Hunny1607307342 Posted April 11, 2008 Share Posted April 11, 2008 really good on you for doing that, takes a lot of courage. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lovemeorleaveme00 Posted April 11, 2008 Share Posted April 11, 2008 Now she wont stop thinking about you!! One day she will decide what to do for her own good Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EyesOnThePrize Posted April 11, 2008 Share Posted April 11, 2008 Volksdad - I like your choice of actions. If it was me (and its not), I would let her resolve her relationship with the new bf before I had any real interaction with her. I would want to be a fresh choice for her (because I think if I didn't interact, she would have no certainty with me) and not just Plan B. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crazyaboutdogs Posted April 11, 2008 Share Posted April 11, 2008 She emailed me last night. "So, are we ok to go for a drink sometime now?" I'm not chasing. I responded: I've made it very clear how I feel about you. And you have a boyfriend that isn't me. It isn't fair to him, or to me, for us to be hanging out and going for drinks. You wanted to see where your relationship went, and I respect that. I hope it works out for you and I wish you the best of luck. Wonderful response!! Classy, mature and straight to the point. Now let her sit and stew! Bravo! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Volkslad Posted April 14, 2008 Author Share Posted April 14, 2008 Wonderful response!! Classy, mature and straight to the point. Now let her sit and stew! Bravo! Thanks for the input everyone. She won't sit and stew..she'll think it's time to fully move on. Which is for the best for both of us. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pumpkinmoon Posted April 14, 2008 Share Posted April 14, 2008 Wonderful response!! Classy, mature and straight to the point. Now let her sit and stew! Bravo! This is brilliant You should be proud of yourself, must have been hard to say those things to her but you did it! woo hoo Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Volkslad Posted April 18, 2008 Author Share Posted April 18, 2008 She's back..and I quote: It makes me mad that it is so nice out and we can't go sit on a patio. You said you would always be my friend no matter what. Why did you change your mind? Well it makes me mad that I have to say the same things over and over to her about why I won't be just her friend. Can she seriously not clue in that when she wanted to see where her new relationship went, that included taking a pass on our friendship? I think she is trying to shift blame here..I'm trying to be his friend, but he's being irrational...? Thoughts? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Addicus Posted April 18, 2008 Share Posted April 18, 2008 WOW..she is relentless!!! IF she wants you that much then she should think about that....stand your ground....I wouldn't even respond to the email. I think you have been very nice and very clear on what you want and I think that now she is not really respecting you and your needs! YOU are not irrational..totally sane, smart and doing the right thing. Don't let her suck you in! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hunny1607307342 Posted April 18, 2008 Share Posted April 18, 2008 Id say- yes we THOUGHT we would be friends but that was until you decided to see where your new relationship would go. I've made myself perfectly clear as to why i can't be friends and i really am tired of repeating the same reasons. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EyesOnThePrize Posted April 18, 2008 Share Posted April 18, 2008 Volksdad - I'm expecting a similar text from my ex at some point. I would like to respond "I am being your friend by not being a distraction in your new relationship", however I don't think she would get my sense. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Addicus Posted April 18, 2008 Share Posted April 18, 2008 Volksdad - I'm expecting a similar text from my ex at some point. I would like to respond "I am being your friend by not being a distraction in your new relationship", however I don't think she would get my sense. Good response eyes..I totally get your sense.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Volkslad Posted April 18, 2008 Author Share Posted April 18, 2008 She's back..and I quote: It makes me mad that it is so nice out and we can't go sit on a patio. You said you would always be my friend no matter what. Why did you change your mind? I responded, I said: We can have that discussion if you want She responded: yes please. I'm not responding back..we work in the same office so I assume she thought I would drop by her desk to chat..or to go for an after work drink. I left and am meeting friends for drinks. If she wants to talk about it so bad, she can track me down...good luck to her cause I'll be hiding! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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