John Bendix Posted July 10, 2008 Share Posted July 10, 2008 whodathunk and Benga, Wwhere have you guys been? Good to see you post. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
livinginsbi Posted July 10, 2008 Share Posted July 10, 2008 My first ex, my rings and our mizpah coins are in my daughter's scrapbook, I want her to remember that he and I really did love each other at one time - it's really too bad he couldn't get away from his addictions, we were very good when he was straight. the second ex... scumbag sleezball that he was ( I find out 5 years TOO LATE) Our divorce was final on halloween, 1990, my first ex took all the kids out trick or treating, I went down to the river with my rings and marriage license and a lighter... burned the license and threw the rings into the dam. Yes, it did make me feel better. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PixelPusher Posted July 11, 2008 Share Posted July 11, 2008 I still have mine in a jewelry box in my dresser. I'm probably going to pawn it along with some old gold necklaces I haven't worn since high school. Buy something nice for myself with the little bit of cash they all might bring. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
imsoalive Posted July 12, 2008 Share Posted July 12, 2008 seemed to have misplaced while we packed to separate..ah well..not like she wears hers.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lucyintheskywithdiamonds Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 I stopped wearring mine when I felt disconnected to the promises made.Now I intend to sell it. zero regret. it is just a piece of gold, no emotional bound whatsoever. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blueeyedme Posted July 16, 2008 Share Posted July 16, 2008 Nine years later I still have it in a box somewhere. One of my daughters may want it someday. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aurian Posted July 25, 2008 Share Posted July 25, 2008 A friend of mine put her wedding ring on an eyehook and nailed it to a sapling in her backyard. Over the next few years while she healed, the tree grew around the ring. She says there is something comforting about knowing exactly where it is without ever having to look at it again. Love that idea. Wish I had heard of it 2 years ago! I still have it in a box with some other jewelry he gave me that I don`t want to wear anymore. I did try pawn it, but was offered only a few bucks for the gold. I didn`t though - someday I might want to melt down the gold and silver and make something with it, or repair other jewelry with it. Nobody will ever want the engagement ring though. My bf asked me what that ring in the box was and when I told him he burst out laughing. The diamond is the size of a molecule. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AtMyWitsEnd Posted July 27, 2008 Share Posted July 27, 2008 My husband dropped the D word on me this morning. When we separated last year, he went on a skydiving trip with the girl he was dating and threw his in the ocean. I still have mine. I wore it this week. Not anymore, though. Not after he told me he wanted a divorce this morning. I like the idea of selling it to have it melted down with a bunch of other old meaningless gold jewelry. I like the tree idea only I worry it might make the tree sick. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
surfjon Posted July 29, 2008 Share Posted July 29, 2008 I keep wanting to put mine on an old, unused surfboard I bought at like 15 YO, douse the whole thing with gasoline, and push it out into the ocean at sunset and watch it all burn......... One day I might actually do it...... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AutumnBorn Posted August 1, 2008 Share Posted August 1, 2008 It's in a jewelry box. I'll keep it for my daughter. Or wear it when I don't want to be bothered by anyone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
southerngirl Posted August 1, 2008 Share Posted August 1, 2008 I had been divorced about a year and was pissed off taht my ex didn't pay his child support like he should have. He still hasnt... Anyway I walked into a pawn shop and told them I wanted $105 dollars. His eyes about flew outa his head and he said was I sure. It was worth more than that. It really felt good to sell that nice ring for one weeks daycare. I sure could have got more but that was part of it. I bet he would have hated to know that I sold it for only 105. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CallingAllAngels Posted August 1, 2008 Share Posted August 1, 2008 I had been divorced about a year and was pissed off taht my ex didn't pay his child support like he should have. He still hasnt... Anyway I walked into a pawn shop and told them I wanted $105 dollars. His eyes about flew outa his head and he said was I sure. It was worth more than that. It really felt good to sell that nice ring for one weeks daycare. I sure could have got more but that was part of it. I bet he would have hated to know that I sold it for only 105. You go girl! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tigger67 Posted August 5, 2008 Share Posted August 5, 2008 Mine sits in a jewelry box on my dresser. I may look at it tomorrow as it would have been our 19th wedding anniversary. Also have her wedding dress in a bag in my closet. Just can't bring myself to get rid of them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
