kekep Posted February 8, 2008 Share Posted February 8, 2008 hi everyone, i started dating this guy in mid-january who just got out of a 3 year relationship. he ended things w/his girl 3 months ago. we've been on several dates (5-6) and i know he likes me...he always initiates contact, he's gotten me a couple of sweet thoughtful presents (nothing BIG but still...), we talk everyday over email/text/phone. it all feels like its moving a little quickly though...we slept together already, and like i said, we've only been dating for about 3 weeks. i guess i'm scared that he's rebounding from his last relationship and he's going to end up hurting me...i've never dated anyone who had just gotten out of a long-term relationship, so i'm not sure what the correct protocol is. anyway, i like him ALOT...he's very cool and we have a lot in common. and i'm already starting to get that feeling that i could potentially fall for the guy. i guess my question is, do i talk to him and tell him what i'm feeling, or should i just chill out and let things play out naturally. thanks in advance for any advice! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EQD Posted February 8, 2008 Share Posted February 8, 2008 i see nothing wrong with how things are going. i'd say just chill and go with it. You dont want to clutter the relationship with alot of questions and frills. have fun! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
darkpumpkin Posted February 8, 2008 Share Posted February 8, 2008 ^ I agree. I mean it's only been 3 weeks just enjoy the ride as it is right now. I wouldn't let myself fall head over heels for any man I've only been seeing for 3 weeks. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BeStrongBeHappy Posted February 8, 2008 Share Posted February 8, 2008 i know plenty of people who met their future spouse as a 'rebound', so i wouldn't let the stereotype itself scare you off. are you going too fast for you? i.e., would you be worried if you hadn't heard he'd just broken up with someone? i'd judge more by that. but it is true that there are some increased risks. a lot depends on whether he was the one who did the dumping. if he's in the mode where if she called and wanted it he'd go running back to her, then that is not good. i tried to find more information about the breakup and whether it was mutual, or he got dumped and still pines for her etc. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stambler Posted February 8, 2008 Share Posted February 8, 2008 How is he if you can't see him or call him? If he is Ok with it and doesn't act all "possesive", then I would say you are NOT a rebound. The easiest way to tell if you are a rebound is if your SO acts as if they can't get by without having 110% of you... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kekep Posted February 8, 2008 Author Share Posted February 8, 2008 How is he if you can't see him or call him? If he is Ok with it and doesn't act all "possesive", then I would say you are NOT a rebound. The easiest way to tell if you are a rebound is if your SO acts as if they can't get by without having 110% of you... I never thought of it that way...words of wisdom. Thanks! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ghost69 Posted February 8, 2008 Share Posted February 8, 2008 have fun, but try and keep your emotions guarded just in case. who knows? maybe this will be one of your greatest relationships ever. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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