thouse Posted September 11, 2008 Share Posted September 11, 2008 And it's not like him!!!! We broke up last year and we have gotten back together. Now he does all the things I have wanted him to do and it seems weird. Like last night he called me and said " I just wanted to tell you I love you and that I was thinking about you" Or in our previous relationship I would always be the one to call or text. Now he either calls or texts everyday. Not that I don't love the attention I really do, but I guess I kind of want to know what it means?? He's really macho and alpha male like so for him to send me a text saying "he hopes I have a good day, and I love you" (which he did in the beginning of the week) is a big deal. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted September 11, 2008 Share Posted September 11, 2008 omg. a guy sends some love and you have to question it? uhhhh Link to comment
metrogirl Posted September 11, 2008 Share Posted September 11, 2008 omg. a guy sends some love and you have to question it? uhhhh Probably because she's not accustomed to seeing him in this light. Link to comment
starlight40 Posted September 11, 2008 Share Posted September 11, 2008 Sorry to be cynical but how long have you guys been back together? Link to comment
CoCo2009 Posted September 11, 2008 Share Posted September 11, 2008 I wish I had this problem. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted September 11, 2008 Share Posted September 11, 2008 he's changed. believe it. Link to comment
starlight40 Posted September 11, 2008 Share Posted September 11, 2008 he's changed. believe it. What if hes just on his best behaviour? Link to comment
ghost69 Posted September 11, 2008 Share Posted September 11, 2008 What if hes just on his best behaviour? then why question it? live in the moment. enjoy it. i don't see the big deal. if he shifts out of this loving thing fast, question that. Link to comment
starlight40 Posted September 11, 2008 Share Posted September 11, 2008 then why question it? live in the moment. enjoy it. i don't see the big deal. if he shifts out of this loving thing fast, question that. Cos you get sucked back in then get hurt again Link to comment
bijoux27 Posted September 11, 2008 Share Posted September 11, 2008 I think it means he loves you?? Durrrr. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted September 11, 2008 Share Posted September 11, 2008 Cos you get sucked back in then get hurt again only if you allow yourself. Link to comment
starlight40 Posted September 11, 2008 Share Posted September 11, 2008 only if you allow yourself. How can you not when you think its what you want and theyre being so nice, sorry i probs shouldnt be writing in this thread tonight im feeling pretty negative Link to comment
ghost69 Posted September 11, 2008 Share Posted September 11, 2008 How can you not when you think its what you want and theyre being so nice, sorry i probs shouldnt be writing in this thread tonight im feeling pretty negative take it for what it is at face value. if it changes, question that. i never said put your heart out on a plate to get smashed. take it as it is and let him be what he is now. Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted September 11, 2008 Share Posted September 11, 2008 How long you been back together? Either he's cheating (don't freak out, just from what I hear some men get more loving and attentive out of guilt) OR (more likely, I think) he realized he was a douche and took you for granted last time and learned his lesson while you were apart and doesn't wanna lose you again.. Just roll with it. Does he seem phony? Link to comment
starlight40 Posted September 11, 2008 Share Posted September 11, 2008 take it for what it is at face value. if it changes, question that. i never said put your heart out on a plate to get smashed. take it as it is and let him be what he is now. Again, how can you not put your heart on a plate when youve got back together cos its what you want and want it to work, you gotta give it your all, right? Link to comment
ImThatGirl Posted September 11, 2008 Share Posted September 11, 2008 Again, how can you not put your heart on a plate when youve got back together cos its what you want and want it to work, you gotta give it your all, right? Absolutely not.... take things slow... see if he follows through and continues. Link to comment
SapphireNoir10 Posted September 11, 2008 Share Posted September 11, 2008 Just enjoy it, your a lucky gal Link to comment
JadedStar Posted September 11, 2008 Share Posted September 11, 2008 I just hope he can sustain it. I have seen a lot of couples break up and get back together and the one that needed to do some changing does do some drastic change in the beginning, but as time wears on the old habits come back. I hope he keeps up the new him but if i were you i woulld not fully believe it will be permanent until six months to a year has passed and i see he can sustain it. i am ont saying to be negative to him right now while it is happening but don't let yourself be lulled into a false sense of security. Even tho you were together awhile, you just got back together so its like a new relationship for the moment where things are still a bit rosey. Once some time has passed you will know if this is going to last or not. With my first marriage we split and got back together numerous times, and each time we got back together the first six months or so he was pretty much perfect, it took about six months for status quo to sink in and things went back to the way they were prior. Link to comment
starlight40 Posted September 11, 2008 Share Posted September 11, 2008 This is what im getting at^^ Link to comment
chasey Posted September 11, 2008 Share Posted September 11, 2008 (more likely, I think) he realized he was a douche and took you for granted last time and learned his lesson while you were apart and doesn't wanna lose you again.. Just a thought...if this is the case then you wandering why he's being so loving (he very well could sense the wander) may cause him to change his behaviour thinking you don't appreciate his lovey dovey ways. Enjoy it. You're a lucky girl. Link to comment
thouse Posted September 11, 2008 Author Share Posted September 11, 2008 Probably because she's not accustomed to seeing him in this light. This is exactly why I question it, we have been dating on and off for 5 years and he has never acted like this. Link to comment
thouse Posted September 11, 2008 Author Share Posted September 11, 2008 How long you been back together? Either he's cheating (don't freak out, just from what I hear some men get more loving and attentive out of guilt) OR (more likely, I think) he realized he was a douche and took you for granted last time and learned his lesson while you were apart and doesn't wanna lose you again.. Just roll with it. Does he seem phony? We have been back together since about July. Link to comment
bmwm3 Posted September 11, 2008 Share Posted September 11, 2008 Maybe.. he is guilty of something... or he just relized what he has and doesnt wanna lose it.... Link to comment
ghost69 Posted September 11, 2008 Share Posted September 11, 2008 Again, how can you not put your heart on a plate when youve got back together cos its what you want and want it to work, you gotta give it your all, right? slowly though. i would NEVER just jump in with someone, new or old. Link to comment
BeStrongBeHappy Posted September 11, 2008 Share Posted September 11, 2008 Perhaps he's afraid if he's not loving you'll dump him again. Or any chance he's on drugs or drinking? I've also heard of in some long time couples where the guy starts cheating, he starts being extra lovey so she doesn't get suspicious and start checking up on him. Link to comment
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