After a "tiff" has anyoner ever felt...

[independantgal]

obviously upset, but if you carry anger along after that...that its actually appealing to not get into contact with them...make them wonder about your feelings towards them etc

 

Then if they actually decide to call you, not answering on purpose or not replying to a txt..just to make them feel that extra bit...bad?

 

I know this post sounds incredibly horrible...but I've noticed that sometimes...only with a guy though actually...that If I have a tiff with him (as long as I havent said anything offensive etc) that I actually like leaving him hanging and having him ask me to talk.

 

For some reason I feel all....

 

Is this human nature...or just me?!?! I feel kinda bad about it sometimes... guess its the same with guys when the girls trying to contact you too? yes? no?

[blackpanther]

The only thing is, after awhile, men will get sick of it and may start to resent you.

[independantgal]

Yeah well the last time I had one, which was ageeeessss and ages ago, i thought the exact same thing.

 

I always get into contact after a while...otherwise its a bit too mean.

[D_Lish]

It's the 'calm after the storm'....we all take time to calm down and we get back in touch and speak to them, when we are ready too.

 

I've done it, however I don't get a 'kick' out of doing it. I'm not picking up because I'm still angry/not ready to talk....doesn't take me long to come around however.

[Tethys]

Sure, it can work in a short-term relationship but is terrible behavior for a long-term, mutually loving relationship.

[independantgal]

yeah. Thinking about it more now it depends actually. Sometimes...I'll admit, I do get a "kick" out of it...depending on if the person really offended me or not.

 

Other times I just wont answer the phone for fear of what I'll say...if im still angry.

[Crazyaboutdogs]

Not good behaviour to continue. It will eventually backfire. It is also a sign of insecurity...people who want to show power over someone else are very insecure.

[independantgal]

Sure, it can work in a short-term relationship but is terrible behavior for a long-term, mutually loving relationship.

 

Wel I just meant in general really, and to the point where you could have been out and busy at the time, so wouldnt have been able to answer anyway.

Can't really resent you for that.

[independantgal]

Not good behaviour to continue. It will eventually backfire. It is also a sign of insecurity...people who want to show power over someone else are very insecure.

 

Fair point

 

Isn't there another issue though that if someone really offended you by the things they said, and now start contacting you that its more of a revenge thing? "If I don't answer you might feel as bad as I did that night"

[Tethys]

Wel I just meant in general really, and to the point where you could have been out and busy at the time, so wouldnt have been able to answer anyway.

Can't really resent you for that.

 

Hm, maybe you should elaborate? I am not sure what you mean.

[independantgal]

Hm, maybe you should elaborate? I am not sure what you mean.

 

um, well say if they tryed contacting you one night, and its late. You may choose not to answer, but could actually say you were out with friends.

 

They can't really resent you if they thought you couldnt answer.

[Tethys]

If someone contacts me too late, even if I happen to be out with friends, I may choose not to respond, and save it for the next day. He or she can't resent me for that if they called really late.

 

However, I don't condone game playing.