hers Posted September 22, 2009 Share Posted September 22, 2009 I think it all still says he's into you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CoCo2009 Posted September 22, 2009 Author Share Posted September 22, 2009 I wonder why he won't just pick up the phone talk to me for a few minutes and ask me out on a date then. We went out last weekend but not this weekend and he won't call, he keeps logging on to that damn AIM. He responds when I text him but his ass will not pick up the phone and call. I even took the initiative last week and called him to say hi...NEVER AGAIN. Where are all the normal guys? rawr lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
annie24 Posted September 22, 2009 Share Posted September 22, 2009 lol, well why don't YOU log off of AIM and see what happens!!! or if you have to go on, stay 'invisible.' Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CoCo2009 Posted September 22, 2009 Author Share Posted September 22, 2009 You know why? Because deep down inside I fear that I will never hear from him again, or he will think I don't like him anymore because we have been talking on there everyday since we first met. lol So lame huh? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hers Posted September 22, 2009 Share Posted September 22, 2009 You're giving yourself mixed signals. Get off aim and let him call you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CoCo2009 Posted September 22, 2009 Author Share Posted September 22, 2009 ok we will see what happens i wont sign on tomorrow Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NightLily Posted September 22, 2009 Share Posted September 22, 2009 ok we will see what happens i wont sign on tomorrow Good luck Coco. Stay strong. We are both coming so far Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CoCo2009 Posted September 22, 2009 Author Share Posted September 22, 2009 WE CAN DO THIS! I'm going to be strong. yikes! lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
annie24 Posted September 22, 2009 Share Posted September 22, 2009 give it a few days of not signing in!!! and then i bet he'll call you or email you and ask what you've been up to. just tell him you've been busy, casually. i bet he'll ask you out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CoCo2009 Posted September 22, 2009 Author Share Posted September 22, 2009 I hope so, I'm not going to sign in for a few days at least...I'm so nervous. hahaha Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BriarRose Posted September 22, 2009 Share Posted September 22, 2009 Honestly I feel weird because his conversation is just so casual, he hardly says anything over AIM...he hardly says anything. He isn't asking me out either. I'm kinda annoyed...loll I don't know why but I am. lol .. If he's not asking you out, don't give him another thought. Move on to others. Stop wasting your time and emotional energy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ariel85 Posted September 22, 2009 Share Posted September 22, 2009 Wow. Though I applaud you for being proactive, I think you pulled the trigger way WAY too soon. I thought you were going to say you've been dating 3 months, not 3 dates! To ask a guy the "where is this going" question after only 3 dates, is like outting yourself as being needy, clingy, insecure and desperate. Yes, we ALL would love to have assurance from the first date of what will happen, so we don't get hurt, but I think pressuring a guy like this is only going to make him run. And I think it's unfair for you to call him out for not calling you, when you sabotaged this and made him bolt. Next time, RELAX. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CoCo2009 Posted September 22, 2009 Author Share Posted September 22, 2009 Yeah I guess I messed up, but he wasn't even calling me before I made the email. I didn't ask him to be exclusive really I just asked him if he could see it happenening. I guess thats bad enough though. Oh well... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hers Posted September 22, 2009 Share Posted September 22, 2009 He didn't run off though. He's still contacting you. Don't write him off yet. His response was very mature. As opposed to running away at a girl telling her feelings I mean. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CoCo2009 Posted September 22, 2009 Author Share Posted September 22, 2009 I feel stupid but its not like I can go back in time and change it. I mean I guess I was wondering because we communicated everyday and my feelings started to get strong. I don't know. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Batya33 Posted September 22, 2009 Share Posted September 22, 2009 I feel stupid but its not like I can go back in time and change it. I mean I guess I was wondering because we communicated everyday and my feelings started to get strong. I don't know. Then you need to develop a thicker skin and make sure you have a fun fulfilling life so that you can choose not to react to strong feelings that early on or you don't develop them in the first place. Also consider that your feelings might be strong because he is a challenge, not because you care for him as a person. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hers Posted September 22, 2009 Share Posted September 22, 2009 Agree with batya! What's to feel stupid about? Sometimes in life things don't go as we'd like and we regret what we did but what's the point? Can't change it. Can just learn from it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CoCo2009 Posted September 22, 2009 Author Share Posted September 22, 2009 Yeah I guess so, I guess I wish that I wouldn't have done it now because I ruined things. I guess thats it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hers Posted September 22, 2009 Share Posted September 22, 2009 And what was said went one ear and out the other.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CoCo2009 Posted September 22, 2009 Author Share Posted September 22, 2009 No it didn't I know what you are saying. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hers Posted September 22, 2009 Share Posted September 22, 2009 So say it! Say "what's done is done and I'm not gonna bother worrying about it!" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CoCo2009 Posted September 22, 2009 Author Share Posted September 22, 2009 Yeah thats what I'm doing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CoCo2009 Posted September 22, 2009 Author Share Posted September 22, 2009 Do you think it was rude of me to not respond to his email? I didn't even think about that, I didn't even respond. lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hers Posted September 22, 2009 Share Posted September 22, 2009 nah, not if you've talked to him since then. just don't bring it up unless he does! and if he does, act with dignity and understandin! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ariel85 Posted September 22, 2009 Share Posted September 22, 2009 Yeah I guess I messed up, but he wasn't even calling me before I made the email. I didn't ask him to be exclusive really I just asked him if he could see it happenening. I guess thats bad enough though. Oh well... Seriously? So, he hasn't been calling, you've only had three days, and then you decide to ask him if he sees you as LTR material. Coco - I know you know this was the wrong way to handle this, so that point can be left behind. BUT, in order to make this a true learning opportunity, what do you think made you behave like this? Is this a historic pattern? Or, coming from a new place? Because I think in order to really prevent this in the future, you need to understand the motivation that drove the actions. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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