I feel like you think I made demands, and I did not. I asked him to respect how I feel and set my own boundary on what I will accept, and I ASKed him to limit the talks unless they are about his children not that he could NEVER talk about other things. Like the other day he had the grands and we had something to do so he was going to call his son to ask the Ex. could she get them and he would pick them up when he was done and I told him to just call her then I asked him was he doing it that way because of me? He said No. He would NEVER let me control him but sometimes people don't get it until you point it out to them Kinda how you are pointing this out to me. I NEVER even thought of this as controlling until now and you may be right. Please believe me when I say I am not being argumentative right now because I truly want to understand and maybe open myself up to somethings that I need to work on. Soooo you feel like a person should just say how they feel about things in general and not ask their partner to change anything? I hope you take this the way I mean it because I truly don't understand why I shouldn't ask him to change something. Like he has asked me to change things and I have because it makes him uncomfortable. I think compromise is a part of every relationship, control is imposing my will on him