whitetiger7654 Posted October 29, 2009 Share Posted October 29, 2009 For those that haven't read the previous posts. I broke up with my long time g/f Monday night. I haven't seen her or talked to her since. But I just don't miss her. I feel more relieved than anything. What does this mean? Did I fall out of love? This sucks because we spent so many years together and I do truly care and love her as a person. I just don't feel the emotional and physical connection anymore. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vdub Posted October 29, 2009 Share Posted October 29, 2009 maybe you two need to spend time together and try to reconnect...sometimes this happens in long term relationships. Have heart to hearts together and be more open with your feelings. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vertigoxo Posted October 29, 2009 Share Posted October 29, 2009 All break ups feel like a relief at first. But then after some time, you will start to miss her. This is normal and natural, of course. By then, you two will have to figure out if you two do want each other back, or if it's better to cut your losses and move on for real. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Casey13 Posted October 29, 2009 Share Posted October 29, 2009 This is a good sign for you because it reaffirms the fact that you are better off with out her. Nothing worse than dumping someone because logically they don't make sense for you but having to fight your emotions because you miss them terribly. In your case, your mind and emotions towards her are in sinc and thus the feeling of relief. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vdub Posted October 29, 2009 Share Posted October 29, 2009 I would have to disagree...as a counselor...long term relationships tend to develop these emotions...you feel as though maybe you might be better with someone else...but its your mind that perceives this behavior and gets you to think about it. You two have been together for a longtime these emotions are going to come up...it would be foolish try end it without working on it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
karvala Posted October 29, 2009 Share Posted October 29, 2009 Well Monday night is still early days; the novelty of the situation can still keep you going at the moment. See how you feel in two weeks time, when it's no longer exciting and different, but is becoming real. Sometimes, though, breakups are like that. When I broke up with my ex, is was such a long time coming that I almost felt healed before it even officially happened, and it wasn't too bad at all. The previous breakup by contrast, was out of the blue and led to total meltdown. Your life situation (what else you have going on, who else is around to distract you etc.) can also make a big difference. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whitetiger7654 Posted October 29, 2009 Author Share Posted October 29, 2009 Your life situation (what else you have going on, who else is around to distract you etc.) can also make a big difference. Currently all I have is distractions. Full time job, 2 other female roommates, 4 dogs, and I'm applying to law school. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vdub Posted October 29, 2009 Share Posted October 29, 2009 although, you have distractions and everyone does..its called life...you have to work through the distractions to make a positive difference in your relationship. I wouldn't give up yet...like you said you still care and love her...there is still something there! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AntiLove_SuperStar Posted October 29, 2009 Share Posted October 29, 2009 Its quite normal. Your feelings might well change in the coming weeks however so just be prepared and go easy on yourself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ms Darcy Posted October 29, 2009 Share Posted October 29, 2009 Wow, how did she react when you told her? Are you two still living together? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
whitetiger7654 Posted October 29, 2009 Author Share Posted October 29, 2009 Wow, how did she react when you told her? Are you two still living together? Yes and No. I told her I didn't want to force her out of the house and I would sleep on the couch. But she took off to her moms house the next morning and haven't seen or talked to her since. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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