kevinm Posted August 17, 2009 Share Posted August 17, 2009 Recently a friend of mine said her first impression of me was that I was reclusive and misanthropic. At first this bothered me slightly, but after thinking about it, I am those things. While I enjoy socializing with others, and I get lonely as heck at times, I certainly don't NEED anyone to keep myself busy and happy. My life right now has been particularly tough with the broken ankle cause it is seriously limiting my hobbies/work, but for the most part I'm content. So is it a bad thing to be reclusive? -Kevin Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hers Posted August 17, 2009 Share Posted August 17, 2009 you want to build a yert and live alone in the woods. i'd say that makes you reclusive. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Esteller Posted August 17, 2009 Share Posted August 17, 2009 its not a bad thing.. i can be that way sometimes. so what Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DN Posted August 17, 2009 Share Posted August 17, 2009 Being content when you are alone or being self-reliant is not being a recluse or misanthropic unless you are cutting yourself off from people entirely. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lusif Posted August 17, 2009 Share Posted August 17, 2009 As long as it's for the right reasons, you're okay When I'm reclusive, it's because I want to shut myself away, scared people will hurt me if I have an open heart, and scared of rejection, so I reject the world before it can reject me. It's just the same as a super-sociable person who can't face being on their own because they don't like the person they are, etc. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thejigsup Posted August 17, 2009 Share Posted August 17, 2009 I agree with DN. I like my own company and that is a healthy thing as long as I socialize with others when desired or necessary. Not being afraid of being alone is a strength, not a weakness. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kevinm Posted August 17, 2009 Author Share Posted August 17, 2009 Thanks for the comments guys. I just sort of live my life, if you're with me great, if not I don't stress about it. Like going to a movie or out to dinner or for a hike... I might call a friend or two to see if they can go, but if not I still end up going. I don't wait around for other people. I guess at times I feel judged for being reclusive, when I don't feel that spending time by myself is a bad thing. Like if I don't have a huge circle of friends and are always going out every Friday night then there is something "wrong" with me. -Kevin Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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