DN Posted September 9, 2009 Share Posted September 9, 2009 Would anyone think it wrong if she were to visit him and he were to pay half of her ticket? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Siriana Posted September 9, 2009 Share Posted September 9, 2009 probably not. I am not saying it's fair. Its just the way it is. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DN Posted September 9, 2009 Share Posted September 9, 2009 probably not. I am not saying it's fair. Its just the way it is.It is only the way it is because people are choosing not to change it - and usually the people who least want to change it are those who benefit the most by the status quo. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
greywolf Posted September 9, 2009 Share Posted September 9, 2009 probably not. I am not saying it's fair. Its just the way it is. I could have once said that about slavery. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arsenal Posted September 9, 2009 Share Posted September 9, 2009 If you are a student without a job and he has a career, he should be the one paying for his trip without exception. It is a bad sign when you have to pay for half the expenses when he has the job. It means that the boyfriend is irresponsible with money and expects you to be able to make the sacrifices for the relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Siriana Posted September 9, 2009 Share Posted September 9, 2009 Well this is off topic, but I would give the same advice if she told he offered to pay for the half of her trip. Not a right way to do things. Would people in general have a problem with him paying for her trip? Not really. Do I agree with that - not really, but just because being a girl and allowing that makes you feel obligated to have sex. (oh I can't wait for people to react on this one) But anyway. I am talking about this particular situation. I don't think a guy should allow to a girl, who is he going to visit for the very first time after 3 years of online chatting, to pay for half of his trip. They are not bf and gf who are like together in RL for years and are splitting the cost of holiday. I think he should be a man enough to pay for his trip to her place. Later they can split the hotel bill or other expenses etc if they are staying together. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DN Posted September 9, 2009 Share Posted September 9, 2009 I disagree that it has anything to do with him being a man. It's simply two people who have a mutual interest in one another who are planning to meet and sharing the cost. It's no different than if they met halfway and paid their own expenses to get there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Siriana Posted September 9, 2009 Share Posted September 9, 2009 I believe that being capable to save enough money (he's working) is a sign of interest. But yeah. I agree to disagree. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lady00 Posted September 9, 2009 Share Posted September 9, 2009 I think the main issue is that you have never met him. He is essentially a stranger. I would not send money to a stranger. You have no way of knowing what he is doing. He could have other girlfriends that he is asking for money. Anything could be going on. I would offer to reimburse him. Then again, I would probably not meet a man under these circumstances that I have never met before or dated in person. Does not sound safe at all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lady00 Posted September 9, 2009 Share Posted September 9, 2009 I agree, and he may be a perfectly good guy. Problem is, if you set up a relationship that requires months of savings just to see one another, how viable is that really? I couldn't agree more. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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