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  1. CarnelianButterfly
    What do you mean? Dating with the friends around or something else?
  2. CarnelianButterfly
    I don't understand how that is a valid assumption. If women were put off by men being virgins, then there would be a whole lot of virgins running around. If someone (male or female) is put off by the virginity of the person in question, then the virgin should really consider the quality of the person they are thinking of having sex with.
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    I know very well what goes on in my head. I happen to resent men that feel they need to tear into a woman's personal workings because they don't like the fact they are not her choice as a significant other. Why does a woman need to justify each choice of man she comes accross? Why should it be explained? It is her personal and private choices that dictate how she feels. You do obviously do not fit some parameter of her ideals so you are relegated to the friend role. If you don't like it, move on, respect her choices. You want a process: I meet a guy We talk, he's nice, likable and not a bad guy to be around -> he's now an acquaintance (not a friend) We hang out more, talk more, I find other redeeming values in him, and might feel I can trust him to a degree -> he's now a friend (I mention trust because its a big part of friendship, if the person does not show the qualities that I find part of a good person (ie, honest, respectful, considerate) they are not my friends, they will remain acquaintances More discussion of deeper issues, trust expands, mutual care is felt, all the markers of a good person are there, the guy has the right characteristics (intelligence, modesty, creativity, wit, independence, personal responsibility, and many more), there needs to be chemistry: the very thing that makes us drawn into hours of conversation, desire. Above all else, care, deep rooted, feel it in your chest care, this is the little spark that becomes the fire of love. Lust is only a small part of the feelings, physical attraction is there, but it is only an iota of all the other emotions involved. Men that are friends but can't handle that position are pessimistic, they only see what the relationship for what it isn't. They don't see they have a good friend that does care for them, but not in the name of love. They don't respect the fact that someone considers them a friend.
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    Then her children should tell her who their friends are. She doesn't have the right to demand the names of any other persons children from their parents. If she was such a good mother she'd talk to her children more and find out who they play with.
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    It is not the responsibility of women to consider the emotions of every man that likes her. We are not obligated to return your affections nor want any other relationship than friendship. You say it is not possible for men and women to be friends, I say you're wrong. Its not possible for YOU to be friends with women, but there are many men in this world that don't feel every female that is nice to them is a possible date.
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    Please write this in ten foot letters and post it every day!
  7. CarnelianButterfly
    Its tricky, what works on one person can smell bad on another. Try out a few at the store and walk around with them on, then smell again. I like most Estee Lauder's scents.
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    It has nothing to do with her still seeing him as a man, he's not emasculated by her not liking him. She's probably annoyed he doesn't get with the program.
  10. CarnelianButterfly
    Do you want a conquest or a partner?
  11. CarnelianButterfly
    I think that I've read far too many posts by men complaining or showing how jilted they are of being friends and nothing more. They get stuck in a situation they don't like, but don't let the girl go and move on to a more fruitful relationship else where. To follow your analogy, would you only apply at a job that continued to not hire you and told you they wouldn't ever hire you?
  12. CarnelianButterfly
    My favorite quote: "You're unique, just like everybody else" I know he's special. The guys that think that they can wheedle into a relationship via being a friend are not special, they're deluded.
  13. CarnelianButterfly
    He's lacking the variable that makes him special. Every woman has something that she holds dear to her above all else. I know the man I adore is unique of all the men that I know like me.
  14. CarnelianButterfly
    Obviously if the guy is only a friend he doesn't. I like lots of guys, I may friend zoned them, but its not my fault or their fault. Just liking someone isn't loving them or wanting to spend a long term relationship with them.
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    My vibe isn't hidden. I keep my hair brush in a drawer, does that mean I'm hiding it?
  16. CarnelianButterfly
    A redux wouldn't be bad, I wouldn't have to wear sports bras that feel like corsets (corsets are for fun time not yoga).
  17. CarnelianButterfly
    You don't need her, you need to start taking care of yourself. Learn to take care of your own stress and learn how to calm yourself without needing another person. Try meditation, or get a massage. You don't need someone else to watch over you and kiss all the hurts better, you need to learn how to pick yourself up.
  18. CarnelianButterfly
    I have D boobs and I think they get in the way, even laying back they're too up front. I'd rather be closer to my guy than squashing the girls.
  19. CarnelianButterfly
    Would you really prefer they said to your face: I'm really not interested. You're not my type. Why are you even talking to me? Its a gentler way of blowing a guy off. If they told it to you like this, guys would be here posting "why are girls so mean?"
  20. CarnelianButterfly
    Don't look them up and down if they can see you. I've had guys do that and try to come on to me then. Its so unsmooth and sad... Just be friendly, don't say any stupid pick up lines, make eye contact, maybe buy her a drink. Ask questions and listen to the answer and ask more questions related to the answers.
  21. CarnelianButterfly
    No way! She doesn't need to know that.
  22. CarnelianButterfly
    Yeah I had the yeastie beasties and it made a mess, I had the itchy uncomfortable kind after I had been sick and taken antibiotics. Have you been on any medications lately, those can cause yeast infections.
  23. CarnelianButterfly
    I don't think I'd feel comfortable with my BF frequenting debaucheries. The whole basis sounds off. You need to weigh the issue: Parties: you'll have a few nights of fun, but no long term meaning or security in that there is some one that will be there when you need them. Respecting her wishes: you'll be keeping her happy and may have a chance to be with her for a good relationship, but you are not going to being single and you can't act like you're single, so you need to change.
  24. CarnelianButterfly
    Go to the doctor! It sounds like you've got something that need immediate attention. Does it burn when you go to the rest room?
  25. CarnelianButterfly
    Maybe it would be a good idea to ask for a copies of all the bills, you could say you'd like to keep better records for yourself. Then you'll see where all the expenses are from and know the amount you need to pay.
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