NewPhillyGuy Posted April 14, 2008 Author Share Posted April 14, 2008 Hey guys.... She called me twice last night, the second time when I was falling asleep, and we talked for another hour. She mentioned a movie that I might like, and that she wants to bring it over my place next Saturday night for us to watch. It's only been 4 dates, quite a few phone conversations though, just one kiss, and I'm starting to feel myself developing a hint of feelings for this girl, and it's freaking me out. Batya was on point every time in telling me that I'm quick to move forward in this way, so I'm trying to think of ways to pull myself back and take a step back from this situation. I don't want to get wrapped up in someone and then suddenly find myself hurt. How do I do this? Maybe I should be spending more time with my guy friends to take my mind off of her....She will even email me at work most days just to say hi. It's not that I mind at all, but it contributes to the overall "getting sucked in" and I don't want to eventually get "spit out." I feel like my avatar...lol. It's like he's all excited, ready to jump and take that flight, but look at his plain face. He knows what the deal is going to be and that he's eventually going to "hit bottom" and it's probably gonna hurt...lol. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Batya33 Posted April 14, 2008 Share Posted April 14, 2008 It's a choice you make - you decide that you don't get "sucked in" because you are not passive. What I did in those situations was not respond to e-mails right away if they were just to chat (or phone calls) and I kept busy/distracted (and usually at that early stage I was going on dates with others, too). good luck! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NewPhillyGuy Posted April 14, 2008 Author Share Posted April 14, 2008 It's a choice you make - you decide that you don't get "sucked in" because you are not passive. What I did in those situations was not respond to e-mails right away if they were just to chat (or phone calls) and I kept busy/distracted (and usually at that early stage I was going on dates with others, too). good luck! yeah, I was thinking the same...need to date some other people too... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ghost69 Posted April 15, 2008 Share Posted April 15, 2008 personally i think you are dragging this out and not moving fast enough. i don't want you to hump her leg or anything, but make a move man. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spainman_88 Posted April 15, 2008 Share Posted April 15, 2008 Agreed there Ghost. I was initially questioning how you got to 3 dates without a kiss at all. I don't have a problem with that, but I've had cases where a girl though I didnt show enough interest after 1 or 2 dates where there was kissing. I couldn't imagine a case where I didnt kiss a girl and she still was willing to go on a 3rd date instead of thinking "This guy didn't act, he isnt interested at all." I've had cases with 2 dates, both with kissing, and the girl still not thinking I was interested enough. Its such a fine line as to what is enough/too much/too fast/too slow..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NewPhillyGuy Posted April 15, 2008 Author Share Posted April 15, 2008 personally i think you are dragging this out and not moving fast enough. i don't want you to hump her leg or anything, but make a move man. Aight, well, next date is going to be at my place to watch a movie. Ghost, you should be proud, brah! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ghost69 Posted April 15, 2008 Share Posted April 15, 2008 Aight, well, next date is going to be at my place to watch a movie. Ghost, you should be proud, brah! you said you were going to make me proud last date. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stella74 Posted April 15, 2008 Share Posted April 15, 2008 ^ He did! He kissed her on the last date. LOL Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ghost69 Posted April 15, 2008 Share Posted April 15, 2008 ^ He did! He kissed her on the last date. LOL he said make me proud though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stella74 Posted April 15, 2008 Share Posted April 15, 2008 Oh Ghost. LOL Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CallingAllAngels Posted April 15, 2008 Share Posted April 15, 2008 ^I think to make Ghost proud, you gotta slip her the tongue...lol ;-) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ghost69 Posted April 15, 2008 Share Posted April 15, 2008 ^^^i'd be more proud with more than that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CallingAllAngels Posted April 15, 2008 Share Posted April 15, 2008 ^^see, I get ghost...he always needs just a little less talk and a little more action LMAO ;-) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NewPhillyGuy Posted April 15, 2008 Author Share Posted April 15, 2008 he said make me proud though. LOLOL - I don't want to scare her off, dude. I'll keep you posted. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ghost69 Posted April 15, 2008 Share Posted April 15, 2008 LOLOL - I don't want to scare her off, dude. I'll keep you posted. what's there to be scared of? she has agreed to 3 dates thus far. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NewPhillyGuy Posted April 16, 2008 Author Share Posted April 16, 2008 what's there to be scared of? she has agreed to 3 dates thus far. True, and it was her idea to have a date at my place. I should tell you what she already said about the NEXT date lol. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ghost69 Posted April 16, 2008 Share Posted April 16, 2008 True, and it was her idea to have a date at my place. I should tell you what she already said about the NEXT date lol. and that would be?.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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