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Its good she knows about that event.She will wonder why your not sad from losing her ! She doesnt have to know that your in pain.The less she knows about you the better it is.Just disappear from her.In time she will miss you and nostalgia will kick in.Hope she reacts to it.You get one shot at it, not two.
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She doesnt get it now does she ? Shes got a hard head...its good that you ignore her,its better for you.Keep up the good work.
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Something is wrong with all of us (dumpees).We've been told that we are worthless and kicked to the curb and we still chase the dumper ? We keep our hopes alive thinking the ex will come back with open arms after a while ! Maybe we all need a psychologist here. All that because another human doesnt want to share their life with us ? Any one can be replaced,even the President of the USA or the Pope.We loved our ex,the best way would be to tell them " hey, you didnt deserve me in the first place " and move on. By begging we give them power and joy,how sinister ! It is totaly true that its all in our minds to think they cant be replaced...we agree that their is someone else who will be a lot better than the ex ! Its not always because we are needy,its love we have for them.A brake-up is like mourning,we lost a loved one and they arent coming back ! We can always dream but for what ? NC is a tough cookie but a logical solution to that virus called " ex " ! Dont we all try to stay away from any kind of trouble ? Why would it be different with the ex ? Because we love them ? Moving on and forgething them is the only right solution for healing.Wasting time on them is wrong,life is too short.
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Almost 4 months,still thinking about her a bit too much to my liking.I miss her still..i wonder if its normal.I guess as long as i will tolerate it.Strange when you dont have control over your own mind,feels like that part doesnt belong to my body,its extra terrestrial.If my mind is my soul,my soul aint in tune with my body while im suffering.I feel like a child who is trying to walk for the first time.Im fit but i feel like im carrying a ton on my shoulders.I have the impression to be a cube in a world of circles.Nothing fits well at this time except my pants and shirts.I drive my car and it seems nothing looks the same any longer and the seat on my right is always empty.I know it might sound stupid, but it feels and looks like i have been trown into another world that is unknown to me.I'm a complete stranger here,just like i dont belong to it.She took half of me away and i cant recuperate it.By doing so she left me incomplete and totaly alone in darkness.Love might be extraordinary, but when you go whitout it so suddenly it leaves you on a free fall into the abyss.I'm a man who can take rejections,but this is so different.I didnt have a say in the matter,i didnt count in that decision even if it was my heart that was at stake.For her i will just fade away like smoke and will forget even my name at one point or another.Someone else has my other half in his arms...yes man do cry.First cry in the last 3 months.How cant she feel my pain and sorrow.I want to love again and i will.
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Now thats what i call selfish ! A week after the gift you gave her ! This is real sick ! You know what,most women will stick with the new guy even if they love and miss you ! Its when the flames die down with the new dude that they really think of the ex and sometimes regret their decision.The grass aint green anymore, but stained with sh1t !
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Take it slowly and maybe shes the one who will make you forget your ex.
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What goes around comes around...when her turn comes, i hope it will be twice the dosage i got.I gave a lot to that women,great job and all.But didnt mean anything,still treated me like sh*t.Cant get no respect anymore,not even from the ex.Whithout me she would still be folding towels in a department store with an income that will push her to shop at Wall Mart only. I hate women with no class.Shes nothing more than a scum bag to me,just thinking about her makes me sick to my stomach.I dumped her and april and took her back 3 weeks later.Stupid me.
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Thats my ex lol..yours too i would guess and all the others in here. They remind me of Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde.Im still so pissed at her... I will never forgive her, no matter what.No class at all.
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Your doing great,wait another 2 or 3 weeks,you will see a huge difference. Therapy will help you to get off the rut even faster,its good if you need it. Stay active and positive as much as you can.Always tell yourself YOU are more important than her.Love yourself first and all will be fine.i know ! She cant no longer hurt you if you respect NC.
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When you care for someone,soon or later these feelings will catch up ! We just cant stay busy 16 hours a day,so free time will do that.It would be great to forget someone you loved in a week,but its not reality.I still miss my ex after 4 months...but the intensity is lesser than the first month.Im sure in your situation your ex is feeling the same since it wasnt a bad break-up. It will be a roller coaster ride for the next 2 months at least.Staying a busy bee is the best way to deal with it.
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Excellent ! You didnt break NC.You're doing what needs to be done for YOU !
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Anything that reminds you of her you trow away..except the food of course.Trow away or hide it for a lonnnngggg time.What you feel is normal,like most of us here.For me i trew away even the birthday cards,xmas and gifts.They just remind us of the pain...i dont even have a picture of her ! The past has to be erased...physically and emotionally.The way you feel now is going to stick with you for a good month.I did it up to four months now,so if i can do it..so can you or anyone else for that matter.Just hang on.
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If hes not crawling hard core you do nothing ! Simple enough...but can you do it ? i dont think so. You're wrapped around his litle finger and he knows it.
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Only 8 days of NC and you're doing great ! Also good that you dont keep any hope about the ex showing up one way or the other.I can imagine a women glaring at me,i would simply say " want to talk about it " ? The answer would probably be no.The eyes says a lot about someone,they are the mirror of the soul.Its good to know that soon or later, we will love again.
