CoCo2009 Posted September 3, 2009 Author Share Posted September 3, 2009 I did it and he said yes...but WHY DIDN'T HE ASK?! So weird..hmmmm I said "what are you doing this weekend, do you work?" and he said I work until 3pm. Then I said "do you want me to drive out and see you?" and he said yes...that was it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
renaissancewoman101 Posted September 3, 2009 Share Posted September 3, 2009 I did it and he said yes...but WHY DIDN'T HE ASK?! So weird..hmmmm I said "what are you doing this weekend, do you work?" and he said I work until 3pm. Then I said "do you want me to drive out and see you?" and he said yes...that was it. Good for you for asking, you took the initiative. Now you will see him this week. Is there firm plans for date and time (even though you are driving out to see him)? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hers Posted September 3, 2009 Share Posted September 3, 2009 Who cares if he didn't ask. You're still seeing him, aren't you? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CoCo2009 Posted September 3, 2009 Author Share Posted September 3, 2009 Good for you for asking, you took the initiative. Now you will see him this week. Is there firm plans for date and time (even though you are driving out to see him)? He said he will know what time for sure tomorrow. But we will be going out on Saturday. Hersmudders I guess I thought that he should ask because I asked last time...maybe not..I could be wrong. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hers Posted September 3, 2009 Share Posted September 3, 2009 If you like him, ask him. He'll ask you when he needs to if he likes you. No need to take turns or play anything. If you feel something, go after it. If you feel you need to back off, back off. But don't overthink. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ammy Posted September 4, 2009 Share Posted September 4, 2009 I think given that he is stressed, the not asking out thing isn't such a worry. Do you guys talk over the phone? I just think AIM is a difficult way to discuss real issues / concerns. It is great that he shared his worries with you though - to me this is a sign of trust and emotional connection (even in the early stages of it). As for the advice you gave - the best thing to do is listen and reflect and it sounds like that is what you did. What people want when they're stressed is for someone to understand that, to show their understanding (by reflecting back what they said) and to be supportive of that... and then maybe after they have had a chance to vent, to assist THEM in problem solving the situation... just don't rush to solutions and reassurance... validated the concerns and then see how the person is travelling... Ooops psych Ammy is coming out here (I'm an intern psychotherapist). Ammy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CoCo2009 Posted September 4, 2009 Author Share Posted September 4, 2009 Well I tried I don't really know if I did it correctly, we talk over the phone sometimes he called me on like Tuesday or something...I can't remember, we talk, text, or AIM..mostly aim though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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