ElektraHere

hmmmm I wouldnt stand for it. First off if I found out someone cheated on me I wouldnt let that go with just a sorry. Secondly if he still is friends with her and she knows personal codes and such signify one thing to me.....He aint over the girl. He has his cake and is eating it too.Go with your gut instinct even if its something you dont want to do.

Is this how he talks? If I were to receive an email like this I would be perplexed too. One question if he has the need and wants for a large family and you already have two kids; do you really think its wise to continue this? Wouldnt it make it harder down the road?

Shaking and closing ones legs doesnt signify an orgasm. All women experience it different. I wouldnt worry about that if there is a problem or if she doesnt like it I am sure you would know.

Again I ask what is it that you have in common with this gal? You have alot of issues of who she is and who she hangs out with.

I am 26 and dying to know what the men think about this...not that I don't appreciate your responses ElektraHere. I just don't want to lose my faith in men. His statements have shaken me a bit, honestly.

Well they will probably say the same thing. There are some bad one as there are some good ones. YOU just have to be able to decipher the difference. Also if you put that much faith and credibility into 1 guy then you are going to be disappointed over and over. Its just his opinion just like it is yours, mine, or the other enotters.

Its part of the chase. The chase has run out of steam. So instead of saying he is not interested he just up and dissappears.

I dont care if he was President or King he cant speak for men at all. Thats just ludacris.

May I ask how old you are?

So this mid twenties guy speaks for all men of the world? I dont think so! Lets use common sense here, there are always the bad apples its just that you have to trust your instincts. If something is off about a guy then there probably is something up.

Could it be he was attracted to the chase at work. Now that he doesnt work there the "chase" is over. Some people love the excitement of office romances and crave that attention. He might have been one of those people unfortunately.

Your not going crazy you just need to move on from this fellow.

When my dad quit smoking he used lifesavers. I know when I quit the hardest part for me was driving. So if you have a straw or even lollipops it helps immensely.

Cigarettes are like a woobie and no one likes a bad woobie

Hey Congrats Brando. I too quit years ago and it can be a challange but its a habit. Habits CAN be broken. You can do it I believe you can

GOOOOOOOO BRANDOOOOOO!!!

Not to sound like Debbie Downer but if this "quirk" of his already bothers you. What do you think it will be like when he moves and is with you live and in person? I have found that guys with the "sense of humor" always have it and never let it go. It can be a little tiring when one is trying to be serious.

Aqua di Gio smells great. You should try L'eau Dissey can be found at Macys or Nordstrom.

My perfume pallete is all over the board. These I alternate each day.

DKNY - the green apple bottle

Burberry London

Lolita Lempika

V.S. Love Spell

I know. I like that stuff too. I have that and 'secret crush' by the same company. But Love Spell is so distinct, you can smell it from quite a ways, too.

 

Guys--what do you think of 'Beautiful'? What about 'Sunflowers'? Do you'all even know the names of the smelly stuff you like?

I used to wear Beautiful in high school and Sunflowers right after. Ahhhh everytime I smell those it floods the memories back.

What actually do you have in common with this gal? It seems like you have alot of problems with her and the company she keeps.

Im sorry but to say that he knew you would find out is totally taking blame away from himself.

If I found out that information not so much the porn but the dating site I would be livid. I would feel betrayed and I would probably make him stay elsewhere. Not in the same house.

Email it then. That way if confronted you have an email confrontation rather than a live confrontation. Or just slowly fade off into the sunset. Let phone calls go and do short emails here and there with just a hello and hope all is well with you. With the little contact you give her eventually it will fade.

Gotta go with Bebe on this one Victoria Secret is always a winner. Especially Love Spell. YUMMM Smells soo good. Although somedays I forget to put my perfume on its just good old Downey that I smell.

Lady,

If and I say if this were to evolve into something what makes you think it would survive? This relationship has been built on betrayal, lies, and broken promises. I think that him not telling you he loves you is a GIANT red flag. You should be thinking of your husband right now. The one you made vows and promises to.

Head over heels in love? Perhaps its lust disguised as love. As to love is more of an action than a feeling. His actions speak clear to me he doesnt love you and like RayKay mentioned he may not love his wife either. He seems like an individual who has his cake and is eating it too.

You know when you play with fire inevitably you WILL get burned.

I think that it has changed alot. Back in the 50s, 60s, 70s, and 80s it was just part of "growing up." Men arent "obligated" to marry anymore and so they are enjoying their bachelorhood. Its tough I know I am in that same boat.

Although like I said before it is like a self fullfilling prophecy you believe you wont marry chances are you wont.

Crunches, crunches, crunches, and oh yes crunches

Hey Sister I feel your pain. I just turned 34 but I do have hope that I will marry and have children. Have you ever heard of self fullfilling prophecy? If you think it then ultimately it could happen. Think positively and don't look for it. When you stop looking *poof* it happens.

I agree with Sally. I think this is a HUGE step for a person to make when they have never met in person. I understand your plight but this guy is basically giving up everything for you. Be happy with that notion.

Hmmm. I have been told Im striking and beautiful.

Cute a few times but I don't see myself as cute. Cute to me is someone who is petite and bubbly like Katie Couric. I however am 6'0" tall and not as bubbly as someone who is cute.

I believe cute, beautiful, and striking are attitudes that can affect the physical.

I would say

cute = Katie Couric

beautiful/striking = Angelina Jolie (not saying I look like AJ but I do have her lips)