Johan Posted September 19, 2009 Share Posted September 19, 2009 Hi guys/girls, I am a bit new here but I would really appreciate your advice. My problem is I don't know if I am gay, straight or bi I am 24 years old and I have never had a serious relationship and when I do have a relationship it usually last only for a week, my dad was a cop and was killed before I was even 2 years old, my mom raised me alone, and I really had no older males in my life while growing up only my mom. One of the guys when I was still at school told a couple of girls I am gay and then at varsity one of the girls asked me if I am gay... Since then its been bothering me, am I gay cause why do everyone else think so I think, I am believing what everyone else is saying, even when I am with girls I think, do they know I am gay or maybe think I am gay as well. I have also thought about maybe looking at gay porn or tried to think about 2 guys having sex and no offence but I think its very gross Sometimes though I have thought about kissing another guy and lately when watching porn I will get that feeling that I want to lick my lips if they shown a guys penis while having sex with a girl. BUT AGAIN thinking about doing something like that now is a bit disturbing. Searching google for "how did you know you were gay" most guys said they knew at a very young age between 10 and 15. I on the other hand looked at girls and even thought about having sex with a lot of the girls in school. I am so confused about my sexual orientation that I don't even have any sexual feelings anymore towards either girls or guys. I am so confused! I am even contemplating going to a gay club just to see what happens. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chiefoptimizer Posted September 19, 2009 Share Posted September 19, 2009 Hey man! Sounds like you're straight You're only gay if you like men in a romantic/sexual way. The fact that you don't seem to appreciate women anymore may be some form of depression? Don't let people define you by a label. It's a recurrent topic here, labels describe you, they don't define you. You do what feels right. If you feel like going to a gay club, then go for it, if it's not your thing, then don't - it's that simple! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
krettler Posted September 19, 2009 Share Posted September 19, 2009 i agree with chief you sound like ur stright, but if people start to tell you things they can start to put doubts in your head. just because other people think u may be gay doesnt mean you are, i know a few guys who the entire school thinks are gay other than A FEW PEOPLE and they are not gay . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ceez Posted September 20, 2009 Share Posted September 20, 2009 yea, your straight. I was one of the ones who found out they were gay between 10 and 15(maybe round 11). but if you want to be 100% sure and go to a gay club then go for it, just don't listen to what other people say bout you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Johan Posted September 20, 2009 Author Share Posted September 20, 2009 hehe thanks guys and also thanks for the advice Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lukeb Posted September 20, 2009 Share Posted September 20, 2009 The only thing that makes me question is the fact that you are questioning it at all. I cant help but find it bizarre that you don't know something about yourself that should be as plain as the nose on your face. I mean how can you not know? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chiguy Posted September 21, 2009 Share Posted September 21, 2009 You're straight dude, congratulations, I'm jealous...Anyway I knew I was gay since I was 4, but I'm still closeted about it. I know they say sexuality isn't black and white, but based on what I've experienced, if you were like me you'd definitely be greatly aroused by just looking at a "hot" guy, if you're not then I think it's safe to say that you are mostly, if not entirely, straight. Perhaps you need to work on your confidence a bit, that can definitely detract from your sex drive. Oddly enough I have noticed I am slightly attracted to girls when I feel more confident about myself...guys still do it for me all the time though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chiefoptimizer Posted September 21, 2009 Share Posted September 21, 2009 You're straight dude, congratulations, lolwut? ...... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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