ghost69 Posted June 5, 2008 Share Posted June 5, 2008 you have some serious issues CD. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hockeyboy Posted June 5, 2008 Share Posted June 5, 2008 it's not really about the money, we all know that first dates can be unpredictable and not go well so why go through that on your birthday when you can deal with that the other days of the year? then postpone the date. just don't tell her your postponing for this reason, because i don't think that would do you any good. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hers Posted June 5, 2008 Share Posted June 5, 2008 it's not really about the money, we all know that first dates can be unpredictable and not go well so why go through that on your birthday when you can deal with that the other days of the year? WHATS THE BIG DEAL ABOUT YOUR BIRTHDAY THOUGH? It's just another day. Birthdays are special when you are a kid and that's when you get special privleges. You don't NEED to have a birthday where you don't spend money--it's just waht you want b/c you want to still be a child, which is how you're acting right now. It's just another day. Just another date. Seriously, CD, please answer this. WHAT ELSE ARE YOU GOING TO DO THAT DAY? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LanceVanceDance Posted June 5, 2008 Share Posted June 5, 2008 Yeah, just how old are you? Birthdays usually stop being such a big deal once you reach adulthood. Do you have other options for the day (going out with friends, etc.) or does cancelling the date mean you'll just be staying home? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ImThatGirl Posted June 5, 2008 Share Posted June 5, 2008 it's not really about the money, we all know that first dates can be unpredictable and not go well so why go through that on your birthday when you can deal with that the other days of the year?[/QUOTE] That's what I thought. Reschedule then. If it's going to save you stress and heartache just reschedule already. What are we going to do about this anxiety and pressure you put on your dating life? You gotta relax Man..... You play your cards right, and you could be casually dating and having much fun. Having experience to learn from - fun experiences instead of constant stress. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hers Posted June 5, 2008 Share Posted June 5, 2008 Yeah, just how old are you? Birthdays usually stop being such a big deal once you reach adulthood. If I remember correctly, he's 32...so going on 33? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ConfusedDater Posted June 5, 2008 Author Share Posted June 5, 2008 so has any guy on here went on a first date on their birthday?? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gratsy Posted June 5, 2008 Share Posted June 5, 2008 Look, you've been given a solution: JUST PICK ANOTHER DAY. If its that big of a deal for you, pick another stinking day. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hers Posted June 5, 2008 Share Posted June 5, 2008 so has any guy on here went on a first date on their birthday?? Does it matter? Do you really think you're completely alone in this situation? Don't you think you shoudl stop thinking so much? Answer my question--what else are you going to do that day? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Caterina Posted June 5, 2008 Share Posted June 5, 2008 You shouldn't take a girl out if you're getting this stressed. She probably has no clue about all of this and you're going to scare her if you demand that she pay because its your birthday. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hers Posted June 5, 2008 Share Posted June 5, 2008 You shouldn't take a girl out if you're getting this stressed. She probably has no clue about all of this and you're going to scare her if you demand that she pay because its your birthday. I agree. It's not about paying or that it's your bday. It's about the fact you aren't emotionally stable enough to date. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
free2Bme Posted June 5, 2008 Share Posted June 5, 2008 It's not a case of whether you should or shouldn't. It's whether you WANT to. You don't want to, so don't do it, simple! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ConfusedDater Posted June 5, 2008 Author Share Posted June 5, 2008 again, it's not so much about the money, just that we know that 1st dates can go wrong and I just don't want that to happen on my day. Again, it's not so much about the money, just the outcome. I think i will email her now Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LanceVanceDance Posted June 5, 2008 Share Posted June 5, 2008 I feel bad for the poor girl. Little did she know what she was getting herself into... If you really are 32-33 and if this is all about your birthday being "your day", then WOW. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ImThatGirl Posted June 5, 2008 Share Posted June 5, 2008 again, it's not so much about the money, just that we know that 1st dates can go wrong and I just don't want that to happen on my day. Again, it's not so much about the money, just the outcome. I think i will email her now Do it. Email her now! Not a big deal. Let us know how it goes... If she gets upset, there will be other people to get to know. It's not the end of the world! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gratsy Posted June 5, 2008 Share Posted June 5, 2008 Don't e-mail. Just call her and say its your birthday, you want a different day. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kuiks8 Posted June 5, 2008 Share Posted June 5, 2008 do you ever wonder if all these posts are some kind of joke?!? can someone actually be this obsessed with wanting to hear everyones opinions about absolutely everything they do...look at how heated he gets everyone...it would be pretty funny if it was all a big joke! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ghost69 Posted June 5, 2008 Share Posted June 5, 2008 so has any guy on here went on a first date on their birthday?? i have never gone on a date on my b-day. i went out and partied. i HAVE invited girls to come out with me and my buddies. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ConfusedDater Posted June 5, 2008 Author Share Posted June 5, 2008 do you ever wonder if all these posts are some kind of joke?!? can someone actually be this obsessed with wanting to hear everyones opinions about absolutely everything they do...look at how heated he gets everyone...it would be pretty funny if it was all a big joke! No it's just that this is my first time being able to talk about these things with someone. I can't discuss stuff like this with co-workers so I'm just glad this site exist. And everytime I post it's not for advice, I may just want to share my feelings about certain aspects of dating and start a discussion Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ImThatGirl Posted June 5, 2008 Share Posted June 5, 2008 do you ever wonder if all these posts are some kind of joke?!? can someone actually be this obsessed with wanting to hear everyones opinions about absolutely everything they do...look at how heated he gets everyone...it would be pretty funny if it was all a big joke! He definitely gets our attention..... I think CD just needs friends and advice though! ConfusedDater keep us posted! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suzanne1281 Posted June 5, 2008 Share Posted June 5, 2008 What's the big deal about paying for something on your birthday? And like someone above said, if she finds that out, she'll probably offer to buy you a drink or something. I know I would. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ghost69 Posted June 5, 2008 Share Posted June 5, 2008 well CD. you obviously agreed to the date. so it's YOUR fault. she has no idea when your b-day is. but still, why not go have a good time? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crazyaboutdogs Posted June 5, 2008 Share Posted June 5, 2008 do you ever wonder if all these posts are some kind of joke?!? can someone actually be this obsessed with wanting to hear everyones opinions about absolutely everything they do...look at how heated he gets everyone...it would be pretty funny if it was all a big joke! I like Confused Daters posts...they do indeed get people talking and discussing. The trials and tribulations of the minutae of dating adds a humorous spark to this forum...kind of like Seinfeld. Anyway, CD, I agree that first dates can be brutal...but at this stage, since you already set it up, I wouldn't recommend postponing it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ConfusedDater Posted June 5, 2008 Author Share Posted June 5, 2008 well CD. you obviously agreed to the date. so it's YOUR fault. she has no idea when your b-day is. but still, why not go have a good time? because if the date was not to go well on my 4-day weekend i would be STEAMED returning to work after having to experience a disappointing birthday weekend. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ImThatGirl Posted June 5, 2008 Share Posted June 5, 2008 I like Confused Daters posts...they do indeed get people talking and discussing. The trials and tribulations of the minutae of dating adds a humorous spark to this forum...kind of like Seinfeld. I second that! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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