John Maser

My cat likes her, which is probably a good sign. Usually, when someone unfamiliar comes over, she hides somewhere and shakes with fear, and even after they leave, she stays like that for several hours. She never got used to my grandmother, who visits often. But with this girl, she comes out, purrs, lets her pet her, licks her hair, and plays with her. But as I said, I’m not interested in a relationship, at least not until next year. According to her, her boyfriend doesn’t know how to fight, while I can hold my own—I used to do boxing. He just sits and plays video games all day.

I recently got out of a long-term relationship, and I haven’t tried dating anyone since. But I’ve been going to nightclubs, and a couple of times, I left with a girl. I’m not looking for anything serious right now. In a couple of months, my friends and I are going on vacation, where we plan to party, go to events, and meet girls. After that, I might start looking for a decent girlfriend. This girl is a great fit for me right now, but since I’m inexperienced with this kind of relationship, I don’t want to annoy her with too much attention or make her think I see her as just a hookup and that I’m only interested in her for that. There’s probably some balance needed here.

I don’t see a problem with it. As I said, if she wouldn’t sleep with me, she’d sleep with someone else, and she’d still be cheating on her boyfriend. So, it’s better that it’s with me. Besides, I wouldn’t say I feel sorry for that guy. If he were a good guy who treated her well, maybe I wouldn’t get involved with her sexually. She’s shown me the messages he sends her and their arguments. It’s clear abuse. It’s a mystery to me why she tolerates it; she probably doesn’t tell the whole story.

I meant that I’ve always dreamed of a girl with whom everything aligns perfectly in terms of hobbies and interests, and with her, it’s 100% like that. However, the fact that she has a boyfriend changes the situation, so I don’t want a serious relationship with her. I just thought that if she wouldn’t sleep with me, she will definitely cheat on her boyfriend with someone else. So, it’s better if I’m happy. She told me that she’s been trying to find someone on the side for a long time, but it never worked out; something always went wrong. With me, she’s only followed through to the end. Maybe she’s lying, maybe not. It doesn’t really bother me. But the sex with her is amazing, probably the best in my life. I’d like it to last longer.

Hi everyone, I need some advice. I think I'm going to get scolded, and I think I deserve it. And sorry for my English, it's not my native language. I asked ChatGPT to translate this. So, here's the situation: two weeks ago, a girl followed me on Instagram. I checked out her photos, and she seemed really beautiful to me. I immediately messaged her to find out how she ended up on my humble page. We started a conversation that was going well. I decided to ask her out on a date. She read the invitation but didn’t reply. After waiting a few hours, I messaged her again, and here’s how the conversation went: Me: I see you’re at a loss for words and your fingers are paralyzed by such an enticing and unexpected proposal. 😁 Her: Yeah, something like that, it was just so sudden and all at once. Me: You talk like I just got down on one knee, offered you my hand, heart, and eternal devotion. Relax, I just asked you out on a date. It feels like I’m the first person to ever ask you out. I'm just a little straightforward and prefer face-to-face communication. I’m a pretty reasonable person in this regard. Her: I just live with my boyfriend, and our relationship is really bad. If you like straightforwardness. 😄 So now I’m in a dilemma. As the saying goes, I want to, but it’s risky. How do you like that kind of straightforwardness? 😄 I was a bit shocked by this turn of events, but I didn't end the conversation. She said that she and her boyfriend are constantly fighting, and she even sent me screenshots of their arguments. From those, it was clear that the guy is hysterical, always picking on minor things—he's an abuser. She mentioned that their fights got so bad that the neighbors had to call the police. I didn't understand why she didn't leave him. Her explanations didn't seem logical to me. We continued talking, and eventually, we started flirting. One thing led to another, and she agreed to come over to my place to drink some wine and smoke hookah. She hinted that she wanted more. She said she would tell her boyfriend that she was going to another city for work; she has a job where such an excuse could work. The next day, I messaged her to confirm if everything was still on, but she didn't reply. Then she blocked me. After a while, she unblocked me and apologized, saying that it wouldn't work out because her boyfriend didn't believe her and caused a scene. We chatted a bit, and then I went to sleep. I thought that was the end of it, but the next day she messaged me again, saying she had another big fight with him, slammed the door, and asked if my offer was still on the table. I picked her up and brought her to my place. We talked, drank wine, and she said that since her boyfriend keeps calling her a ***, maybe she should actually become one.Talked a bit more, then we started kissing, and I gave her a massage. After that, we had some amazing sex twice. And in the morning, one more time. Then I drove her back home since she needed to get ready for work. We continued talking, and she came over again, and we had sex once more. I'm not going to lie; I like this girl, but I'm not in love with her. We have a LOT in common. We both like the same things, have the same taste in computer games, fantasy books, the same taste in music, TV shows, and much more. And she's very beautiful, with a great body. She's the type of girl I've always dreamed of, if it weren't for this whole situation with her boyfriend. But she made it clear that she only wants a sexual relationship with me, and I'm okay with that; I wasn't looking for anything serious anyway. I don't look bad myself. I go to the gym, have muscles and abs, and my entire Instagram is full of travel photos. So, what do I want? Well, I definitely want to keep sleeping with her. But I'm inexperienced in such relationships. How should I communicate with this girl? How often? Should I text her and ask how her day was? Send her funny pictures I find on the internet? Sometimes we chat for a long time, but I constantly worry that I'm distracting her and maybe being a bit annoying, even though she always responds—sometimes quickly, sometimes it takes a while. I have this feeling that if she thinks I'm falling for her or becoming too clingy, she’ll end it. I don't want her to think that I want something more and then run away. As I said, I like her, but I don't want a relationship with her, and I don't want to take her away from her boyfriend either. I'm not a greedy person, but since she wants to keep everything secret, there's no need to take her to different places, buy gifts, or flowers. I only spend money on gas to drive her to and from my place. I don't mind spending money, but the fact that I don't have to is a huge plus.