Posted January 16, 2010 Oh, you'd better watch it! Yes ma'am. Sorry. Link to comment
Joshb Posted January 16, 2010 Share Posted January 16, 2010 i would not be a big fan of my gf going to movies with guys...lunch is fine, things like that. However i look at one on one opposite sex movies more of a date thing, thats just me. the few girl friends i have we talk every now and then, maybe hang out every once in awhile, lunch or happy hour, but i wouldnt go to movies unless it was with my gf. Link to comment
ElMeroMero Posted January 16, 2010 Author Share Posted January 16, 2010 keep in mind that this isn't an old friend that i've known for years. because going out alone with an old lady friend or guy friend is normal. this is a girl that ive recently become freinds with. Link to comment
ElMeroMero Posted January 18, 2010 Author Share Posted January 18, 2010 Oh yeah, and when she does speak on him. she refers to him as if he was a god! Anymore advice guys?! Still confused here... Link to comment
Malakh Posted January 18, 2010 Share Posted January 18, 2010 Oh yeah, and when she does speak on him. she refers to him as if he was a god! Anymore advice guys?! Still confused here... What exactly do you want from her? Do you want to date her? Link to comment
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