Pat Payne Posted May 18, 2008 Share Posted May 18, 2008 I'm 29, have been on one date in my life, and have few close friends. For ther moment, I'm still living at home (mostly because I don't know if I could afford, on my salary, any halfway decent place here in Los Angeles), while I go out, I don't tend to go to too many "hotspots". I don't know how to meet people. A lot of my problems stem from very low self-confidence and self-esteem. I've never really had much in the way of self-love, outside of the fact that I'm proud of my writing skills. But outside of that, I feel unworthy or undeserving of happiness. And outside events when I do try to break out don't often help. Whenever I even just say "hi" to most people, I get a look which seems to say "what are you, a retard?" and perhaps a flat, "don't wanna be bothered" "hi" back. Every time I get that reaction, my self-esteem goes into a tailspin. I've had a few online relationships which ended abruptky when the woman I'd been coresponding with stopped responding out of the blue, making me wonder what kind of a louse I must have been to her. How do I get back some of this confidence? I'm at my wit's end. I just want to be happy with myself and confident enough to be able to approach people. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
now_better Posted May 19, 2008 Share Posted May 19, 2008 how about taking a night class on a topic that you've always wanted to learn more about, but haven't? or joining some kind of physicial fitness club (hiking clubs @ REI, triathlon training, surfing classes in santa monica, etc)? i can relate a lot to what you're saying. where do i meet people?!?! i'm taking a night class twice a week and people are friendlier than you imagine once you get to know them. i also look for volunteer work i'm interested and do that when i get a chance. you just got to keep throwing yourself out there and find your fit in life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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