Well I guess to answer the questions pushed here ...
He is located in the UK, I am in the USA. I am not able to meet him due to financial reasons and I have made that clear, and I told him that if he doesn't come, I am starting to put a few dollars when I can away to get to him, but if he finds his way here first then so be it, I can fly the next round.
I have not talked to him via webcam, but I have inquired if it would be reasonable, but he still has not looked into that part of our conversations, even if we do have phone conversations all the time.
He does say it that he wants to meet me more than life .... I question it everyday since all of this on and off things has happened ... Is he who he says he is?? Can he afford it? Does he only want a realationship here? Is there another one in his life, for that could be the reason he isn't coming over. ... Yes with these type of questions, I guess I'm not sure where I stand in this relationship, so that is why I gave him the ultimatum, either NOW or NEVER. I feel horrible about it, but I NEED to know if I'm worth it, if I am who he wants to be with, I need to know if he is who he says he is, if everything I know is true.
Reading all of your replies makes me think ... and I have to thank you all, as it's given me the perspective that I needed, even if I knew it all along ... I actually have to admit I think I tried to deny it.
Thank you everyone for you help in this!