seren Posted July 8, 2009 Share Posted July 8, 2009 say your partner had an ex who they broke up because she was a traveller from another country and was young but your partner had stayed in touch with an ex (the ex b4 you) and had asked them for 'one last time' before they left the country. Your partners ex said no. your partner stayed in touch with the ex since than and it has now been 4 yrs. Now your partner has over this time explained to his ex that he had soft spot for her, had thought 'what if' about her, thought of her a bit and has asked for photos of her including naked ones etc, has told the ex that they could never see them again as they would be far toooo tempted to cheat. Say your partner also has sent numerous emails and online conversations with the ex saying he would definetly cheat to be with the ex even one last time. Your partner has also said that if they were single they would get their ex over ASAP. Your partner has also said they think of ways to get away with seeing the ex again and how they fantasise about them and that they feel like there is unfinished business bw them and the ex. Your partner also wishes they were single sometimes. When the ex asked your partner if they would be upset if you left your partner they replied 'i dunno, i so dunno.....life goes on'. your partner often mentions what he would like to do to and with the ex, not all of it sexual but some is. Your partner says they know it would be wrong but they are very tempted and would most prbably cheat if they ever saw the ex. how would you feel? what would you think about this? is it cheating? would you break up with them? Link to comment
top bloke Posted July 8, 2009 Share Posted July 8, 2009 Yes i would break up. They can have the ex. Link to comment
ToF Posted July 8, 2009 Share Posted July 8, 2009 Are you kidding? Get out of that, FAST. I have no idea why that person would be in a new relationship, but it sounds like their ex is the only thing on their mind... Link to comment
Circe Posted July 8, 2009 Share Posted July 8, 2009 how would you feel? what would you think about this? is it cheating? would you break up with them? Seren, do you really need to ask? To answer, I'd feel horrified and betrayed. I would consider it cheating and yes I'd break up with them. Seren, what happened to you over the years, that you started to think any of the above was an acceptable way for a partner to treat you? Say you had a daughter or a single mother or sister. If you heard their partner was acting like this what would you tell them? Set your standards high (when it comes to expecting loyalty, integrity, and honesty from a partner) because high is where your standards should be. If you don't set them high you'll find yourself in a really unhappy place with your self esteem in tatters. Link to comment
dreamwarrior Posted July 8, 2009 Share Posted July 8, 2009 I would never stand for this nonsense...run, get out of this relationship fast if that is what is going on...never be anyones second best...your depriving yourself of a person who is out there who will love you and only you...never sell yourself short. Bump up that self-esteem and say bubye ! Link to comment
civilservant Posted July 8, 2009 Share Posted July 8, 2009 It seems a little weird that you really need to ask the question, I think you know the answer. I'd be out of their really, really fast. Link to comment
odile Posted July 8, 2009 Share Posted July 8, 2009 Your partner says they know it would be wrong but they are very tempted and would most prbably cheat if they ever saw the ex. ^^That says it all. This partner is no partner of yours. You should walk, and like top bloke just said-- let them have the ex. You can definitely do better! Link to comment
seren Posted July 12, 2009 Author Share Posted July 12, 2009 do you think he never fully got over his ex? Link to comment
Thornbirds18 Posted July 13, 2009 Share Posted July 13, 2009 If I were you I would run away from him as soon as possible. Let him have his ex. Link to comment
ShootMePlz Posted July 13, 2009 Share Posted July 13, 2009 Bad sign and he doesn't love you. Just says the words that keep you with him. Knowing this why do you still hesitate??? Link to comment
tastytoothpaste Posted July 13, 2009 Share Posted July 13, 2009 This is one of those threads that I find so bizarre because there's absolutely zero way to defend the partner or to be on his side. Everyone's gonna tell you to run like hell, and so am I. Link to comment
MissBee09 Posted July 13, 2009 Share Posted July 13, 2009 Run Run as fast as you can! He obviously does not have you on his mind and WILL cheat if the opportunity arises. Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted July 13, 2009 Share Posted July 13, 2009 That would one of the easiest decisions of my life. Link to comment
lonelynflfan Posted July 14, 2009 Share Posted July 14, 2009 Uh the dude sounds like douche. I'd break it off..its definitely not fair to you and I guess its not fair to him since he still wants his ex. Link to comment
velvette Posted July 14, 2009 Share Posted July 14, 2009 how did you learn these things? did he actually TELL you? or did you read his msn convos? either way, he's ~just not that into you~ and you should go find someone who can be. Link to comment
oldenoughtoknow Posted July 14, 2009 Share Posted July 14, 2009 Seriously? And somehow you called him a partner...several times, as a matter of fact. I think you've become very adept at avoiding the obvious. I hate to break it to you, but you don't have a partner. You deserve so much more than this tool. Walk. Run. Crawl. Just leave. Link to comment
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