John Bendix Posted August 5, 2008 Share Posted August 5, 2008 Tigger, How are you? Having the anniversary letdown? The first one for me, I took hard. I took down a needlepoint that my mother made when we were married that had our names, and the date, etc. that was framed in my office. i cut it in half and sent it to her. Kind of signaled the end for me. The second just came and went with no reaction on my part. The anniversary I took the hardest was the year after I got served the divorce papers (day after X-mas) at my front door in front of the kids. She was still living there (when I got served without knowing she had an attorney) but she did not come home that night or call. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JadedStar Posted August 5, 2008 Share Posted August 5, 2008 I think my first one is in the original box in a drawer somewhere. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
surfjon Posted August 5, 2008 Share Posted August 5, 2008 Yeah Tigger...... I pulled mine out last Dec. 3rd and looked at it, it would have been 20 years, well I guess it actually was 20 years as our divorce wasn't final until May!! Over a year later and she still has dresses and coats in one of my spare closets. I've asked her if she wants them, and she says "maybe", but I can't bring myself to throw them out. The first few months, I'd go in there and throw my arms around them and bury my face in them because I could still smell her on them but the smell has long since faded as has my need to smell her perfume. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
benga Posted August 6, 2008 Share Posted August 6, 2008 Quite a popular thread Something I didn't mention in my earlier post. I took mine off a few months before we separated. Thinking back, I was miserable living with her as well and over the last few months of being together I was getting nothing from her as a wife.. But when she left I was gutted and did all the stuff I would typically cringe at doing now yes, admittedly, I was miserable in my marriage too.. She has the ring I put on her, and she has the ring she put on me as well.. What she's done with them, its anybody's guess. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scornandtorn Posted August 7, 2008 Share Posted August 7, 2008 Mine is still in a jewelry box next to the other one, from my first wife OF 15 years ago. I am sure my ex has traded hers in for the next one as I am sure they will marry at some point. Glad I could contribute in some fashion (((((((SARCASTIC))))))) ! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tina-rocks Posted August 11, 2008 Share Posted August 11, 2008 Hi, My husband is divorcing me next year. I found out 3 months ago he didn't love me anymore. I still wear my ring and am not sure I will ever get rid of it. I have some wonderful memories. It's just a shame they have been blighted by such a love lost. I guess when we do divorce I will have to take them off. Hurts but what can you do. Tina Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mutley Posted August 11, 2008 Share Posted August 11, 2008 I had to cut my ring off with a moto-tool. I'm lucky I didn't cut my finger off in the process. I still have the destroyed ring. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
a_far Posted February 3, 2009 Share Posted February 3, 2009 I pawned mine off. Didn't get very much for it but I didn't care...at all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
waveseer Posted February 3, 2009 Share Posted February 3, 2009 I stopped wearing my engagement ring, it was my grandmothers so I am keeping it in my family. Long ago I had the band and the ring made into one ring. Then I didn't like it because it was too clunky and turned it back into a solitaire. I have it stored in a safety deposit box in the vault at the bank. I was just thinking the other day that it will probably never be worn or sold even though it's a quality diamond. After I'm gone I won't care what happens to it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
web_surfing_supe Posted March 20, 2009 Share Posted March 20, 2009 After ten months without wearing the thing I found it in my kitchen junk drawer. I threw it in the garbage can. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MsCera Posted March 21, 2009 Share Posted March 21, 2009 It took a few months of thinking about it, but eventually I pawned it. Every now and then when I drive by the pawn shop I took it to I feel somewhat regretful. I know it was for the best though, because if I still had it I would be looking at it all the time and would be even harder to move on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
livinginsbi Posted March 21, 2009 Share Posted March 21, 2009 hmm.... this crossed my mind this past week... I looked at mine, which is still in the jewelery box... we separated last april... but I took it off a long time ago, as a symbol to him that I didn't feel married. It's a very nice ring.. I have no idea what I'll do with it... maybe one of my sons will want it? My daughter will not... as she and her step dad didn't get along so well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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