ConfusedDater Posted May 27, 2008 Author Share Posted May 27, 2008 How would they know you like your job or not in order to get you a connection? Wouldn;t that involve having a conversation about it? But my point is women are not asking do men like their job so they can help them gget another one, they are asking so if he says YES, then will then say-"well are you working toward getting another one? and that's makes me respond in a way like-"WHO THE HELL ARE YOU MY CAREER COUNSELOR??-lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hers Posted May 27, 2008 Share Posted May 27, 2008 Well for me it's all about the picture, sorry. And how do u get a feel for someone over emaiL??? CONVERSATION! All about the picture? Fine. Then you'll get girls with no substance who don't know the correct questions to ask you. I bet you're one of those guys who responds to every ad/profile without reading it just b/c it has a picture. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hers Posted May 27, 2008 Share Posted May 27, 2008 But my point is women are not asking do men like their job so they can help them gget another one, they are asking so if he says YES, then will then say-"well are you working toward getting another one? and that's makes me respond in a way like-"WHO THE HELL ARE YOU MY CAREER COUNSELOR??-lol I'm going to boycott your threads. I think everyone should. There is no convincing you of anything and you drive me crazy b/c you are so hell bent on following your OWN advice on an ADVICE FORUM. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FuzzyKitten Posted May 27, 2008 Share Posted May 27, 2008 I can't even believe what I'm reading. To me, it is no wonder you are single. The only advice I have is to change your attitude and follow what 15 Stories High is saying to you. It's your only hope. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ConfusedDater Posted May 27, 2008 Author Share Posted May 27, 2008 CONVERSATION! All about the picture? Fine. Then you'll get girls with no substance who don't know the correct questions to ask you. I bet you're one of those guys who responds to every ad/profile without reading it just b/c it has a picture. Yeah I do and so do 90% of the people who use online dating sites Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hers Posted May 27, 2008 Share Posted May 27, 2008 Yeah I do and so do 90% of the people who use online dating sites Don't you think if you read the ads and profiles you may find out something about them first that wouldn't waste your time? LIke "Hm, this girl points out that she wants 17 kids and doesn't have a job and just wants a guy with money. HM BUT SHE'S CUTE! LET ME EMAIL HER! Oh wait, on the phone she asked me if I like my job. NEXT!" You're SO logical. KUDOS TO YOU! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ConfusedDater Posted May 27, 2008 Author Share Posted May 27, 2008 I'm going to boycott your threads. I think everyone should. There is no convincing you of anything and you drive me crazy b/c you are so hell bent on following your OWN advice on an ADVICE FORUM. I have taken advice I gotten from this board like-"Have a purpose for the phone call and not become chatty cathy. And to always maintain a light and fun conversation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
annie24 Posted May 27, 2008 Share Posted May 27, 2008 Well for me it's all about the picture, sorry. And how do u get a feel for someone over emaiL??? maybe this is why you aren't meeting good matches. you aren't picking girls for what you have in common with them, shared interests, etc.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ConfusedDater Posted May 27, 2008 Author Share Posted May 27, 2008 Don't you think if you read the ads and profiles you may find out something about them first that wouldn't waste your time? LIke "Hm, this girl points out that she wants 17 kids and doesn't have a job and just wants a guy with money. HM BUT SHE'S CUTE! LET ME EMAIL HER! Oh wait, on the phone she asked me if I like my job. NEXT!" You're SO logical. KUDOS TO YOU! My Steps to a Girl getting a reply from me 1.The Photo 2. The Profile If the photo is not pleasant looking I won't reply. If she gives off a negative vibe in your profile I won't respond. Who reads the profile first without seeing if they are attracted?? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hers Posted May 27, 2008 Share Posted May 27, 2008 You just contradicted yourself. You just said it's all about the photo. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ConfusedDater Posted May 27, 2008 Author Share Posted May 27, 2008 maybe this is why you aren't meeting good matches. you aren't picking girls for what you have in common with them, shared interests, etc.... It's the photo and the profile, I'm just saying I have to be attracted to her in order to read the profile. Just like girls do when they read men profiles Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
