yellowbird512 Posted September 23, 2009 Share Posted September 23, 2009 So, I'm having problems with my roommate. In a nutshell, she's cheating on her boyfriend and basically flaunting it in front of everyone. We share a room, and she has him sleep over and they do "things" while I'm in the room. I have had my boyfriend sleep over but we did nothing but sleep while she is in the room. The whole situation makes me really uncomfortable. I don't know if I should say anything to her about it or not. Any thoughts? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hers Posted September 23, 2009 Share Posted September 23, 2009 Have you told her it makes you uncomfortable for her to fool around with you in the room? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Daligal83 Posted September 23, 2009 Share Posted September 23, 2009 Yea you need to tell her otherwise she won't know it's bothering you. Maybe you can suggest making an arrangement where you'll stay with your boyfriend for the night if she wants to have him over, as long as it doesn't happen too often. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Daligal83 Posted September 23, 2009 Share Posted September 23, 2009 Oh and I'm not supporting her cheating...but that's her issue to deal with, not yours. It just lets you know what kind of person she is. I think it is OK to let her know that you are uncomfortable with the situation and would prefer that she does not expose you to it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bella20 Posted September 23, 2009 Share Posted September 23, 2009 Yes, tell her. She does stuff while you're in the room? That's very classy... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yellowbird512 Posted September 23, 2009 Author Share Posted September 23, 2009 -my boyfriend goes to school at UMass Lowell, I'm in New Haven CT -we made a roommate contract that states that it's okay for boyfriends to sleep over..., but I don't want to like, judge her situation or anything. -we've had a really good relationship besides all this stuff. Thanks guys! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hers Posted September 23, 2009 Share Posted September 23, 2009 Add an addendum to your contract to say you should be respectful of others in the room and while it's ok for boyfriends to sleep over, please keep your sex life private. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yellowbird512 Posted September 23, 2009 Author Share Posted September 23, 2009 Thanks so much guys, I'll probably bring it up eventually but it's just really awkward, since she doesn't feel like she's actually doing anything that would upset her real boyfriend. I'll fill you guys in if that conversation actually happens. Do you think it is wrong of me to not want this other guy sleeping here? He's a mutual friend in a way so I don't want to estrange either of them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hers Posted September 23, 2009 Share Posted September 23, 2009 Her affair is not your business. I'd stay out of that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yellowbird512 Posted September 23, 2009 Author Share Posted September 23, 2009 yeah, that was my gut feeling. such an awkward situationnnn. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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