Kitz Posted March 11, 2009 Share Posted March 11, 2009 please help me, i never thought I would be one of those women! I now obsess over the fact I dont have big boobs. My boyfriend of a year made a passing comment that came out REALLY badly (which is too long a story to go into, but basically told me we'd have more sex if I had bigger breasts) a couple of months after we started going out but basically, he alerted me to the fact that I have small boobs. Before this, I had a healthy frame of mind - I'm a normal, REAL-woman 8C (same size as a 12B, but my back is smaller.. which is my problem, im tiny! I dont have the frame to support gigantic melons. lol.) and all those girls in magazines are, well, fake or the extremely rare genetically blessed. Since that comment I can not stop obsessing over the fact that I have small boobs. I stare at those girls in magazines and compare myself to them and I always make myself come out lesser. I have fought with my boyfriend about this a million times, i've made him feel horrible and I honestly think he genuienly wishes he'd never said anything. He says he loves me just the way he is... but I cant help thinking its probably just like how I love him just the way HE is, but I still wouldnt complain if he lost a bit of weight! I find myself thinking back to and fantasizing about my ex-boyfriend (who had to move accross the country for work), who I realised said it but in MUCH nicer ways such as "i love your boobs, its not like they're big or anything but they're so perky and cute." And then I wonder. Would he want me more if I had bigger boobs too? Do all guys just want big boobs? Every mans magazine in the world I see always defines a girl by her bra size and BIGGER IS ALWAYS BETTER!! Honestly, if I stay with my current boyfriend, I think i'll get implants, or i'll break up with him and find someone, like my ex, who didnt mind them. I never thought i'd be like this in a million years. I dont even know why I care so much. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Samedy Posted March 11, 2009 Share Posted March 11, 2009 Well if we are strictly speaking of breasts, then I actually don't like HUGE breasts. I prefer medium to small. But personality trumps all breast sizes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alezia Posted March 11, 2009 Share Posted March 11, 2009 I just realized Australia doesn't have the same bra measurements as we do =) I could perhaps understand that your size is not his preference (I don't have big boobs either), but not to the point where it affects your sex life. This is what concerns me the most. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sparkly Eyes Posted March 11, 2009 Share Posted March 11, 2009 actually I think most guys nowadays dont really care about boobs that much. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hanyou Posted March 11, 2009 Share Posted March 11, 2009 If it makes a difference, this one guy isn't attracted by a women's breast size, especially when it comes to a women I really care, let alone love... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
somethngwrng Posted March 11, 2009 Share Posted March 11, 2009 No. I've been attracted to girls with all different sizes of breasts. Bigger is usually a plus, but not always. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
90_hour_sleep Posted March 11, 2009 Share Posted March 11, 2009 i've always found a handful is just about right. i feel sorry for people who can't get past phsyical ''imperfections''. not a fan of the ''we'd have more sex if you had bigger boobs'' idea. shouldn't matter. we're not all like that. have you told him it bothered you? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Captain Cool Posted March 11, 2009 Share Posted March 11, 2009 I'm an ass man, myself... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ResonanceTheory Posted March 11, 2009 Share Posted March 11, 2009 ^^^ bump the last few guys I have been with loved my breasts and I barely fill a B cup (with padding). Look at it this way: you won't have the sag that women with larger breasts will have to deal with. Large breasts may be impressive for a few years of a woman's adult life, but time and gravity are not kind to them, and many girls that I know who are large in the chest find it hard on their back from carrying so much around. In a normal relationship based not only on sexual attraction but on love and respect, breast size should NOT have an effect on your sex life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sparkly Eyes Posted March 11, 2009 Share Posted March 11, 2009 ^^^ bump the last few guys I have been with loved my breasts and I barely fill a B cup (with padding). Look at it this way: you won't have the sag that women with larger breasts will have to deal with. Large breasts may be impressive for a few years of a woman's adult life, but time and gravity are not kind to them, and many girls that I know who are large in the chest find it hard on their back from carrying so much around. In a normal relationship based not only on sexual attraction but on love and respect, breast size should NOT have an effect on your sex life. even smaller breasted women will sag when they get older. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DN Posted March 11, 2009 Share Posted March 11, 2009 Is all guys want a big pair of boobs Look at couples around you at see how many men are with women with smaller breasts. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DaBladeRoden Posted March 11, 2009 Share Posted March 11, 2009 Some guys prefer smaller women, you just have to find one of those. They're not hard to find, they'll be the ones hitting on you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maroney555 Posted March 11, 2009 Share Posted March 11, 2009 My fiancee is actually a "butt man." All of his exes and women he's been with before me were practically flat. There are like three that actually had boobs, but I think I have the biggest lol. He said that he likes my butt mostly and my boobs are just an added bonus. But he has also mentioned that if my boobs were smaller he wouldn't care (this came up during a conversation about back problems and my desire to get a reduction). So to answer your question...NO, ALL men don't like HUGE boobs. I don't think many men like HUGE boobs actually. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bms85 Posted March 11, 2009 Share Posted March 11, 2009 To be honest I prefer small boobs. Anything past c and it starts being too much. