svc52 Posted April 23, 2009 Share Posted April 23, 2009 Whenever I talk to girls, I sometimes don't have interesting to say. When they start a conversation or if I do, we'd say "Hey! How are you? How are you doing?" etc and we're done. Also, whenever I meet a girl and talk to her saying "Nice ( ) you got there where did you buy that, or if I'm in a class "Do you know whats our homework or did you understand how to do this problem", I just can't have a conversation for more than 5 minutes. Its not that they dont want to talk to me, they do, but I have nothing interesting to say. I dont understand. Can anyone help me? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mutley Posted April 23, 2009 Share Posted April 23, 2009 Start developing a menu of questions to ask THEM. It's better if they do most of the talking. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
svc52 Posted April 23, 2009 Author Share Posted April 23, 2009 Whats there to ask questions? I dont want to ask so many questions that will ignore them. If I dont talk they don't talk either Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mutley Posted April 23, 2009 Share Posted April 23, 2009 You don't machine gun them with questions....you use them to get them to talk about themselves. You need to figure out some ice breakers. I'm sure there are plenty of guys here on ena that can give you pointers. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
svc52 Posted April 23, 2009 Author Share Posted April 23, 2009 Then how can I get them to talk about themselves? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BestScreenName Posted April 25, 2009 Share Posted April 25, 2009 I have this problem too. I can approach a girl and sound confident, but I run out of things to say way to damn fast. My converstations are usually like 10-20 seconds. One time I talked to this girl I was into for 5 minutes and I was so proud of myself lol. But I'm interested to see others opinions on this since I too suck at keeping a conversation alive. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
4dogs Posted April 26, 2009 Share Posted April 26, 2009 there is this girl i have been talking to and I let her talk so much that she eventually just said to me after about two hours "so you should talk about yourself!" Is that a sign of interest? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
svc52 Posted April 27, 2009 Author Share Posted April 27, 2009 I have this problem too. I can approach a girl and sound confident, but I run out of things to say way to damn fast. My converstations are usually like 10-20 seconds. One time I talked to this girl I was into for 5 minutes and I was so proud of myself lol. But I'm interested to see others opinions on this since I too suck at keeping a conversation alive. LOL I also feel proud of myself if I was talking to a girl for more than 5 minutes. But it soon fade away fast Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
svc52 Posted April 27, 2009 Author Share Posted April 27, 2009 there is this girl i have been talking to and I let her talk so much that she eventually just said to me after about two hours "so you should talk about yourself!" Is that a sign of interest? LOL there isnt much to say about myself. Thats the problem Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jet_palero Posted April 28, 2009 Share Posted April 28, 2009 LOL there isnt much to say about myself. Thats the problem so change that. believe me, you won't find yourself in chasing women. you have to find yourself on your own. do you not have any hobbies? (and video games *don't* count). i can sympathize somewhat, I've been there. its easy to get caught up in a few things you enjoy, especially when they're easy, forgiving, and don't require you to reach out and do things that scare you. but its only through challenging yourself that you will *find* yourself. want some advice? go skydiving. jumping out of a plane is a damn good way to get out of your box. and when someone asks you what you like to do for fun, skydiving is always a *win* answer. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
svc52 Posted May 5, 2009 Author Share Posted May 5, 2009 so change that. believe me, you won't find yourself in chasing women. you have to find yourself on your own. do you not have any hobbies? (and video games *don't* count). i can sympathize somewhat, I've been there. its easy to get caught up in a few things you enjoy, especially when they're easy, forgiving, and don't require you to reach out and do things that scare you. but its only through challenging yourself that you will *find* yourself. want some advice? go skydiving. jumping out of a plane is a damn good way to get out of your box. and when someone asks you what you like to do for fun, skydiving is always a *win* answer. I know but you dont talk about hobbies all the time when you talk to girls Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bartok Posted May 7, 2009 Share Posted May 7, 2009 I know but you dont talk about hobbies all the time when you talk to girls Well, what is there to talk about? Work? School? The news? Yeah, THOSE are real exciting. "Oh, I work in finance" "I'm studying fruit science" "Have you heard about swine flu and the economic problems?" Alternatively, you can talk about what you do for fun. "I surf." "I go rock climbing." "I DJ and play electric violin." Much more interesting. Basically, unless you're a secret agent or a member of a rock band, you'll need to fall back on your other hobbies for conversation topics. The news is depressing 98% of the time, so I just don't like talking about it to begin with. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
monkey123 Posted May 8, 2009 Share Posted May 8, 2009 I have this problem too, I think most guys do. Best advice I can give is come up with some good, non boring questions and really listen to what she says and try to branch off. here is an old post with good questions: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
svc52 Posted May 20, 2009 Author Share Posted May 20, 2009 I have this problem too, I think most guys do. Best advice I can give is come up with some good, non boring questions and really listen to what she says and try to branch off. here is an old post with good questions: ] Thank You that helps Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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