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I can see your doing better...thats good ! Fresh air is good when you meet a new women huh ! A new way to communicate,a new smell and personality ! Then you start to see their is another day after the ex.Time to enjoy life again after a short stay in hell !
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When a women dumps a man and she still loves him,attached to him and want to stay in touch...its a huge advantage ! Doesnt happen to often.The time apart from each other will tend to make the dumper miss the x.After a few weeks nostalgia kicks in.Love comes back stronger with a mixture of fear of losing the ex.They think about the situation,reevaluate none stop ! If you play your cards well,make her work hard to get you back,she will stick around after this.Take her to fast and shes gone a month after.Humans are like that.."they really want what they thought they had but no longer have it " ! Some will say its a game,but its not.Its like trying to get a new gf.Be your best,looking good and be intelligent.To keep the other one you must try to see if something was missing and solve it or it will happen again.Can ask yourself " did she had fun with me ? Was the sex very good ? Am i boring ? What does she likes that i dont give her ? Whats missing ? Enough time to think while on NC and make yourself better and create a new you for her to see and like.New haircut,new clothes and perfume.Women love that * * * * ,lol ! The gym is a big plus to make yourself attractive and heal better.Amen.
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Did you ever think that maybe their is someone else ? How can you tell her your getting better after a week ? She will think that you're mad ? Arent you ? I would ! Who cares what she thinks now ! SHE DUMPED YOU ! That means you are free to do what you want,she gave you a free ticket to do so ! You cant agree with her about NC ! Shes not hurting like you right now ! She wants her freedom,fine give it to her,thats a nice gesture ! You want her to know your not mad,write a short letter that says " i need time alone to heal, good luck to you in you're new endeaviour and i send you all my love.! Nothing else ! The way things are going,she tells you shes going to shop around and for you,well.. just wait for me,I MIGHT come back ! I want to tell you to use reverse psychology ! Dont do what she wants,do the opposite ! Women are more sensitive and emotional than man...use it in your advantage ! Do what she wants and your doomed.If she finds what she wants,your in the dumpster shortly after.You got one shot at this,not two.
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KVB10 Whatever you do, DONT let her control the situation or you will become her zombie ! She will use you as her safety net,do you want that ? Of course not ! She wants you to be there in case it doesnt go the way she wanted.From now on you're better to ignore her.She writes,she emails,she calls,YOU DO NOT answer her ! If your easy to reach your a dead man ! Now she has to know and learn that you will not be easy to get back,big time ! Erase her from your pc,no snooping around at all.All she has to reach you with is your phone.you dont answer ever,just listen to the messages.If its not about reconciliation you ignore them and erase them.After a few weeks she will try hard to reach you.She will wonder why you dont keep in touch ! You have to let her know she broke your heart,this will do it !Shes curious,she wants to shop around,fine ! But she will find out the hard way, that their is a price tag attached to her decision ! Thats your only hope,blow this and your cooked for good,she will be gone for ever.If something happens and you're confused,come here for support.Im sure she still loves you since she wants to stay in contatc..but for you it will become a living hell,i mean it ! No garantees but it is the best way to go.She will chase you,watch and see.Dont be her doormat,simple as that. By keeping you on a leash its very selfish from her part.If she didnt have any love for you,you would know.Also shes not cruel or indifferent.Good sign for you,she still attached.Do this well and you should get good results.Good luck 2 u.
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Best way to go,its a wise move !
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Dont give up,you will climb that ladder just like most here will or already did.
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Knowing your story,i have no doubts or whatsoever.
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By my own experience,after a month thats when you start to regain confidence.I started to be human after those 4 weeks,i was a mess also.I had to force myself for everything i had to accomplish.Its very hard to lose the one you love,that only one in the world.And that ex lover doesnt care anymore,you feel totaly rejected...they become someone else and cruel at the same time.NC is great,keeps them away,they cant hurt you any longer,you can only inflict pain to yourself.Thats why its important to stay away from all those sites they use on the net.Why chase someone who excluded you ? After you gave your best shot,the logical thing to do is desappearing completely.After a while the ex will feel the need to contact the ex(most will do).NC gives a chance to turn the situation around to your own advantage and then you can decide what you want to do.Once the ex contacts you,your in control and the best way to handle its by NOT forgetting the pain they imposed on you.Rejecting them is the way to go and the dumper finally becomes the dumpee.If they dont crawl back,you ignore them permanently, if not you will be back here and at square one. End of story.
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Same here,she will never contact me and either will i.Since shes with another dude,shes gone for good.Nothing else to do but to keep on going and let life take me elsewhere.120 days in a week,i must admit i feel much better. I have a gf already,taking it slow.I still miss my ex,but what can we do ! She doesnt care anymore and either do i !
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Try to use liquids instead of a meal ,i did this for 1 week.You can find that at a grocery store or a pharmacy.That wont last long,i was eating better after two weeks.Just hang on,it will get better.And for your own sake,erase him from FB !!!! Stop having hope,wont do any good.Think mosty about yourself and f**** him ! He doesnt care,why should you ? Go out more often,dont stay in your apartment moping all day because it will bring you down.