annie24 Posted May 27, 2008 Share Posted May 27, 2008 It's the photo and the profile, I'm just saying I have to be attracted to her in order to read the profile. Just like girls do when they read men profiles that's absolutely fine. of course you should like the photo. what are the 5 most important criteria that you are looking for in a woman? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ghost69 Posted May 27, 2008 Share Posted May 27, 2008 i still don't understand the 15+ page rant about someone asking about your job. i'm still about this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ConfusedDater Posted May 27, 2008 Author Share Posted May 27, 2008 that's absolutely fine. of course you should like the photo. what are the 5 most important criteria that you are looking for in a woman? Sense of Humor Intelligent Attractive Goal Oriented Openminded Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crazyaboutdogs Posted May 27, 2008 Share Posted May 27, 2008 Sense of Humor Intelligent Attractive Goal Oriented Openminded I believe it was Kevin on this forum who was talking about his friend who wanted to create a questionnaire for potential dates to complete in order to make sure they have certain criteria. In light of your response, there could be a questionnaire named the SIAGO Questionnaire (Sense of humour, Intelligent, Attractive, Goal Oriented, Open-minded) A series of questions would be designed in order to assess each of those criteria. I could see that questionnaire being included in Cosmopolitain Magazine and GQ!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ConfusedDater Posted May 27, 2008 Author Share Posted May 27, 2008 I believe it was Kevin on this forum who was talking about his friend who wanted to create a questionnaire for potential dates to complete in order to make sure they have certain criteria. In light of your response, there could be a questionnaire named the SIAGO Questionnaire (Sense of humour, Intelligent, Attractive, Goal Oriented, Open-minded) A series of questions would be designed in order to assess each of those criteria. I could see that questionnaire being included in Cosmopolitain Magazine and GQ!! Damm you gave me a idea for a screen name nd now it's too late. SIAGO-lol And just would have explained the meaning in the profile. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
15 Storeys High Posted May 27, 2008 Share Posted May 27, 2008 Sense of Humor Intelligent Attractive Goal Oriented Openminded You can't expect someone to be open minded when you're completely the opposite. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FuzzyKitten Posted May 27, 2008 Share Posted May 27, 2008 You can't expect someone to be open minded when you're completely the opposite. Exactly! I agree 100% with everything you've said so far. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thejigsup Posted May 27, 2008 Share Posted May 27, 2008 I, for one, will not boycott your threads. You are different, that's for sure, but that's not a crime. There is no written law saying you have to follow anyone's advice on here. Still, If you could lighten up a little, it would help you in so many ways. If that's just you, I am sure you will find someone who likes you for you and meets all of your requirements. It may take awhile, but it will happen. I get a feeling you are a very sensitive, caring, guy with a lot to offer. You just need to relax a little. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
annie24 Posted May 27, 2008 Share Posted May 27, 2008 Sense of Humor Intelligent Attractive Goal Oriented Openminded if she is goal oriented, that may be why she is asking you about your goal orientation also? doesn't that make sense then that a goal oriented woman would ask about yours and your 5-year plan? that's like saying i want an athletic guy, but get annoyed when he asks me how much i work out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ConfusedDater Posted May 27, 2008 Author Share Posted May 27, 2008 if she is goal oriented, that may be why she is asking you about your goal orientation also? doesn't that make sense then that a goal oriented woman would ask about yours and your 5-year plan? that's like saying i want an athletic guy, but get annoyed when he asks me how much i work out. It's nothing wrong with the question, i just don't want to hear it before a first date Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ghost69 Posted May 27, 2008 Share Posted May 27, 2008 It's nothing wrong with the question, i just don't want to hear it before a first date then stay off the phone, stay away from IM and email, and set up a date. keep the phone conversations simple. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lady00 Posted May 27, 2008 Share Posted May 27, 2008 then stay off the phone, stay away from IM and email, and set up a date. keep the phone conversations simple. I think this is a very important point. There's really no need to have conversations before the date. If you are attracted to someone, ask her out, keep the pre-date talk to a minimum and then see if you click on the date. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ConfusedDater Posted May 27, 2008 Author Share Posted May 27, 2008 I think this is a very important point. There's really no need to have conversations before the date. If you are attracted to someone, ask her out, keep the pre-date talk to a minimum and then see if you click on the date. And that's what I been doing and plan to call the girl and set up a 3rd date for this weekend and talk only for 5-10 min Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
drewciouS281 Posted May 27, 2008 Share Posted May 27, 2008 I think your overreacting just a tad. Ive had girls ask me that and i dont see anything wrong with it. She is just trying to get to know you but yes, keep it minimal so you two will have something to talk about. Maybe she is an observer type like me. Sometimes when i first meet someone ill observe thier actions and conversations to see if its someone i really wanna get to know or not. Just keep rollin with it. Who cares if its a memorial day weekend. You were the one in your jammies at home on a friday night of memorial day weekend. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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