SapphireNoir10 Posted November 13, 2009 Author Share Posted November 13, 2009 Ac, I just never expected him to walk away. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ac143 Posted November 13, 2009 Share Posted November 13, 2009 Ac, I just never expected him to walk away. I dont want to be mean, but I really hope he does cause he will do you a HUGE favor by leaving. Seriously. Good normal BF's dont do what he's doing. Since you want to be with him so bad & he seems like he needs help. Have you ever considered counseling together? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cognitive_Canine Posted November 13, 2009 Share Posted November 13, 2009 Honestly, it either sounds like he's having some type of mental breakdown Or he's just really bad at breaking up. Or maybe he's having a mental breakdown because of the breakup. Either way, this isn't normal behaviour and if he did come back, I'd be weary of his inability to handle things. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SapphireNoir10 Posted November 13, 2009 Author Share Posted November 13, 2009 he wont even speak to me...or anyone. I dont think he would. I dont know what to do right now. I havent eaten I can't. I feel so sick. I just dont get that text Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
doiiiieeezie Posted November 13, 2009 Share Posted November 13, 2009 Don't read into it at all... it is cryptic. He sounds like he has lost it to be honest. My recommendation? Sit tight and enjoy your weekend as much as you can... and don't even respond to him or txt him at all. It will be a while before he does get his ducks in a row. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SapphireNoir10 Posted November 13, 2009 Author Share Posted November 13, 2009 I litrerally feel like I cant cope. The person I want to turn to is his. But hes whose hurting me. I wish he had said it was over too, so I wouldnt have to analyse that text. I dont know is he playing a game or what? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
diamond78 Posted November 13, 2009 Share Posted November 13, 2009 CC, reading that text. Do you think it sounds like a serious break up text? Or just him getting angry/insecure? What if all of us were to say that yes, it sounds like a break-up text... Then what?? I hope you'll figure out what I'm trying to get at here... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SapphireNoir10 Posted November 13, 2009 Author Share Posted November 13, 2009 Im looking for an answer onlyhe can give Which I shouldnt BE waiting for. I JUST WISH I could understand it thats all, it'd help me move on if i could. If it was like 'oh yeah thats an 'its over' text' Id have too Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DaBladeRoden Posted November 13, 2009 Share Posted November 13, 2009 Why does he have to be the one to break it up? Why can't you break up with him for being an evasive two-faced liar? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SapphireNoir10 Posted November 13, 2009 Author Share Posted November 13, 2009 Im stuck on the good. stuck on blaming myself. Stuck on the panic of losing him, not thinking rationally. I just want my answer. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gsxr104 Posted November 13, 2009 Share Posted November 13, 2009 Wait a second. I disagree with that. I'm definitely a guy with all the parts to prove it and I certqainly have never bailed. Now if a guy uses the "L" word and bails, chances are he just wanted to use you, tkae you for granted and get in your pants. There may be a majority, but we're not all like that. And Blue, I think people are right here when they say you can do a lot better. Tell this joke it's over and watch what comes beating on your door and ringing your phone. It won't be long before you have a line of guys waiting for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SapphireNoir10 Posted November 13, 2009 Author Share Posted November 13, 2009 Its literally tormenting me I wanted to get what you guys thought of the text because its so confusing Half of me thinks he'll be back half of me doesnt Part of me knows I wont know what to do if he does or if he doesnt. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
doiiiieeezie Posted November 13, 2009 Share Posted November 13, 2009 The L word is used too liberally these days I agree.... Blue won't see this by what is said in here, it will be her that has to realize that this guy doesn't value himself, let alone his family. How can he value her? Don't decipher the text.. just try to get some rest and ignore his antics. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SapphireNoir10 Posted November 13, 2009 Author Share Posted November 13, 2009 Its hard because I like answers. I wish I knew where his head was. do you think its games of power and manipulation? Words of wisdom to get over him please! Stories? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SapphireNoir10 Posted November 13, 2009 Author Share Posted November 13, 2009 Im paralysed How could someone say they loved me/etc for nearly fifteen months Then drop me? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miss Firecracker Posted November 13, 2009 Share Posted November 13, 2009 Let it go, Blue. Just let it go. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
doiiiieeezie Posted November 13, 2009 Share Posted November 13, 2009 He doesn't know himself, Blue. Just really, let it go. Get some sleep. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ruffles Posted November 13, 2009 Share Posted November 13, 2009 No Blue, he wasn't breaking up with you. He created a reason out of nowhere to disappear from you and from reality, apparently, since he has ignored family contact as well, and he's doing SOMETHING ELSE. Stop worrying about yourself, and think about it, he's also doing this to his PARENTS for goodness sakes! Something is up with him, these disappearing acts, and it has nothing to do with you other than that you let him do it to you, by picking up with him afterwards. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SapphireNoir10 Posted November 14, 2009 Author Share Posted November 14, 2009 Its like he wont believe I love him or anything and he gets insecure and goes off on one about how he can't do anything right. I just wish he'd give me an answer. Thats all I ask of him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SapphireNoir10 Posted November 14, 2009 Author Share Posted November 14, 2009 If one of you guys got that..what the heck would you think/do? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ruffles Posted November 14, 2009 Share Posted November 14, 2009 Its like he wont believe I love him or anything and he gets insecure and goes off on one about how he can't do anything right. I just wish he'd give me an answer. Thats all I ask of him. Blue, what does it mean to you, what I pointed out, that he disappears from other significant people in his life besides just you? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SapphireNoir10 Posted November 14, 2009 Author Share Posted November 14, 2009 Well he text us all one text each saying not to worry to his mum/dad/brother. but, now they are trying to call him he wont pick up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ruffles Posted November 14, 2009 Share Posted November 14, 2009 Ok. But what does it mean to you that he's ditching everyone, not just you? What does it tell you? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SapphireNoir10 Posted November 14, 2009 Author Share Posted November 14, 2009 I dont know. I don't understand it. Maybe he has just snapped and hates me. How can he ignore my texts saying 'please tell me if its over' Does he not know?! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lavenderdove Posted November 14, 2009 Share Posted November 14, 2009 Look, the person he is is someone who disappears when he gets angry or annoyed or just gets a wild hair and wants to be alone for a while. And if you're the kind of person who can't tolerate someone who does this and has a mental meltdown when it happens, then it will never work. You are not acting like someone in love, you are acting like someone who has made this guy your obsession. Sometimes people fit together like a lock and key in positive ways, and sometimes their own weak spots fit together in a perfect kind of hell on earth, which you are experiencing now. You need to get some counseling to understand why you freak out like an abandoned one year old when it's mother leaves the room. And why you are dependent on HIM to tell you whether the relationship is on or off. You are letting him control your emotions, and turning over all your emotional power to him, and you hang on his every word and breath. I personally wouldn't take that message as a breakup text, i would take it more like he is really angry with you, and wants to go off on his own to scratch his mad spot. Then he'll just wait you out until your separation anxiety takes over, and you come crawling back to him begging him to forgive you for something HE did. That is a really sick dynamic honey, and you need to get some therapy to understand why all this has nothing to do with love or a good relationship. It doesn't matter what you like about him, it has turned into a really bad scene for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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