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sky-Cherries Posted March 11, 2009 Share Posted March 11, 2009 I have VBH, and my breasts have ballooned from a 10B in 2005 to a 12JJ in 2009. I met my future fiance in Year 11 of school, and although we didn't start a sexual relationship until we were both well into our 3rd year of our relationship, he has always loved my breasts no matter what size they are. He marveled at the smooth way my breasts fit into his hands when I was a B cup, and now at a JJ cup, he marvels at the way he made a beanie out of one of the cups of my bra! I know it's not a huge help, but whenever I have body image issues, I Google 'flat chest' or 'ugly boobs', or a mix of all four. What comes up makes me feel sooo much better about looking like myself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JadedStar Posted March 11, 2009 Share Posted March 11, 2009 I now obsess over the fact I dont have big boobs. My boyfriend of a year made a passing comment that came out REALLY badly (which is too long a story to go into, but basically told me we'd have more sex if I had bigger breasts) a couple of months after we started going out but basically, he alerted me to the fact that I have small boobs. WOW! You dont need bigger breasts you need a more considerate boyfriend! I don't think i could stay with a guy who said that. It would eat away at me so much I don't think i'd be able to ever become aroused with him in the sack ever again. There are MANY men who don't mind a woman with a smaller chest. Plenty of them around. I am sure they will gawk at a woman in porn with a large chest if given the oppty but still are just fine and get aroused just fine wtih a woman with smaller cup size. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DaBladeRoden Posted March 11, 2009 Share Posted March 11, 2009 I hear there are men that even prefer smaller breasts (within this thread even!) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JadedStar Posted March 11, 2009 Share Posted March 11, 2009 I hear there are men that even prefer smaller breasts (within this thread even!) I have heard that from men off and on my whole life. I have a C cup and honestly have no desire for anything bigger. Due to my small frame even a C cup sometimes can be an annoyance as I enjoy a lot of athletic activities. Have to scrunch 'em down hard with a sports bra. Ouch. LOL Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
user1988 Posted March 11, 2009 Share Posted March 11, 2009 I don't know if all guys are like that but after I went on birth control my boobs got a lot bigger and my bf noticed and said he liked them which he never said before. Would he like me less if my breasts weren't as big? I don't think so, he's a plastic surgeon so if he didn't like them the way they were he would've wanted to fix them, lol. I think it takes more than big breasts to keep a man's interest, if he's just in it for that then he's too shallow and you should move on instead of dwelling on it. The last thing you want is plastic surgery to impress a guy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rose21 Posted March 11, 2009 Share Posted March 11, 2009 I used to be extremly self consious about my breasts. I used to be a 34-A and after started the B-control pill, I am now a 36-B and have gained no weight, so they look ALOT bigger on my frame since I do have a 24" waist. But I wouldn't sweat it. I used to be really paranoid and not let boys I dated take off my shirts and stuff because I was just SO insecure about it. I waited for the day where I would have enough money to buy breast implants. But when I met my boyfriend (been together a year) it was before the pill, so I was still very small. He said it wasnt a big deal to him at all, and he loved me all the same. Even when my boobs got bigger, it wasn't a big deal to him. He is MUCH more of an ass man. He LOVES mine. And I think alot of guys are like that too. When it comes down to it, even if some men DO perfer larger breasts, if they fall in love with a girl who doesn't have them, are they really going to complain? Look at it this way, if a guy turns you down because your boobs are too "small" then they arn't the guy you want to be with anyways! I thnk anything bigger then like a 36-C is too big, because then it just gets in the way of sex. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JadedStar Posted March 11, 2009 Share Posted March 11, 2009 I I thnk anything bigger then like a 36-C is too big, because then it just gets in the way of sex. Out of curiosity, how would you know that? I myself am not bigger than a 36 C, thus I would have no clue if that would impact a woman with larger breasts ability to have a great sex life. I can't say i have ever heard a woman with a larger chest say she can't have great sex because of them. Might give her back pain, but i have never heard it impacts her sex life in a negative manner. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
laisla Posted March 11, 2009 Share Posted March 11, 2009 if that's all they wanted then i would have never gotten any guys LOL Kitz i empathize with you on this subject, as i'm sure many women do. sometimes we are oversensitive to a comment and think that it shows a lacking in our bodies. that if we were to have this or that then we'd somehow be happier. there are people who are gorgeous in so many ways but still have insecurity issues. i think what your bf said in the moment was pretty rude...but since he is with you it seems he does love you and your body! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
laisla Posted March 11, 2009 Share Posted March 11, 2009 I thnk anything bigger then like a 36-C is too big, because then it just gets in the way of sex. do you have a 36 C ? if not then how could you say that. that's almost the same as saying "a 34A is too small". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sparkly Eyes Posted March 11, 2009 Share Posted March 11, 2009 No she is right, this is why me and my boy friend can never have sex Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sky-Cherries Posted March 11, 2009 Share Posted March 11, 2009 I thnk anything bigger then like a 36-C is too big, because then it just gets in the way of sex. I have sex about 4 times on an average night. Are you saying if I got them decreased, I could get MORE sex?!? do want...... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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