Hannah13 Posted September 17, 2008 Share Posted September 17, 2008 My ex and i broke up about a week--2 weeks ago. Since then, weve texted everyday, and seen each other twice. Both these times, weve had sex. And, by the looks of things..this isnt going to stop soon. Were both not talking about commitment..just going with the flow i guess. He knows that i want him back as my boyfriend; he broke up with me. Ive made this known very well, but for a few days havent pushed it...as he said he just cant be with me right now as my bf, which i understand. Weve been together for years..what is this?! FWB? just easing the pain? Im so confused...but i have to add, he isnt seeing anyone...or having sex with anyone as far as i know, and as far as his friends know(they told me) and he still has me up in his buddy profile for AIM, facebook is still set as in a relationship with me, and my picture is everywhere on there and myspace. Thoughts?? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bmwm3 Posted September 17, 2008 Share Posted September 17, 2008 Youre just dealying the pain.. and the eventuall break up... he is just using you.. he will never come back to you this way.. and slowly will start treating in a worse way... and eventualy start being with other women and you... losing total respect for you... its a viscous cycle that you are putting yourself thru.. you will start losing respect for yourself and self estem will fall.. and wonder why no guy wants you.. but you will always be around your ex.. because he wants you.. but only for sex... if you have feeling for him.. stop what you are doing... if you have no feeling for him. but enjoy the sex.. then ok have fun.. but it sounds like you have feeling and it will only get worse.. be stronger then this.. and find a guy that will appricate you and treat you with respect.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kiama Posted September 17, 2008 Share Posted September 17, 2008 Be careful Point is it all may be a hush hush thing, a private thing, but the truth is, hes a single man, and he is free to do what single men do. He could be sleeping with anyone, as well as you. That is how diseases spread. Not lecturing but im just saying, you dont want to end up with a life threatening disease just because you were so blinded by love, do you? Think long and hard about this - do you really want to be just a play-toy? I know its hard it sucks and it sucks and it sucks. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HeartGoesOn Posted September 17, 2008 Share Posted September 17, 2008 He can't be with you right now, but he has no problem having sex with you. Why are you allowing yourself to be used? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
leo_s84 Posted September 17, 2008 Share Posted September 17, 2008 Don't do it, i did this with my latest ex. It will prolong your pain Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hannah13 Posted September 17, 2008 Author Share Posted September 17, 2008 thanks guys, i guess this confirmed what i was thinking. Not sure how im going to proceed with it, but i know what the RIGHT decision is now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sarati Posted September 17, 2008 Share Posted September 17, 2008 Cease all contact, and don't allow yourself to be used. Your ex is having his cake and eating it, too. He is using you and don't for one moment believe sex = love because it doesn't. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kahdeksan Posted September 17, 2008 Share Posted September 17, 2008 Oh dear... I'll keep this short... keeping a vibrator next to your bed when you're in "need" would suffice more in the long run for you then this FWB situation you have happening with your ex. This pain you're prolonging will eventually start eating at your conscience and you'll start questioning yourself and your loyalty when the opportunity for possible love mates come along, in which case you'll just pass on them thinking your chances with your ex will bear fruit. When in reality they never will because he has all the benefits he wants without the commitments. You're worth more that how he has you cornered... this is now "your" time, this is now all about you! There is no "us" there is only "him, him and him". This he knows and loving it! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Caterina Posted September 17, 2008 Share Posted September 17, 2008 When someone breaks it off-- no matter how hard, you can't be physically intimate. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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