EvaGina

Eva/Gina - Tell me more about this person that you mentioned above.....

-shifty eyes-

why?

She was a mate of my ex's...

The thing is, you KNOW you will get over it...

My ex cheated on me, in front of my face, he did a whole lot worse to me as well, and when I saw him a few weeks back, with the mother of his child (who he cheated on me with, got pregnant when she was 16 and then cheated on her) all I felt was sorry for her

I was pathetic, not tough like you So You will do fine

I hope you stick around and get to know our little community

I thought about it, but why then I figure why should I make sacrifices, when I didn't do anything wrong. I was true to him, yet he wasn't to me. Im kinda surprised that I haven't cried, my stomach is tore up, but Im not doing all that bad. I mean Ive even visualized this girl in his bed with him, b/c im sure she will be staying over tonight. But for some reason, while it sucks, its not unbareable. I kinda hope he calls just so I can ignore it, maybe in a sense its just justice. One of those things where you hope they will chase you, just so you can say no.

Yeah, I can totally, TOTALLY understand that

You need to be able to prove to yourself that you can say no, in order to gain strength, once you do it once, you know you can do it again.

Keep in mind that he would have done this before, so he will know when to contact you when you are at your weakest... be strong button

if he calls you can either hang up straight away/reject the call so it goes to answering service

or you can pick it up and just put the phone down so he's spending money...

at least the 2nd option will teach him not to call after a while

could you change your number?

I understand if its too much of a hassle

if he calls from a private number and you pick up accendentily

just say happily "oh, Ididnt realise it was you" and hang up.

You dont need to be polite about it... not nasty, just dont talk to him.

I know his type, took me years to get over mine, but then, I wasnt strong like you, I was a sucker and went back for more.

Im so proud of you, its so heartening when people are brave

Yeh - she had a few scams going on. She had managed to get some guy to sell her pot for her - he also looked after the plants - he just came around once a fortnight to drop off the money.

 

She was leading another guy on by flirting with him (this what she said) so he would come to her to buy pot. He actually wanted to be with her - and knew she had a boyfriend and wanted to buy pressies for her blah blah, she was happy to string him along though. I ended that. But when it all boils down - even though I really like her folks and kid - I just don't like her anymore.

this makes me sick...

Heres the thing about my ex...hes never been faithful to anyone. And for some reason I thought Id be different, but no I wasn't. I dont even think this is the first time, I just think this is the first time hes been caught. Hes twice divorced, cheated on both of them. His friends warned me, but he seemed so loving and great, I didn't listen. Now look where I am.

we ALL get sucked in my a con man(or woman) once or twice.

be thankfull you didnt fall pregnant or anything!!!

your not stupid for thinking it would be different with you, he treated you like a princess at the beginning, right? sweet talked you, made you feel special?

Its what he does, I suspect, he has had a lot of practice with it and you should really pity him for being such a pathetic, 2 dimensional person.

He doesn't have anything I cant live without, he can have it, Im sticking to this. Why would I ever want to be with someone who could this to me??? I know its going to be tough, its almost like kicking a drug habit, hes a habit to me. Talking to him all day, and seeing him almost everyday. Now hes not going to be apart of my life. What sucks, is I dont understand how he can just go on with his life and be happy while I sit and be upset and hurt.

I know its cheesy,but its that song "I just dont know what to do with myself"...

You feel lost

People thrive on routine... and when its pulled out from under you like that...

gah, yes, I know this feeling well

does he have any of your stuff that you actually want back?

if there is nothing urgent I say just let him bin it.

I know how painfull it is sweetheart, how much it hurts that someone could treat you so thoughtlessly.

Im glad you are being strong perhaps take up a hobby? You could always START painting or writing... you are just doing it for you, so it doesnt matter if its terrible or anything...

A lot of people here know how you feel and will sympathise with you... I am sure that if you want to PM anyone who seems like someone you would want to talk to, they would be fine with it its what we are here for!!

Iknow that staying occupied is one of the biggest things, do you paint or write or anything?

TURN YOUR CELLPHONE OFF AND GIVE SOMEONE THE BATTERY TO HIDE

please

I have been in your position and you will only draw the pain out if you let him frell with your head

yes, they might be doing things that you used to do, but they deserve eachother, hes a cheating lowlife and shes a tart...

dont talk to him, he will try to get you to beg for him, please dont give him that satisfaction. "Well i will talk to you when I talk to you." what a pompus git...

My ex did that "tell me you dont want to be with me" "I dont want to be with you" then he went mental... he doesnt want to treat you well, he wants you crawling after him, pandering to his ego...

You are better than that, AND You know it...

get rid of your cellphone and see if you can stay at a mates house for a night or two

-hug-

You know you did the right thing, and of course its okay to hurt when your so is cheating on you... Hes not even a big enough man to tell you without your confrontation...

You dont need a boy like that, and you know it...

I dont understand why you are such a glutton for punishment.

You would really take someone back who obviously regards you as a second choice?

Im glad the OP asked her honestly and that he is choosing to have faith in her honesty

I am a bit reserved when talking about a new relationship, because my last one went very wrong.

oooh

I know that feeling

That much drama at 15? I didn't have "cheating drama" till I was 18.

lol

mine started at 12, but I wasnt the one cheating

I dont understand what the question in this thread is...

Its your money, I dont understand why you feel bad...

Your earnt it!

just send him an email "thanks for getting back with the money so soon, much appreciated"

somthing nice but not flowery... then go buy shoes!!

WHAT?

He tells you its ok? Its a guy thing?

Now, dont get me wrong, I have nothing against hookers, but he is married!!! he should be coming to YOU to relive the tension, not a call-girl!!!

what a pompus, pig headed swine!!!

DO NOT stand for it, his body may be his to give to whom he choosed, true, but your love is for someone who deserves it, but CHEATING ON YOU he has chosen to forefit your relationship...

If I was there I would have socked him in the kisser by now... what an unbelieveable PRAT?!!

Words cannot express how angry this made me... sorry about the ranting.

May I ask how old you guys are?

IF she is back with the ex (and this is going to sound reall harsh) it seems to me that you were her back-up, her rebound... that she never REALLY intended being serious with you, despite what she may have said.

I got RAH over the ex this weekend

I dno why, Im not normally bothered by ex's...

but I spoke to him about it last night and he asked "I dont have to get rid of my photos, right?" which was nice, that he didnt go "IM NOT GETTING RID OF THEM"... not that I would ever ask him too...

then I voiced my real fear (that he secretly compares me to her) and he looked like he was going to cry and said "dont EVER think that!!"

so yeah, Im glad I mentioned it, without being mean about it.

I will never meet her, seeing as she lives in the UK, but I dont know what i would do...

He making up for lost time

he can tell you how much he loves you through im

this is him showing you... between the sheets

it wasnt her ex, stop trying to blame someone for what is, simply, a relationship that didnt pan out.

he didnt force her to do anything she didnt want to do, perhaps you just werent as compatible as you thought.

so why shouldnt you have broken up with A if you are a lying cheater who doesnt even like him and he is better off being free to find someone that would treat him well?

I dont know what you are trying to say.

Did you cheat on A with B and now B doesnt want you and you ruined things with A and now you are single?

Well, thats what you get for cheating and using your bf as a back-up..

but people tend to respond to the kind of people they know and understand.

If you really wanted to find women who didnt act like that, then you would... but by now they are most likely your "type" due to conditioning.

If I was to say "all men are filthy cheating lying raping alcoholics, I know becuase I have dated them" then everyone would ge insulted, and for good reason.