My husband and I have been married for 10 years. We grew up together and we’re friends since grade school. We dated often on until he got another girl pregnant when we were in high school. His son Jacob is now 29 years old. His son‘s mother who I will call Lisa has been invited to all family functions small or large. I do not like her at all and I do not like to be around her, but I understand that she has a friendship with his family. The problem is Jacob constantly asks him to do things with Lisa. I find this so strange that at the age of 29 he is still asking his father to go on outings with him and his mom. It really bothers me and it causes fights between us. Ultimately, after arguing and getting very upset, my husband will make an excuse and not attend an event with Jacob and Lisa alone. However, it constantly comes up and I have anxiety about it. Now Jacob is going to be turning 30 in October and wants to plan a trip to Las Vegas with just him and his mom and dad. My husband is already saying he’s going to go. To make matters worse a few months ago Lisa asked my husband if he would ever want to get back together with her. She flirts with him and I don’t know what their text messages back-and-forth say to one another but I know she text him often. There’s no need for any of this given that her son is an adult. My husband is now telling me that I am wrong and that I shouldn’t have a problem with him going away with his ex-wife because it’s for his son. No tickets have been bought yet for the trip, but my husband has basically told me if I can’t except Lisa in my life that I shouldn’t be married to him. I feel like if he truly loves me, he would be able to set some boundaries with her and that I wouldn’t have to ask him to. I would love to hear, if anybody else has had experiences like this, how you handled it or any advice you may have for me.
