psychokat Posted September 10, 2009 Share Posted September 10, 2009 I'm fairly new to online dating. And I've been on two first dates recently that I met on an online dating service. Nice guys, but in the context of our conversations they both asked how long of a subscription did I buy for the service? And how often do I check my profile? Me being an honest person, I said 3 months, explaining that it made sense price wise. And I said I check it whenever I need to/every couple of days. I stopped myself from going into detail of "well basically whenever I get notified of a message via my yahoo email." They both gave me a "huh" response, like "oh, I'm disappointed to hear that" response. Anyway my question is...why would they ask such a thing? I mean we both know we're online dating - it's clear we both using a dating service and it takes effort to find people. Perhaps, my question more to the point - in your experience is this a sign of insecurity? It seems to me that it's a silly question to ask on a first date and I'm left wondering if its a sign of someone who lacks confidence or maybe something else I can't put my finger on...Or should I not read into it and its par for the course in online dating. Thanks in advance for your input. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laura11111 Posted September 10, 2009 Share Posted September 10, 2009 Hey there, Yeah...those are definitely strange questions to ask. I don't understand their reactions either. Why would they be dissappointed to hear that? I've met quite a few people online and have never been asked how often I check my messages. I have had a number of dates where we've talked about the online dating experience but it's just been for conversation. Hmmm...strange. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
annie24 Posted September 10, 2009 Share Posted September 10, 2009 yeah, those are strange questions! i've never had a man ask me those on a date. i've had them casually inquire how the dating site is going (i think they are trying to ask if i am dating someone more special than the rest....) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hers Posted September 10, 2009 Share Posted September 10, 2009 I think they'd say they're disappointed b/c it may seem like you let the guys do all the work--instead of writing guys first, you wait for guys to write you. Just my thought on it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jul-els Posted September 10, 2009 Share Posted September 10, 2009 Sounds like they're either desperate, childish, or both. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
flash83 Posted September 10, 2009 Share Posted September 10, 2009 i only bring up talk about the online dating website if i am not interested in the person and just want to get a girl's take on it. this is because there isn't really much to talk about or i don't feel the chemistry. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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